hiimgerman Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Sigh so I live in this small as country. It's not actually very small...we just haven't got all that many people in here. So I'm struggling to meet new people. And I quite often find myself liking someone unavailable. I just it's because there are only so many people with qualities I like and others were faster than I so I guess I'll never find the right person for me in here. Sigh.
oaks Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Do what ever other Kiwi seems to do: move to Australia for a few years then go on a tour of Europe. At least, the ones I bump into in London seem to be doing that (and meeting people along the way). 3
Emilia Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I lived in small communities on my own and that can be lonely. The answer is to move somewhere bigger.
FitChick Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I'd love to move to New Zealand (so would a lot of people) but your immigration rules are very restrictive. I'd have to marry a Kiwi.
LittleTiger Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I'm English and my guy is a kiwi - we met online - so maybe you could give that a try if you don't mind LDRs. You might not want to look as far as the UK but there are a fair number of people in Australia and, as a kiwi, you don't need a visa to move there if you do meet someone - and they don't need a visa to move to you either.
Author hiimgerman Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 haha I'm not sure I'm ready enough to commit and move to another country for dating??
Joaquin Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I'm sure other new zealanders manage to get laid in new Zealand. 1
LittleTiger Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) haha I'm not sure I'm ready enough to commit and move to another country for dating?? Fair enough - just a suggestion. Maybe you could move to somewhere more poplulated within New Zealand? If you live out in a small village or in the countryside, try moving to a city - there are a reasonable number of people in places like Auckland, Christchurch, Wellington and Hamilton. If you're not ready to move within in your own country then you'll just have to put up with the situation as it is wherever you are. C'est la vie! Edited May 26, 2012 by LittleTiger
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I'm sure other new zealanders manage to get laid in new Zealand. Maybe not - that's why there aren't many of them! 3
Joaquin Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) Maybe not - that's why there aren't many of them! Maybe the new zealanders should take a few hints from their sheep. They seem to have no problem getting laid. No shortage of them. Edited May 26, 2012 by Joaquin
Author hiimgerman Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 lol we actually have more sheep than people. Yea I live in Auckland where 1/4 of the population are
carhill Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 With nearly 1.4MM residents, Auckland is not exactly devoid of people. I met plenty both there and in Wellington simply by walking the streets, shopping and visiting a few pubs. The first step to successful dating is meeting people. The Kiwi ladies seemed to like my American accent. 1
FitChick Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 haha I'm not sure I'm ready enough to commit and move to another country for dating?? I am! I'd go to the ends of the earth to find Mr Right. 1
Author hiimgerman Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 With nearly 1.4MM residents, Auckland is not exactly devoid of people. I met plenty both there and in Wellington simply by walking the streets, shopping and visiting a few pubs. The first step to successful dating is meeting people. The Kiwi ladies seemed to like my American accent. Ah I see the root of the problems now: you stole them all =O
TaurusTerp Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Has anyone made an obligatory sheep-boinking joke yet? 1
sb129 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 lol we actually have more sheep than people. Yea I live in Auckland where 1/4 of the population are Auckland is the biggest city! You definitely need to be putting yourself out there more in that case.
Els Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Maybe not - that's why there aren't many of them! Don't get me started on the sheep jokes... :laugh: Seriously, Auckland isn't that small. It's a lot larger than many places in America, even.
ascendotum Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I am! I'd go to the ends of the earth to find Mr Right. hiimgerman say hello to fitchick. She's prepared to go to the ends of the earth, which is NZ. You need to stay there, have many kids and help populate the country, so future generation dont have it so hard. Go polynesian if you have to.
Author hiimgerman Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Has anyone made an obligatory sheep-boinking joke yet? Not that I know of
johan Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Seems like you have a bit of a chicken-egg problem there. Not enough people, so they are less likely to meet and make enough more people to make the likelihood of meeting someone go up.
Els Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Honestly, as someone who has been to Auckland, I honestly don't think the problem with that city is 'too few meetups' or 'too few people'. At all. And I've lived around the world quite a bit. Personally, it sounds to me like the OP has 'too many excuses'. Not fitting in with the culture is one thing, but no way that city just doesn't have enough people. I highly doubt he's even met everyone there.
Author hiimgerman Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Honestly, as someone who has been to Auckland, I honestly don't think the problem with that city is 'too few meetups' or 'too few people'. At all. And I've lived around the world quite a bit. Personally, it sounds to me like the OP has 'too many excuses'. Not fitting in with the culture is one thing, but no way that city just doesn't have enough people. I highly doubt he's even met everyone there. lol that's true but decent people (in my eyes) are mostly taken???
Author hiimgerman Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 I am! I'd go to the ends of the earth to find Mr Right. lol come visit
Els Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 How would you define decent? I personally know plenty of decent single friends there. So either you're not meeting them, your definition of 'decent' is a little skewed, or you just aren't compatible with most people in the Kiwi culture, the latter of which could be solved by travelling/LDRs, but you don't want to.
Author hiimgerman Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Honestly, as someone who has been to Auckland, I honestly don't think the problem with that city is 'too few meetups' or 'too few people'. At all. And I've lived around the world quite a bit. Personally, it sounds to me like the OP has 'too many excuses'. Not fitting in with the culture is one thing, but no way that city just doesn't have enough people. I highly doubt he's even met everyone there. Or maybe I just dunno how to meet people
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