metalambience Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 As in cold approaching a girl you don't know, chatting her up, getting her number, and scoring a date. Or going out to the raunchy dance club with the liquor flowing, dancing with a random chick, and ending up at her place a few hours later?
udolipixie Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Likely depends on the guy's attractiveness with it being easier to have a one night stand for average to attractive guys and easier to get a date for below average guys. Though for the one night stand the sex will likely be at or near the location rather than going to her place. 1
pteromom Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Both are relatively easy (for me, as a woman). It's the finding someone worth sticking it out with that's the difficult part!
snug.bunny Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Both are impossible for me. That is a really good photo of you Ross, work it!
Vintage79 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Both are pretty easy - with one night stands probably being a bit easier - at least if you want a quality date. It's pretty darn easy to troll the night clubs around close and pick up the floozy who's left with no one around... The easy thing about the one night stand is that you can rely on superfluous quantities of alcohol. You can't really do that with a date, as she has to be cognizant of who you are. That said - dates from bars/clubs are a bit tricky unless you want a alcoholic, while dates from social activities (i.e. cooking class, hiking groups, sailing club, etc.) are very easy to get, with one night stands being tougher.
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Likely depends on the guy's attractiveness with it being easier to have a one night stand for average to attractive guys and easier to get a date for below average guys. Though for the one night stand the sex will likely be at or near the location rather than going to her place. I agree with this for men. If an average to above looking woman wants a one night stand it's the equivalent of walking into Burger King and ordering a Whopper. It's that easy.
oaks Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I'm in my late 30s, which may have a bearing on this. I think it's easier to get a date, but then that's also what I put more effort in to (compared with trying to have a ONS, which I'm not trying to do at all).
udolipixie Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I agree with this for men. If an average to above looking woman wants a one night stand it's the equivalent of walking into Burger King and ordering a Whopper. It's that easy. Generally it's easy for gals to get sex the difficulty comes in getting good or great sex aka pleasurable and/or orgasm inducing. Though with the ease of sex comes certain risk factors of approaching strange guys for sex that'll likely spiral into victim blaming if a risk occurs.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 That is a really good photo of you Ross, work it! I doubt you'd think that if you saw me in real life.
oaks Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 That is a really good photo of you Ross, work it! I agree. Didn't know you could smile, Ross. 1
carhill Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 TBH, random hookups with married women have been easier to achieve than consistent and predictable dates, if I were to dispassionately review the past three decades. I don't do one night stands but the potential and pursuits (by the MW's) were there. I just kind of avoid the whole dynamic (dating and MW's) now. Probably better for everyone that way.
phineas Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 TBH, random hookups with married women have been easier to achieve than consistent and predictable dates, if I were to dispassionately review the past three decades. I don't do one night stands but the potential and pursuits (by the MW's) were there. I just kind of avoid the whole dynamic (dating and MW's) now. Probably better for everyone that way. I've noticed this also I believe. I've had married women make me feel very uncomfortable as in invading my personal space & looking at me like a married woman should not look at a man. At first I thought it was my imagination but I don't think so. I tend to stay away from that if I know them & will be around them in the future.
pteromom Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I doubt you'd think that if you saw me in real life. The correct answer when someone says nice pic is "Thank you." Work on not turning everything into insulting yourself.
Imported Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 The correct answer when someone says nice pic is "Thank you." Work on not turning everything into insulting yourself. Looked more like fishing to me...... Getting one night stands or girls that just want sex is diffinently easier.
Pierre Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Both are relatively easy (for me, as a woman). It's the finding someone worth sticking it out with that's the difficult part! Woman can find sex all day long if they choose to do so. The guy that cannot get a date is not likely to get sex easily and viceversa. 1
manup Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Both are relatively easy (for me, as a woman). It's the finding someone worth sticking it out with that's the difficult part! try less one nighters
mesmerized Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 One night stands are overrated. What's the point in going to bed with someone who is only after pleasing himself? No sex is better than crappy sex. And to respond to the OP, it all depends on the quality of women/men you go for and your own looks. If you're average you can get sex/dates with a below average women much easier than an above average woman. I know men/women who constantly get laid by different people but the quality is always lacking.
kaylan Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 (edited) Find a date? Easy. Im pretty sure I could find a decent enough gal to go on a date with. Finding someone who I was to date exclusively? Hard. Im admittedly picky and its rare that I find a girl whos a diamond in the rough. Finding a one night stand? Easy and not rewarding really. Its not that hard to go to a bar/club, look your best, and then dance rauncy and leave with someone. Plus the one time I did it I felt disgusted with myself. I still have my hookups here and there, but its girls I know or girls I know through a mutual friend. I dont do sexual crap with complete strangers anymore as its super not safe. And when you think about it...how rewarding is it to screw some slutty chick you barely know, especially if youre both under alcohols influence. Tbh id rather cast a net, and build rapport with a chick over a little bit of time and then hook up with her. Finding a friends with benefits? Harder than a one night stand for sure, at least for me, but its far more rewarding and safe. I brought up fwb because thats the safer alternative than a one night stand if casual sex is your goal. Why is it harder though? Well for me its harder because I wont dont that with just anyone. First I cast a net, get to know a girl or few, and then weigh pros and cons. You also have to consider the emotions that might get involved, especially if you do like me and normally only think of being fwb with an established friend. Why an established friend? Well, why would I want to regularly hook up with a girl I wasnt sure was safe and sane? PS - I agree with mesmerized that on sex is better than crappy sex. I have a couple times in the past forgone a sure thing because I was sure I woudlnt enjoy myself. Ive also turned a sure thing down if I felt I could do better or if the chick was acting entitled. I had one girl basically act like she knew Id jump at a chance to hook up with her...wrong. I dont need sex that badly that Ill let some chick act like shes above me or think that Im desperate. At the same time I realize Ive run into girls like that because so many dudes out there will gladly take whatever sex they can get and its kinda sad. Whatevers...that aint me. Edited May 24, 2012 by kaylan
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 The one night stand is easier. Why? Because focusing on sex brings results easier than focusing on relationships.
Phennyphen Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 If I wanted a one night stand I could go to a club tonight, pick a guy and take him home, wham bam thank you mr, now on your bike. He just needs to be single and attractive. As for dates, I'm far more picky. Havent had a date since December. Though saying that, with OLD am sure if I reeeeaaalllyy wanted a date for this weekend I could get one if I sent enough messages, it just might be with someone I wouldnt want to see again, know what I mean? OLD is so hit and miss. Its definatley easier for women.
dasein Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I'm not willing to put up with all the inconvenience and time spent seeking a ONS. It often means staying out later than I want, waiting around forever and dealing with c-blocks and friend-blocks. Few ONSs take place before late late at night, the sex is not as good due to drinking, awkward when it's over about sleep arrangements, etc. Much easier and less time consuming to get a date and go from there. 1
Chicago_Guy Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Why are women even answering this question? Everyone knows practically any woman can go to a bar or a club and find a man willing to have sex with her. The same is definitely not true for most men unless they really lower their standards. If men pursue women who are comparably attractive to themselves, it is easier to get a date than a one-night-stand.
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