barriob Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I just did something I shouldnt have done. I was onI :/ instagram and I was curious to find my ex. So I found him and saw his posts. Now, I feel sad and hurt.
geegirl Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I just did something I shouldnt have done. I was onI :/ instagram and I was curious to find my ex. So I found him and saw his posts. Now, I feel sad and hurt. You are your own worst enemy. For one year now you have been doing this. Absolutely no one can help you anymore. You can come here and post every day, week and month but nothing will change unless you change YOU. You seem to want to inflict pain on yourself. There are threads and threads, and posts and posts of the same thing over and over again and people have tirelessly tried to help you but you refuse, absolutely refuse to help yourself. What next Barrio? You're going to post in another few weeks that he reached out, you replied and he ignored for the 2875th time? Or are you going to start posting about changes you've made and what you've been doing to try and refocus and help yourself? Which is it because this same moaning and whining and playing the victim is not working anymore. You're not a victim anymore.
utterer of lies Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I just did something I shouldnt have done. I was onI :/ instagram and I was curious to find my ex. So I found him and saw his posts. Now, I feel sad and hurt. Did you learn something from this, or will you make the same mistake again?
Author barriob Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Ive learned to forget him. And I have been worki Mg out and eating healthy (: he hasnt bothered to twxt me so I shouldnt care
geegirl Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Ive learned to forget him. And I have been worki Mg out and eating healthy (: he hasnt bothered to twxt me so I shouldnt care If you have learned to forget him, you would not snoop and find information about him. And it has affected you so you have not forgotten him. Working out and eating healthy is not enough. It takes more than that to remove and detach yourself from an unhealthy situation. I'd love to give you the benefit of the doubt but the fact that you said he hasn't bothered to text so you shouldn't care is enough to tell me that if he did, you would.
Author barriob Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 I meant that I need ti learn to fotget him. and okay then what do I need to do??
geegirl Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 (edited) I meant that I need ti learn to fotget him. and okay then what do I need to do?? Go back and read all your threads and posts. Very valuable information and advice in there. You can't keep repeating the same mistakes, posting thread after thread and then asking what do you do now. You should be learning from your threads and being proactive in your own healing. For one, stop seeking him out. What you do not know will not hurt you. There is a thread about you asking what are your next steps and how to recover and posters gave you suggestions on how to move on and rebuild yourself. Read those threads and put effort into your healing. The only one that can help you now is you. No one else. Edited May 28, 2012 by geegirl
Author barriob Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 I know. :/ im just beyond hurt. How could he be so cold?? It hurts.
geegirl Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I know. :/ im just beyond hurt. How could he be so cold?? It hurts. He's not cold. He's told you many times he can't give you what you want. But you insist on forcing him to want you and love you. He's doing you a favor by not contacting you. And when he did, you chose to respond. That is your fault as well. You just don't see him not contacting you as a good thing because you still insist on him being the man you hope for when he clearly just cannot and does not want to be. You have to accept that reality. It's been a year, Barrio.
Author barriob Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 Yeah, I havent accepted that. I cant let go of what ge had. I feel like everything was left so unresolved.
geegirl Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Yeah, I havent accepted that. I cant let go of what ge had. I feel like everything was left so unresolved. Nothing was left unresolved. You feel that way because you want answers and you think answers will help you move on. It won't. All you need to know is that he does not want to be with you that way and that he has moved on. No matter what he has to say or doesn't have to say, the facts remain. It resolves itself when you finally accept that it is over.
Author barriob Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 Okay I understa.d. But I feel stupid. I was so nice to him and he just made me feel like he felt the se way. He dumped me and I was the one who had to look for hom. Im so tired of being sad over him.
geegirl Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Okay I understa.d. But I feel stupid. I was so nice to him and he just made me feel like he felt the se way. He dumped me and I was the one who had to look for hom. Im so tired of being sad over him. Even when he told you he didn't feel the same way, you kept chasing him. If you don't want to feel stupid anymore, learn from your mistakes and let this man go. If you're tired of being sad over him, then stop repeating your actions and start making different choices for yourself. There is no point going over the "buts" as it's been a year now and nothing, absolutely nothing has changed. 1
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