Broke it off and now I want to fix it

[scrm]

My boyfriend of a year had been acting a little off since about two months ago. He was still affectionate but it wasn't as passionate. We got into a big fight about two weeks ago. He said that there was something I said or did in the last conversation about the relationship that made him have second thoughts about whether or not we would work out. I tried to get him to tell me but he wouldn't, I'm guessing because he was afraid it would really hurt me. He said that he doesn't want to lose me but he's just not sure about our future. I ended up breaking up with him but we still see each other about 3 times a week, whereas before we were seeing each other everyday. Sometimes I initiate the date and sometimes he does. I tried to get him to tell me what the doubts were again a few days ago but he still wouldn't budge. When we're together, most times it's great and it's like we never broke up but there will be days that he's a little off again. He's told me that he misses me and he offers to help me with things I need help with in the next couple of weeks so he's not completely gone. I don't really hear from him though unless it's to set up a date or to text me back when I text first. I broke it off because I wanted to get grounded again since I had kind of lost myself in the last couple of months and to figure things out for myself. I have this fear or wasting my time on dead-end relationship so I've even gone on a couple of dates with other guys. I think he's still having doubts, but I've now decided that I want to try to work things out as an official couple again since all I do is want to be with him when I'm on these dates. I almost feel like I'm chasing him if I bring it up, especially since he doesn't call as much as I do and I don't know what it is that made him have second thoughts, but I don't know if it's more my place to do so since I was the one who broke it off. It is better to just let it be and give him some space to work through his confusion or talk to him about it?

Edited May 24, 2012 by scrm

[Alexanda]

I don't think you should get back together with him. He wont even talk to you about what is bothering him. I think you did the right thing by breaking up with him. If he isnt making the effort to try and work things out then he must not be that interested. Like you said you dont want to be in a dead end relationship.

[Yookie]

Your relationship cant be repaired if he is unwilling to talk to you about what bothers him... time to move on sorry:(