raspberry.12 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Hi, Wondering if any of you guys (not underage) ever broke up with bf/gf because of their parents/your parents? How did you go if you have issues with their parents or he/she had issues with your parents?
Author raspberry.12 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 I am trying to cut the long story short I and my ex-fiance dated for more than a year, engaged on February and was planning for a wedding July next year. We did *"save-a-date" and notified our friends.* We are in our 30+. He is the youngest son in the family. One day, he and my Dad had an argument, they were both angry with each other, but at the end of the day, they apologised to each other for what they said. Everything was back to normal for the next 1.5 months, we still dated as usual. Until one day I could not contact him for 1 week, no reply to texts, no calls, no return calls. I didn't know what was going on. I decided to call his home line, I couldn't speak to him but his Mum and she told me that he decided to call off wedding and needed time to consider our relationship. It was so suddenly for me because we had our good times together the week before his disappearance, no fighting at all between us. I could not reach him for another week, I was so shocked because I had no explanation and wondered why he did not tell me before hand but disappeared all of a sudden. I kept calling, texting, emailing like crazy trying to get an answer. 2 days later, I received offline messages from Messenger saying that he didn't want to be relationship and wanted to withdraw emotionally, he still could not get over and forget about an argument that he had with my Dad before even though he still loved me. He said he could not see a future between us. I replied to his email tried to explain to save the relationship but he denied to listen and said he would not change his mind. I don't understand why he could make his decision without discussing with me first. And why he kept his issue inside him for so long without letting me know so I can share & solve it.* I always believe "True love can overcome obstacles", but seemed like it was wrong in my case. Or he does not love me enough to make things worked again?
Radu Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 I am trying to cut the long story short I and my ex-fiance dated for more than a year, engaged on February and was planning for a wedding July next year. We did *"save-a-date" and notified our friends.* We are in our 30+. He is the youngest son in the family. One day, he and my Dad had an argument, they were both angry with each other, but at the end of the day, they apologised to each other for what they said. Everything was back to normal for the next 1.5 months, we still dated as usual. Until one day I could not contact him for 1 week, no reply to texts, no calls, no return calls. I didn't know what was going on. I decided to call his home line, I couldn't speak to him but his Mum and she told me that he decided to call off wedding and needed time to consider our relationship. It was so suddenly for me because we had our good times together the week before his disappearance, no fighting at all between us. I could not reach him for another week, I was so shocked because I had no explanation and wondered why he did not tell me before hand but disappeared all of a sudden. I kept calling, texting, emailing like crazy trying to get an answer. 2 days later, I received offline messages from Messenger saying that he didn't want to be relationship and wanted to withdraw emotionally, he still could not get over and forget about an argument that he had with my Dad before even though he still loved me. He said he could not see a future between us. I replied to his email tried to explain to save the relationship but he denied to listen and said he would not change his mind. I don't understand why he could make his decision without discussing with me first. And why he kept his issue inside him for so long without letting me know so I can share & solve it.* I always believe "True love can overcome obstacles", but seemed like it was wrong in my case. Or he does not love me enough to make things worked again? He used the argument with your father as an excuse to break it off. Very passive-agressive ppl do this kind of stuff. There is a strong posibility that he was actually looking to start a fight. Just look at everything else, he had his mother break it off with you ... his mother ... wtf. If you look back i think you will notice he had a tendency to run from confrontation and he was quite the momma's boy. His family either pushed for a break-up, or he wanted one and he lacked the balls to do it himself.
Author raspberry.12 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 He used the argument with your father as an excuse to break it off. Very passive-agressive ppl do this kind of stuff. There is a strong posibility that he was actually looking to start a fight. Just look at everything else, he had his mother break it off with you ... his mother ... wtf. If you look back i think you will notice he had a tendency to run from confrontation and he was quite the momma's boy. His family either pushed for a break-up, or he wanted one and he lacked the balls to do it himself. I really didn't know whether his family pushed or he wanted that way but I didn't bother dig into it because there is no point finding out who did it and I ended up hurting myself more. Well, there is actually no way finding out more because after the offline messages he sent me, he changed his number the next day, cut off all contacts with me which made me really pissed off. However, I knew that indicated an end, he completely withdrawn from my life. He is such a good guy, during the time we were together, he treated me like queen and I knew he was really into me (pretty sure there was no cheating. Maybe he is too emotional to function???
daisy088 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Wow! This is interesting b/c this is exactly what happened with my ex and I. We dated and were friends for years, lived together and committed to a future together. If anything, he seemed more in love with me (and I am more intelligent, worldly, and attractive than he is). One tiny incident in which he invaded my privacy and read every single thing in my phone (I had been talking about a guy who had hit on me in a bar to my girlfriend and made a joke about my 1st ex to her as well) and he freaked out and broke our relationship off. He didnt have the courage to see me after I had to force it out of him that he wanted our relationship to end. His mum wrote many of the replies he sent me, and she told him what to say to me in a goodbye letter. It was clear to me his parents had wanted this since spending time with them over holiday. Since then, he has not contacted me once and has completely pulled out of my life. We went from being inseparable best friends to strangers. When I ran into him he told me he never loved me, never thought we'd be together for a long time, and that I wasn't the kind of woman he'd want to marry or be with (contrary to everything he had said for years) and mentioned his parents at least 4 times in this conversation. These kinds of "men" are not MEN at all. They are insecure mamas boys who have not detached from their parents. This sounds passive aggressive and weak to me and trust me- you will see with time, as I am, that you want someone who will value you enough to fight for you and to disregard the opinions of others- even if its his mum or dad
Author raspberry.12 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Wow! This is interesting b/c this is exactly what happened with my ex and I. We dated and were friends for years, lived together and committed to a future together. If anything, he seemed more in love with me (and I am more intelligent, worldly, and attractive than he is). One tiny incident in which he invaded my privacy and read every single thing in my phone (I had been talking about a guy who had hit on me in a bar to my girlfriend and made a joke about my 1st ex to her as well) and he freaked out and broke our relationship off. He didnt have the courage to see me after I had to force it out of him that he wanted our relationship to end. His mum wrote many of the replies he sent me, and she told him what to say to me in a goodbye letter. It was clear to me his parents had wanted this since spending time with them over holiday. Since then, he has not contacted me once and has completely pulled out of my life. We went from being inseparable best friends to strangers. When I ran into him he told me he never loved me, never thought we'd be together for a long time, and that I wasn't the kind of woman he'd want to marry or be with (contrary to everything he had said for years) and mentioned his parents at least 4 times in this conversation. These kinds of "men" are not MEN at all. They are insecure mamas boys who have not detached from their parents. This sounds passive aggressive and weak to me and trust me- you will see with time, as I am, that you want someone who will value you enough to fight for you and to disregard the opinions of others- even if its his mum or dad How long have you broken up with your ex? I always thought his love for me is strong enough to overcome everything, I put 100% trust on him and love him with all my heart. Sadly, it ended with mess and his family thought I was not good enough to be a wife of his. I don't know if he will ever regret his decision or not, but in the mean time, I know I have to move on :( despite of all the deep feelings and cares I have for him still inside my heart.
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