fetish1980 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Ok, this may be a funny thread, but i've got to ask. I've been seeing this girl for a about 4 weeks now and within the first couple of weeks, she was already asking me: "Would you care if a girl farted around you?" I was thinking, "What?" Now this was even before we ever had sex. But i answered it with, " I understand it's a natural thing, but honestly, i think that's something to deal with after you've been seeing someone after a certain amount of time. But in the back of my mind i'm thinking, " I don't want to talk about this sh%t!" Then just last night, she came to my house to watch a movie and the topic ended up coming up again and she basically asked me the same question in a different way. I think she had forgotten she had already asked me that before. She was telling a story of a guy she had been talking to and accidently let one go and then they stopped talking about a week after. I'm thinking "Gee i wonder why?" She then proceeded to say, you were with your ex for a 8 years, i'm sure she did it huh?" Although it may have been true with my ex but it had been about 3 or 4 months of dating before that topic even arose or it ever happened. I told her, "Why don't we change the subject?" I don't want to come off as mean but should there be certain time before discussing personal matters like that with your date or is that something you should just accept from jump street even very early on in dating? Thoughts please! fetish
FitChick Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Tell her as long as she doesn't eat beans and cabbage before a date with you, it won't be a problem.
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Thoughts please! Tell her that farting is fine so long as it smells of roses, otherwise she should excuse herself and leave the room.
Brit Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Not sure of the answer to why a girl's intention would be to repulse you. Smelling someone else's gas would never be an indication of closeness or endearment to me, but would state boldly that this person has no desire to impress me any longer. 1
TheFinalWord Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Ok, this may be a funny thread, but i've got to ask. I've been seeing this girl for a about 4 weeks now and within the first couple of weeks, she was already asking me: "Would you care if a girl farted around you?" I was thinking, "What?" Now this was even before we ever had sex. But i answered it with, " I understand it's a natural thing, but honestly, i think that's something to deal with after you've been seeing someone after a certain amount of time. But in the back of my mind i'm thinking, " I don't want to talk about this sh%t!" Then just last night, she came to my house to watch a movie and the topic ended up coming up again and she basically asked me the same question in a different way. I think she had forgotten she had already asked me that before. She was telling a story of a guy she had been talking to and accidently let one go and then they stopped talking about a week after. I'm thinking "Gee i wonder why?" She then proceeded to say, you were with your ex for a 8 years, i'm sure she did it huh?" Although it may have been true with my ex but it had been about 3 or 4 months of dating before that topic even arose or it ever happened. I told her, "Why don't we change the subject?" I don't want to come off as mean but should there be certain time before discussing personal matters like that with your date or is that something you should just accept from jump street even very early on in dating? Thoughts please! fetish This is coming from a guy named fetish! Maybe she's got medical issues and doesn't know how to bring it up?
luvkitties Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Personally, I don't think it's a big deal. It's a normal bodily function, and it's bound to happen sooner or later. I don't really understand why she feels the need to discuss it in detail; maybe she has a fart fetish
Crusoe Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Best to get these things out in the open, if kept in they are likely to fester, swell and be blown out of all proportion at a later date. 1
luvkitties Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Best to get these things out in the open, if kept in they are likely to fester, swell and be blown out of all proportion at a later date. Nice...now try a sentence with a colon : 1
veggirl Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 :sick: why do people feel the need to talk about nasty s.hit like that. yes we all fart and poop and all that stuff but, do we have to discuss it? I would have told her to knock it off. 1
Author fetish1980 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 i realize that this issue is natural and i even said that to her. And when i said, "Why don't we change the subject, i did say that in a joking manner!" I'm just not used to someone bringing that up so early in the dating phase that i just wanted to hear someone else's thoughts. Trust me. I'm not an a%%hole and i wouldn't dismiss someone just because it happened. But to talk about it more than one occasion so early made me wonder and ask the question. And FinalWord, my fetish isn't in that of course! fetish
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Somewhere in her previous relationship farting was an issue.. she wants to see if it is going to be the same issue with you. Whether it was her or the guy who had the problem I'm not sure about.. she is obviously testing you, or gauging you with your answer.
veggirl Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 i realize that this issue is natural and i even said that to her. And when i said, "Why don't we change the subject, i did say that in a joking manner!" I'm just not used to someone bringing that up so early in the dating phase that i just wanted to hear someone else's thoughts. Trust me. I'm not an a%%hole and i wouldn't dismiss someone just because it happened. But to talk about it more than one occasion so early made me wonder and ask the question. And FinalWord, my fetish isn't in that of course! fetish "Why do you keep bringing up farting? It's fking nasty. What's the deal?"
gaius Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 It's too early to have a conversation about farting but not too early to have sex with her? 1
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 It's too early to have a conversation about farting but not too early to have sex with her? Well, at least sex is supposed to be a shared experience...
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Well, at least sex is supposed to be a shared experience... and so is farting if someone farts while having sex 1
Author fetish1980 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Somewhere in her previous relationship farting was an issue.. she wants to see if it is going to be the same issue with you. Whether it was her or the guy who had the problem I'm not sure about.. she is obviously testing you, or gauging you with your answer. I think you're right. I pretty much told her it wasn't a big deal but i felt like if i said "Oh yes! It's completely fine" then that would be giving her a pass to just letting it rip! I've just never had someone ask me that so early so i wasn;t sure what viewpoints were. I don't think it's wise to be anal about farting. Crusoe, i'd hardly call that anal. I even mentioned that it's not a big deal but to bring it up in the early stages of dating is quite odd. That's usually when you're trying to make an impression. And although it is reality, it may not the most attractive topic. Just being honest! It's too early to have a conversation about farting but not too early to have sex with her? C'mon now. Let's not be naive! fetish
dasein Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 OP does the woman talk regularly about defecation also or other bodily functions? If you are thinking of dating this woman, find out if she has bulimia or other disorder in her past. If so, make sure it isn't presenting or being treated before getting involved. Every woman I've ever dated who dwelled on bodily functions unduly turned out to have some form of disorder. Certainly not definitive, but keep your eyes open.
Author fetish1980 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 dasein, no she doesnt always talk about it regularly but i see her on an average of maybe once or twice a week, and as i mentioned before, she has brought it up before on one of our earlier dates. Again, i do not hold it against anyone. My ex/fiance i was with for 8 years had IBS and mild Ulcerative Colitis, so its not that Its something i won't tolerate. All i was asking in this thread if that was a topic that most people would engage in during the early stages of dating someone while that's usually the time you're trying to put your best foot forward to make a good impression. I respect all opinions on here because that's what i asked for, but some people on here sounded like farting is something i should just welcome with open arms.lol. Sure we accept it, but we don't look forward to it. If thats the case, then maybe playboy magazine should put a fart caption from their model's rear- end poses and see how much their sales skyrocket! fetish 1
FitChick Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Did you ask her if she has colitis? If you like her otherwise, buy several bottles of Beano and bring one with you every time you eat out. Not for you but for her. Problem solved.
Leigh 87 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I LAUGHED at the comment about the fart clouds/caption sign near the playboy models @sses! I don't think that would go down too well LOLLLLLLLL! I did not fart in front of my b/f until after a year. It is not something I think I brought up - early on - but I did discolse something totally weird and innaprioriate about myself very early on - first date in fact! .... He overlooked it, but would have thought it was very strange! Each guy is different with how they act in uncomfortable situations. I think honestly is the best policy - but I always try to let people down lightly.. For example, you could say, if she brings farting up again:lmao::p something like this: " hey, I think it's cool that your open and honest about your feelings, and are brave enough to say things that most people are embarrassed to mention! I like yoru fearlessness with being able to talk about difficult topics, however - it's sort of gross to me, when girls talk about farting! I have no issue with you doing it occasionaly, by accident, but I just do not like ANY girl - not a super model even - to chat to me about FARTING. It is NOT YOU - it is just girls in GENERAL turn me off when they tall about farting....." I think you will go well and make the point clear without upsetting her - if you confirm that yes, you don't care if she farts occasionally - but that talking about it, when ANY girls does, it is not the nicest image for you! Just stress that it is not HER but ALL girls in general!! ..............this is WAY too much info, but I like helping people and you will never meet me in real life so.... here goes.. I do not fart LOUDLY - there is rarely any noise - but um.. I eat a LOT of vegetables and healthy food, and my farts are silent.. and smell a lot.. LOL omg I cannot believe I am saying this, totally yuck, BUT - the times I do it, in bed, my boyfriend is like " ****, LEIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW" and pretends to hide under the blankets.... In the meanwhile, I cannot help but laugh ( for some reason?!) and he ends up smiling and laughing, while at the same time, he DOES say it is not pleasant for any girl to fart.... I think with most girls, MOST guys will find it a tad disturbing and disgusting, for a girl to fart in their presence... A few guys are neautral, but most guys do not think it is exactly nice, and some are mortified by girls farting.... 1
Author fetish1980 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 I LAUGHED at the comment about the fart clouds/caption sign near the playboy models @sses! I don't think that would go down too well LOLLLLLLLL! I did not fart in front of my b/f until after a year. It is not something I think I brought up - early on - but I did discolse something totally weird and innaprioriate about myself very early on - first date in fact! .... He overlooked it, but would have thought it was very strange! Each guy is different with how they act in uncomfortable situations. I think honestly is the best policy - but I always try to let people down lightly.. For example, you could say, if she brings farting up again:lmao::p something like this: " hey, I think it's cool that your open and honest about your feelings, and are brave enough to say things that most people are embarrassed to mention! I like yoru fearlessness with being able to talk about difficult topics, however - it's sort of gross to me, when girls talk about farting! I have no issue with you doing it occasionaly, by accident, but I just do not like ANY girl - not a super model even - to chat to me about FARTING. It is NOT YOU - it is just girls in GENERAL turn me off when they tall about farting....." I think you will go well and make the point clear without upsetting her - if you confirm that yes, you don't care if she farts occasionally - but that talking about it, when ANY girls does, it is not the nicest image for you! Just stress that it is not HER but ALL girls in general!! ..............this is WAY too much info, but I like helping people and you will never meet me in real life so.... here goes.. I do not fart LOUDLY - there is rarely any noise - but um.. I eat a LOT of vegetables and healthy food, and my farts are silent.. and smell a lot.. LOL omg I cannot believe I am saying this, totally yuck, BUT - the times I do it, in bed, my boyfriend is like " ****, LEIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW" and pretends to hide under the blankets.... In the meanwhile, I cannot help but laugh ( for some reason?!) and he ends up smiling and laughing, while at the same time, he DOES say it is not pleasant for any girl to fart.... I think with most girls, MOST guys will find it a tad disturbing and disgusting, for a girl to fart in their presence... A few guys are neautral, but most guys do not think it is exactly nice, and some are mortified by girls farting.... Thanks for the suggestion. I think that's a good thing to try. I think guys are turned off about farting is because we sometimes often forget that women are human beings too. Often times we put females on a pedestal as being the perfect creation and man's better half. I know that's totally ludicrous, but that's how men tend to categorize women in the back of their minds, subconsciously or not. fetish
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