Eagle14 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I'm a freshman in college. I met this guy, who was a senior in college, through a mutual friend and we started to hang out and then we started dating. It was actually great. I'd been single since my junior year of high school and he was fun and outgoing. Basically what I thought to be my perfect match. Anyways... about 2 months into the relationship, we decided that we were ready to have sex. It was my first time. We used protection, of course. Once, when we were hanging out, things got a little out-of-hand and accidents happen. He pulled out before he finished, but we were still worried. He started asking me questions about my period and if it was "regular" and other weird stuff like that. It'd been almost 60 days since my last period and he started to really freak out. I took a test to ease his mind and it was negative. I talked to my mother about it and she suggested that I should go to a clinic to be 100-percent. Before I went to the clinic, my boyfriend told me that if it was positive, he'd already saved up money to get an abortion. He said that he wasn't responsible enough to care for a kid and since he didn't have a job or anything yet that it was best to just "take care of the problem." I understood his fear because I also was quite scared, so I let him speak his mind and told him I'd think about it. I went to the clinic a few days after that and the blood test was also negative. After I got back on-campus, our relationship started getting weird. We rarely talked, he spent most of his time playing video games (that was what he always did, but this time it was different. Way more than before.) I went to see him the day before I was to have dinner with my mom and aunts and he barely looked at me. Later, while we were talking, he told me that he had no idea how he felt about anything anymore. He didn't care if we were together or not. That if I would've had a kid, he would "be there until it was out and screaming and then I'd be gone" (those are his exact words, too.) I told him that if he needed space that it was okay and that he should. After that, perhaps a few days, he invited me over to his apartment and we ended up having sex again. (I know, horrible idea, horrible horrible horrible.) He told me that he didn't want me to get my hopes up or to assume that we were "secretly dating." He got drunk one day and I was feeling really down and I asked him if we could talk (I didn't know he was drinking at the time) and literally stopped the conversation by saying "you have to let me go." He said that if we were to get back together, all he'd want was sex and we didn't need that. And now, he's dating his ex-girlfriend who was a very horrid person. Basically abusive toward him. It wasn't even a week after he'd broken up with me that he was back talking to her. We have zero contact. It's strange because I still hear out him through my best friend who is dating his best friend. I'm not sure if I should still hold on or what. Can someone make sense of this because I sure can't? My friends and family say that he doesn't deserve me holding on.
Balzac Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 My recommendation is to get yourself to a clinic for reliable contraception. Both parties are responsible for assuming risk of unplanned pregnancy. My guess us that this guy was freaked by irresponsible sexual intercourse and wanted out if that risky situation.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Yeah, the only question I have for you is: "What kind of 'protection' were you using???" Anything more than mere 'gravity' ?
Author Eagle14 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Yeah, the only question I have for you is: "What kind of 'protection' were you using???" Anything more than mere 'gravity' ? We used condoms, of course. And after the "accident" happen, I took the morning after pill.
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