marilla Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Hello. I have posted this story before but not in detail. I will though today since i really need to give people the real picture and get some more answers. Thank you for reading this! I started to get to know this guy. Just starting. Then another woman hit on him and he ignored me for 2 weeks. After that he came back and started to make an effort to get to know me. He told me that they were just friends so i gave in. We would date casually a few times but i wasn't always agreeing to meeting him, i wasnt very decided and that was hurting him. Just as when things started to get better this same woman hit on him again. And again he changed. He was rude and insensitive. He gave up on me for some time only giving me some crumbs. I was hurt and told him so. After some time again he came back and wanting another chance. He really seemed to mean it this time. He really looked like he had feelings. I was not giving in for 2 months since i was not sure i could trust him. Finally i did. I started to make a real effort for us to get to know each other but he was rude and insensitive. I thought that he was was hurt since i took so long to give in to him again, and he probably was but guess what i found out again? She had hit on him again! After that i removed myself totally from these people. Guess what now? It seems that he gave her up realizing he made a mistake and he wants another chance!!!!!! What do i do now? should i give him a very small chance or cut him loose? Why is he back ? What do i do guys? i am really afraid to try again.
HVane Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 He's a jerk. Period. Yes, you should definitely start again...with a better guy Seriously, don't answer his calls. He does not have your best interests at heart.
irin Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 there's no point in giving time to people who continuously mistreat you. im sure there are guys who are much nicer out there.
phineas Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 You should of continued to ignore him after he blew you off. However, when you decided to give him another chance you shouldn't of done the same thing back to him. It's stooping to his level.
mortensorchid Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 CUT HIM LOOSE. He thinks he can do and say whatever he wants, enjoying the fact that you are interested enough, then he will dump you again for some other woman (whether or not it's the one mentioned here). He's probably doing this to other women as well, get you panting like a dog and then say "Sorry hon, this other thing just kind of happened and I'm going along with it." You can do better than him. You can do A LITTLE bit better than him. Move on.
Author marilla Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for your answers. Just one short question-Does the fact that he really feels remorse and the fact that he has given that woman up even though she was important to him so that he can be with me now, make me give him another chance? It is like he sacrificed something or not? I am sorry, i don't understand this story very well anymore. i don't feel well also. This story has put a lot of stress on me. Please please if you can advice me on this a bit more! Thank you
hiimgerman Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Please do not give in to him again!! He's like a pendulum, swinging between both parties. And we all know what happens to a pendulum in the end: it stops in the middle. Find someone you like and will treat you right!!
phineas Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 He's most likely remorseful that he can't play two women at once like he wanted to. Ignore him.
truth_seeker Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 What do i do now? should i give him a very small chance or cut him loose? Why is he back ? What do i do guys? i am really afraid to try again. No. You stay away from him. He's playing you and this other girl, and who knows how many others. He's back because the other one might have told him to take a hike, or he's bored with her. He has no respect for you. When he comes around again, tell him you met someone else and you're quite happy now.
Author marilla Posted June 6, 2012 Author Posted June 6, 2012 Thank you all for your answers..... He keeps trying you guys and i don't know what to do. He came very soon back after hurting me the 3rd time so could he be honest about giving her up for me ? Do you think he it truthful? The only other scenario i can think of is that he wanted to be friends with both of us and see which he liked better but i stayed away for a long time as i needed to free my head from that story. i don't know what to think as to how comes he is back ? And i don't know if i should let him back in my life. Please bear with me a bit on this confusing story. There was lack of communication many times so i can see how some things got really messed up. On the other hand i was really hurt and now so afraid and don't know what to believe anymore! Please help me!!!!!!!!!
FitChick Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 You're his backup girl when he can't find anyone better. However, you deserve some blame in this as well because you kept giving him mixed signals so you created the very scenario you feared. You will probably do this with any other man in the future until you sort yourself out.
Casablanca Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Like others have said, you're being used, cut all contact
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