headsashed Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 This is just a vent really,since yesterday all the hurt has started to hit me,since the break up ive kept myself very busy,ive not stopped,probably why its starting to hit me now and god it hurts. Saturday night i went into town with my friends for a few drinks,to take my mind off the ex,i was doing ok until 1 of my so called friends started giving me it about my ex,i know he was only joking but i was out to enjoy myself and forget about my ex,this spoilt my night tbh. To make matters worse i had a message on facebook from my ex when i got home,now i was blocked on facebook so she obviousley unblocked me,she just said she hoped i had a good night out etc and that she was out that night. I didnt reply to her,i just went to bed,the next day there was another message saying i take it u aint talking to me,i do love u and miss u and hope we can be civil in time,.. I know i shouldnt have done this but i politely asked her to stop contacting me,its not fair on me,she replied with some nasty stuff,like telling me to get out of her life,wtf lol,ive not initiated any contact at all and ive ignored everything she has said to me. So,because im not brillaint with facebook i googled how to block someone,and i ended up blocking her name. I kept myself busy again all yesterday but when i got in last night it all started hitting me,so i went to bed but i dreamt loads about her grrr,so i was hurtin this morning. To rub salt into my wounds i was out with my dog earlier and whom did i see,the damn ex lol,typical huh,i know she looked over but i just put my head down and got out the way as quick as i can. As much as im hurting im happy its all hitting me so i can start to get over her now,i think its just been alot of anger thats kept me from hurting since the BU,plus the finality of it is sinking in,i dont think we will ever speak again and that is the best way. This was just a vent really and ye i know i shouldnt have messaged her back but i just thought if i ask her politely to stop contacting me then she will.
geegirl Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 i know i shouldnt have messaged her back but i just thought if i ask her politely to stop contacting me then she will. After your break-up, this woman barged into your apartment, walked into your home, sat at your computer and scanned through all content -- disrespecting your home, your personal space and your boundaries. So, you thought that asking her politely to stop contacting would mean something to her? The pattern has been the same since Day 1, she says sweet things, you decline and she attacks. And she did it again. She doesn't get the response she wants, she lashes at you. A few days go by, things calm down. She reaches out again sweetly, you say no, she attacks. Only recently, stated she wished that guy bashed your head in. It will not change. You left FB open as an avenue. If you didn't know how to block, you could have asked us or even your friends. But you left that one avenue open because your phone is not available for contact. And I said this a million times, DELETE AND DO NOT READ ANYTHING SHE SAYS, if and when she finds a way to get to you. But you chose to open and entertain her babble. That prompted you to respond. You reacted, yet again and you fed the monster. I thought you said you moved to another place and is further away from her. Didn't your parents get you a new place? If she's now coming around, put your dog in the car and go somewhere else for a walk or take another route. Don't be in places where you know she's scouting. You have to be proactive H. You block her from everything. You delete anything she has to say. You stay away from places she visits or places that she scouts. At this point, you are to be blamed and no one else. Literally taking a knife and stabbing yourself repeatedly. The only person causing you hurt is you. I will say this again. If you want your life to change, you have to start making different choices. The definition of insanity is repeating the same things and expecting different results. No one here can help you. You have to start doing it yourself. You made promises and you broke them. A man is only as good as his word. Try to stick by them and it may just get you somewhere.
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