How many guys would date a woman with kids?

[Sivok]

I did once. I probably won't do it again though. Legal court stuff and complaining about the father, having to watch/babysit the kid like it's my own (ofcourse they'll insist you'll never have to deal with the child when you're first dating but... that never happens). No ty

[kaylan]

Most of the girls I went to school with that were knocked up before graduation do not seem to have a problem with getting guys. Holding onto them seems to be an issue.

 

We are all pretty young though, 24. Hopefully that doesn't continue for them.

Oh plenty of guys would sex up a woman with kids. Dating her seriously is a whole 'nother story.

[thatone]

my gf has a teenage daughter. i'm 35 as is she. father isn't in the picture, they haven't spoken in ~8 years.

 

she was the first, i turned down others i met in my past if i found out there were kids. as you get older more and more people are divorced with kids so it's harder to avoid. in my 20s no i would not have.

[mtber75]

Not for me either...Like the other guy said, the thought of instant fatherhood really don't appeal to me. Unless you have kids yourself, a lot of men will not be inclined to take care of another man's child.

[Alma Mobley]

Most guys on these forums will tell you they won't date women with kids. That's the official LS story.

 

I think most men in their 20s won't date women with kids, but over time they are open to it (if still single or divorced). I don't think it's ever really seen as a plus unless the man in question has children of his own and wants to date someone in the same situation.

 

I was single into my mid-thirties and preferred not to date men with children, but I did not rule them out.

[veggirl]

IME, guys in their 20s are not all that interested in a girl with kids. Obviously they are still young guys and may not want the responsibility, the other thing is a single mom who is only like 26 or whatever...it's a red flag. It does imply poor choices, and the likelihood for a dramatic future. Older guys will obviously be more open to dating girls with kids, since the # w/o is probably not that huge.

 

As a girl--nope, would not date a guy with kids, period. I am 29, even in a few years in my 30s I can't imagine it. *IF* (big if) I ever have a kid with a guy, I want OUR kid to be a FIRST for us both. Also a big reason why I wouldn't date a guy who is divorced (that and the fact that I date guys right around my age...a 29 yr old divorced guy? Again, bad decisions most likely. No thanks).

[fortyninethousand322]

Depends. I'd imagine though a woman with kids would probably not want a relationship newbie like myself. So this really wouldn't be a problem.

[DjinnAgain]

I haven't found having a child to be a disadvantage.

[coltsfan1]

I have and it was the best and worst thing that ever happened to me. I would not advise someone to in their mid to late 20's to do it. I now feel like I wasted 4 years on nothing and I now have the baggage of deeply loving another mans child that I do not have the privilege to see, hug, read a book to or tuck into bed.

 

But I will say I am now in my early 30's and my choices are slim to meet a gal within 3 years of my age. I am more willing to date a gal in her mid 20's, and I think that woman are open to that. Plus I have a true baby face, as in I look almost 10 years younger than I am.

[g450]

Well I dated two women that had kids. In fact my Fiancee has three. One is living with us.

 

Now Im going to make myself sound like a hypocrit.

 

Fact is that even women with kids can at least get laid. All they have to do is go to a club somewhere and do the same thing that got them pregnant the first time, or second or third etc.

 

But honestly, If I had to do it over again I would avoid a single mother. Especially one whos kids all have different fathers. Only mother I would date if I had to do it again would be one with grown kids who were mature enough to make it on their own and dont live with Mommy.

 

There is just always too much drama with the exes and even xbfs. Not to mention that her kids are going to cost you money and take time away from her relationship with you. Her kids will always be number one and you will always take the back seat and wind up still paying for the ride.