Necris Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) What was the worst date you ever had? I just created this thread for fun, but for myself I'll admit I never had a girlfriend, sex or anything like that but I have been on a few dates that never were particularly good but a year ago I had one pretty insane date. I met a girl that was a bit different than most girls I met and even went on a date with her. She seemed shy and nerdy like myself and into some of the same things I am in to, so I thought I found my counterpart, she wasn't very attractive but I didn't care, unfortunately the date went pear shaped extremely quickly. I don't know for some reason she wanted to act as insane as possible in the middle of a restaurant that I took her to from almost yelling out her man on man orgy sex fantasies to voicing support for the Nazis it was pretty bad she was definitely a head turner but in the worst way possible. After the date she revealed that while she had fun she didn't actually like me or felt anything and she never spoke to me again. I told my friends about the date and they thought it was hilarious (It is now kind of funny after looking back on it but at the time it was pretty crazy) they also laughed when they actually saw a picture of her since somehow they got the idea I was going on a date with some extremely beautiful woman so they saw her and was like "Wow, really man, really, her?". Edited May 25, 2012 by Necris
mortensorchid Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Yikes! That's pretty bad! Nothing like that has ever happened to me, that the person goes bonkers and makes a scene like that. But, I would have to say my worst of the worst was an Internet date I had years ago. Back in the MySpace days, someone had contacted me through there, we exchanged a few emails and then decided to meet. First, he was nearly forty five minutes late, I had nearly given up that he was coming despite the fact that I called him twice and there was no answer. Second, he looked like he just literally rolled out of bed. I sat down, this was a serve yourself restaurant and I had gotten a little something. I asked what he was having, he said he wasn't eating he wasn't hungry. Over the course of the rather awkward meal, I asked what he did. He said he did nothing. He used to be the director of nursing at a nursing home but he was fired because he became addicted to drugs and stole from the home. I was flabergasted that this loser thought he had any sense of a chance with me or any woman. And then I realized he was high as a kite. He actually noded off in the middle of the conversation. I tried giving the waiter a signal for the check but he didn't see me. Finally, I got up, went to the waiter and said that man over there is high and I am walking away. I gave him twenty dollars (all I had on me) and said I was sorry but I was walking away and he can take care of it. I have no idea what happened to him. He never called again (thank God) and I happened to check his MySpace months later and he wrote blogs about how he had gotten arrested again, broken his arm twice, and then broke his ribs around his heart breastplate. What a mess. 1
Gulf-Delta Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 1st date with my ex fiance...we got in a car accident On another date, we went out to dinner, I smoked some bad weed, and ended up puking after She got me napkins and water and helped me clean myself up...I may have fallen in love with her that nite :/
quankanne Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 for my 21st birthday, my BF took me to the local San Francisco Steakhouse. He was a notorious cheapskate, so I researched to find the best (but cheapest) menu on the item. Lucky for him, I'm not a drinker, so I figured a steak dinner was the sum of it. Unlucky for me, he started carrying on about how I was legal to drink (uh, no, I was actually grandfathered in, because I was legal at 19, then the following year they upped the age to 21 in Texas), and he became obnoxious in insisting that I order something to drink to celebrate. Kept telling him no, but to finally to shut him up, I ordered a mixed drink, and he got beer. when he got the bill, the bitching started all over again, because *then* he had to pay for the drink he insisted on me having! what a complete and utter jackass! :laugh:
Leigh 87 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 More more more! I love these sort of discussions:) There was one not long ago made too! Of course, I have nothing to contribute:(
persevere Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I had an OLD. We had been talking a while and I decided to meet her. She did seem a bit snobby, but I went for it nonetheless. I drove an hour in rush hour traffic to meet her at a restaurant. I had barely even started talking to her there when she said "I hope you don't mind, but I've invited some friends to join us" Really? Our first date and she invited friends along? So, in the door comes FOUR other people. They come join us. I am initially out of the loop as she catches up with her friends. Then, her friends start asking me all kinds of questions about my job, where I live, etc. We all order food and I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable. The waitress then asks if it's all "on one check, or seperate". Eveyone at the table just stares at me. I said "Seperate!!", paid for dinner and got out of there. I've had OLD women use me for dinner, never to be heard from again. But to try and get me to pay for four of her friends as well was macabre humor. Runner up: I met a girl across town. Went to her house to pick her up. Her mom answered the door, dressed to the nines (!) My date showed up. We chatted a bit and she mentioned a man, who lived down the road, and how she felt sorry for him because he was recently divorced. How she was worried about him and had spent the day at his place 'consoling' him. We get in my car to go to a new restaurant she wanted to try. (I drove an old car at the time). On the way there she emphatically asked "I have a question. What's UP with THIS car???" Now, I am getting a bit angry. We get to the restaurant and it's one of those really expensive steak houses with retired people in suits everywhere. The entree's were all at least $40. She had mercy on me and ordered a burger, which was still $25. Whew. She still talked about her neighbor during dinner, telling me how she had made dinner for him the night before. I couldn't get away from her fast enough.
persevere Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Date/non-date: OLD. I drove across town in a driving rain storm, after having put on my best clothes, etc. I get there and she's not there. 30 minutes later, she's still not there. I was furious, but still had thoughts of "well..traffic...rain...lost"??? No repsonse to a text or phone call. So, I go back home. She had sent me an email saying how "her ex bf showed up, last minute, and she stayed home to talk to him". But, "oh yeah, call me!" Boy, did I ever call her! I honestly cannot remember ever being so angry at someone in the past decade. She then told me "we can try again, if you like to", which was met by me appropriately for the situation!
oaks Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 What was the worst date you ever had? A first date (and I had never met her before this) and we were sitting in a bar drinking beer when she tells me she's 4 months pregnant. Then she excuses herself to go for a smoke, and comes back and has another beer. I ask her if it's a good idea to be doing either, but she doesn't seem worried. There wasn't a second date. 2
truth_seeker Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 OLD I met this girl who looked cute in her photo and we had great chemistry over the phone. We meet at a local bar and it went abysmal quite fast. She didn't look anything like her photo. Looked older and let herself go. She would do this weird say something with an angry look but then immediately laugh. Then she says that she had a specific type. Her type: Brad Pitt. I do not look like Brad Pitt. She went out of her way to point this out to me. Thanks, but I know this. We have a drink and it got awkward as there was hardly any conversation. We agreed to end it right there. Leaving I gave her a hug and said it was nice meeting her. I get home and send her an email saying it was nice meeting her and too bad we didn't click in person like we did on the phone. I get an email from her telling me her life is a wreck. She is in tears and wants another chance. She begs me to call her. I told her no and to find a good therapist.
mortensorchid Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Have to share another ... A few years ago I had an OLD with this man I'd met on POF. He didn't have a photo, I asked him why in an email. He said he didn't know how to upload one. Had a hard time believing that to be true, even if he didn't he couldn't find someone who would show him? We had arranged to meet despite my reservations. I am at the designated meeting place, waiting and waiting. A half hour goes by, I called him, no answer. I get a call from a number I didn't recognize, it was him. He went to the wrong location and said he would be there soon (the place we had arranged to meet was a chain). I waited another half hour, still nothing. I called him again, no answer. Then I get a second call from another number I did not recognize and he was lost. I told him to put the address in his GPS and there would be no problem, he didn't have a GPS. I asked what number he was calling from because everytime I call his cell he doesn't pick up, he said he doesn't have a cell phone. He was calling me from pay phones. Then I asked where he was, I would stand outside and wait for him, he refused. I was livid! I waited another twenty minutes, then gave up and drove him. About a month later, I get a call from him. He apologized profusely because of it, he said he was circling around the same little street patch and if he had turned his head to the left instead of the right he would've seen the place. I accepted his apology, he said he had now caught up with technology because of this and had a cell phone and a GPS. But that wasn't the end. He kept calling me! For months afterward! There were times he would call me from as many as ten different numbers, and NEVER would he leave a voice mail message. Never would I return one of his calls, he keep calling until I picked up the phone. Then after about nine months, when I picked up the phone I asked him (very nicely) "Please don't call me again." He said "What did I do?!" and I hung up. Haven't heard from him since. What a nut!
FitChick Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 A first date (and I had never met her before this) and we were sitting in a bar drinking beer when she tells me she's 4 months pregnant. Then she excuses herself to go for a smoke, and comes back and has another beer. I ask her if it's a good idea to be doing either, but she doesn't seem worried. She neglected to tell you that she had six more kids at home by six different men of various races, and the two eldest daughters (13 and 15) had made her a grandmother thanks to their pedophile boyfriends. This extended family all live in a £3 million house in Mayfair provided by the Council. The Daily Mail is doing a cover story on her as Britain's youngest grandmother at the age of 28. 2
verhrzn Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I've actually never had a bad first date; a kinda awkward one where the guy babbled about his ex through most of it (not complaining, just "Me and Tina used to do this", "Tina loved that.") but nothing too bad. I am expecting that this sort-of-date I have coming up is gonna be awful. My friend decided he would take it upon himself to set me up with a friend of his. The guy is apparently sort of a nerd, but he's also really into sports (uh), and WAY outside my league looks-wise (ugh.) Also, apparently, my friend didn't even show the guy a picture of me before setting this up; the guy just "trusts" him. So this poor guy is showing up having NO idea what I look like. It's gonna be a humiliating, awful disaster, but my friend won't let me back out and "ruin" what he is so sure is a perfect match. I'd feel like an awful jerk canceling, so I guess I'll just have to endure the humiliation of the Lemon Law. Yay...
truth_seeker Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I am expecting that this sort-of-date I have coming up is gonna be awful. My friend decided he would take it upon himself to set me up with a friend of his. The guy is apparently sort of a nerd, but he's also really into sports (uh), and WAY outside my league looks-wise (ugh.) Also, apparently, my friend didn't even show the guy a picture of me before setting this up; the guy just "trusts" him. So this poor guy is showing up having NO idea what I look like. It's gonna be a humiliating, awful disaster, but my friend won't let me back out and "ruin" what he is so sure is a perfect match. I'd feel like an awful jerk canceling, so I guess I'll just have to endure the humiliation of the Lemon Law. Yay... Who is your friend? Dr. Neil Clark Warren of eHarmony.com?
TigerCub Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 This was years ago. 1st date with a guy I met. During the night he had a wandering eye, and couldn't hold any kind of real conversation. He made it obvious that he wanted us to hook up that night I told him how I was a virgin (which was true at the time) he still suggested we go back to where he's staying - which really was a pull out couch in his cousin's 1 bedroom apt. Yeah...that's what I wanted my first time to be - with a loser on his cousin's sofa bed There was no 2nd date.
matte123 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I've actually never had a bad first date; a kinda awkward one where the guy babbled about his ex through most of it (not complaining, just "Me and Tina used to do this", "Tina loved that.") but nothing too bad. I am expecting that this sort-of-date I have coming up is gonna be awful. My friend decided he would take it upon himself to set me up with a friend of his. The guy is apparently sort of a nerd, but he's also really into sports (uh), and WAY outside my league looks-wise (ugh.) Also, apparently, my friend didn't even show the guy a picture of me before setting this up; the guy just "trusts" him. So this poor guy is showing up having NO idea what I look like. It's gonna be a humiliating, awful disaster, but my friend won't let me back out and "ruin" what he is so sure is a perfect match. I'd feel like an awful jerk canceling, so I guess I'll just have to endure the humiliation of the Lemon Law. Yay... Why are you canceling? Just try it and see where it goes. Who knows. Maybe he'll like you. No date experiences here but it's interesting to read some
persevere Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 OLD date. She looked really cute in her picture. I bypassed coffee and went straight for a nice, impressive restaurant (I still hadn't learned). So, I show up and there she is in the waiting area. Built like a fire plug and goth! I had a real Wtf moment. Even the pretty waitress kept looking at us weirdly. She kept hinting that we should go back to her place. All I could think of was 'the Addams family'. 1
Kamille Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Guy asks me out to an concert with a bunch of friends (I knew this part). I show up and find out he also invited another girl, who he had met on an on-line dating site. I thought I might have misinterpreted his intentions towards me, so proceed with the evening, having fun with his friends. (She, in the meantime, was surprised to find that the date was a group date). He started ignoring his date and made a move on me, in front of her. I pushed him off. For weeks after, he left message after message on my phone, trying to convince me he wasn't a player.
verhrzn Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Why are you canceling? Just try it and see where it goes. Who knows. Maybe he'll like you. I really don't see the benefit of going out with a guy who isn't attracted to me. Seems like a giant waste of time, and humiliating to boot. This is why they discourage blind dates, yes? Guy asks me out to an concert with a bunch of friends (I knew this part). I show up and find out he also invited another girl, who he had met on an on-line dating site. I thought I might have misinterpreted his intentions towards me, so proceed with the evening, having fun with his friends. (She, in the meantime, was surprised to find that the date was a group date). He started ignoring his date and made a move on me, in front of her. I pushed him off. For weeks after, he left message after message on my phone, trying to convince me he wasn't a player. DAAAAAMN. You win.
zengirl Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Two stories: Once I was stood up (obviously a bad date) and the guy had been there before me -- he got there early -- and left with a Japanese gal who was hanging around there who invited him out to go dancing with her friends. He left a message with the clerk that I could join them if I wanted once I got there (I wasn't late either, but he was earlier than me). No thanks! Once I went on a fairly bland date with some stuck-up guy from Match.com. That part was normal -- he argued about EVERYTHING and was obviously very sexist and demeaning and condescending. I was polite, but made an excuse to go as soon as dinner was over, saying we didn't have much in common, etc, etc. I paid my part of the bill with cash. He yelled at me in the restaurant, freaking out that I didn't want to go out with him again! The waitstaff removed him (after requesting his card for his part of the bill --- I said I'd pay it and the manager was basically, "NO, this ******* is paying or I'm calling the cops" and I think made him, pay the FULL bill but I left all the cash I was already leaving as a very large tip then) and had my back, because he seemed to be escalating to violence --- it was seriously scary. Anyway, I stayed a little bit longer and the manager (an older lady) and a male employee both walked me to my car. He was keying a car near mine that looked similar to mine with the word "Bitch" --- luckily he missed my car, unlucky for the person he vandalized. We left his info for that person, and he was carted off to jail. True stories. But I've been on hundreds of dates, all the rest mostly uneventful. I've actually never had a bad first date; a kinda awkward one where the guy babbled about his ex through most of it (not complaining, just "Me and Tina used to do this", "Tina loved that.") but nothing too bad. I am expecting that this sort-of-date I have coming up is gonna be awful. My friend decided he would take it upon himself to set me up with a friend of his. The guy is apparently sort of a nerd, but he's also really into sports (uh), and WAY outside my league looks-wise (ugh.) Also, apparently, my friend didn't even show the guy a picture of me before setting this up; the guy just "trusts" him. So this poor guy is showing up having NO idea what I look like. It's gonna be a humiliating, awful disaster, but my friend won't let me back out and "ruin" what he is so sure is a perfect match. I'd feel like an awful jerk canceling, so I guess I'll just have to endure the humiliation of the Lemon Law. Yay... Aw, why so negative, V? I know it will not end well with your attitude being like that but there is a CHANCE it could go well if you would just maybe hope for the best for once. I mean, he's a cute, sorta nerdy guy who can potentially introduce you to new interests AND came recommended by a friend who also recommended you! AND he didn't ask for a picture which shows looks aren't his top priority and he's not some shallow douchebag and he may be looking for an actual connection -- probably is! How is that bad?
matte123 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I really don't see the benefit of going out with a guy who isn't attracted to me. Seems like a giant waste of time, and humiliating to boot. This is why they discourage blind dates, yes? But you haven't met him yet. How do you know if he's attracted to you or not? Blind dates can actually work for some people. Maybe even you
oaks Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 She neglected to tell you that she had six more kids at home by six different men of various races, and the two eldest daughters (13 and 15) had made her a grandmother thanks to their pedophile boyfriends. This extended family all live in a £3 million house in Mayfair provided by the Council. The Daily Mail is doing a cover story on her as Britain's youngest grandmother at the age of 28. Sounds close! Well, she had at least a couple of kids (so she claimed), but she definitely wouldn't have been Britain's youngest grandmother as she was in her 40s.
oaks Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Guy asks me out to an concert with a bunch of friends (I knew this part). I show up and find out he also invited another girl, who he had met on an on-line dating site. Was he assuming one of you would flake on him and so he should invite two girls to be sure of having a date?
verhrzn Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Once I went on a fairly bland date with some stuck-up guy from Match.com. That part was normal -- he argued about EVERYTHING and was obviously very sexist and demeaning and condescending. I was polite, but made an excuse to go as soon as dinner was over, saying we didn't have much in common, etc, etc. I paid my part of the bill with cash. He yelled at me in the restaurant, freaking out that I didn't want to go out with him again! The waitstaff removed him (after requesting his card for his part of the bill --- I said I'd pay it and the manager was basically, "NO, this ******* is paying or I'm calling the cops" and I think made him, pay the FULL bill but I left all the cash I was already leaving as a very large tip then) and had my back, because he seemed to be escalating to violence --- it was seriously scary. Anyway, I stayed a little bit longer and the manager (an older lady) and a male employee both walked me to my car. He was keying a car near mine that looked similar to mine with the word "Bitch" --- luckily he missed my car, unlucky for the person he vandalized. We left his info for that person, and he was carted off to jail. Sorry, Kam, now Zen wins. Wow, that is a crazy story. I'm sorry you had to go through that! Aw, why so negative, V? I know it will not end well with your attitude being like that but there is a CHANCE it could go well if you would just maybe hope for the best for once. I mean, he's a cute, sorta nerdy guy who can potentially introduce you to new interests AND came recommended by a friend who also recommended you! AND he didn't ask for a picture which shows looks aren't his top priority and he's not some shallow douchebag and he may be looking for an actual connection -- probably is! How is that bad? I realized I am thread-jacking, so I started a new thread about it. Apologies guys!
truth_seeker Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Once I went on a fairly bland date with some stuck-up guy from Match.com. That part was normal -- he argued about EVERYTHING and was obviously very sexist and demeaning and condescending. I was polite, but made an excuse to go as soon as dinner was over, saying we didn't have much in common, etc, etc. I paid my part of the bill with cash. He yelled at me in the restaurant, freaking out that I didn't want to go out with him again! The waitstaff removed him (after requesting his card for his part of the bill --- I said I'd pay it and the manager was basically, "NO, this ******* is paying or I'm calling the cops" and I think made him, pay the FULL bill but I left all the cash I was already leaving as a very large tip then) and had my back, because he seemed to be escalating to violence --- it was seriously scary. Anyway, I stayed a little bit longer and the manager (an older lady) and a male employee both walked me to my car. He was keying a car near mine that looked similar to mine with the word "Bitch" --- luckily he missed my car, unlucky for the person he vandalized. We left his info for that person, and he was carted off to jail. This is unbelievable. Did the guy try contacting you again? What happened to him? If I were in the restaurant I would have sat there laughing watching this guy erupt. This story wins hands down!
persevere Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Yeah, Zengirl wins. I wonder how in the world someone could be so psychotic as to act that way, ever, much less in public? He must've been extremely unused to rejection! lol. The sad thing is, there are women out there who would be sadistically intrigued and actually want to have a second date with someone like that. I wonder what the person thought who had their car keyed? "wow, I'm not even a woman and someone keyed "bitch" on my car??"
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