I don't know anymore, i've literally burned myself out </3 :'(

[Magpie_x]

i hope you can help me

 

Me an my ex broke up 6 months ago, but got back on talking terms 3 months ago, we started seeing eachother an things were perfect, he put so much effort in, but again we started arguing, we both have a great deal of stress going on in our lives, me personal and him more financial since i moved out of our flat 6 months ago.

 

The arguments spark when we can't deal with our stress and i'm always the one trying to point this out, he says i never change after all the chances he's given me.

 

The last argument we had was due to him not giving me any support when i needed some when a relative was rushed to hospital.

 

He admitted he still had feelings for me last week but that he couldn't commit, things can go well but then one of us argue

 

It tears me apart, we were together nearly 2 an a half years, it was the first time any of us had ever got a place together an so it was a huge first step.

 

When we met it was love at first site, an we've been through alot emotionally together an have always been eachothers rock an despite everything we will always help eachother when we need it.

 

He hasn't been involved with anyone or even considered dating etc, where as i have tried dating etc and i can't go through with it because ultimately he's the one i want. He is the love of my life, yet he is to proud to admit when he needs some help etc, an the blames always put on me, when he has half of this to blame on himself.

 

I've struggled alot coping with this an myself was rushed to hospital a few days ago, basically i've burned myself out, an have panic attacks just thinking about this.

 

I just can't move on, something deep down tells me to hang on and that he is worth it, there was a special bond between us an i feel stupid for the break up (he ended it) because nothing ever really happend, we just don't know how to deal with our stress.

 

i believe he is the one for me, and i'm desperate to have him stay in my life, nobody understands an tells me to move on and he's not worth it, when i know he's just going through a hard time, and deep down he's a good, loving person.

 

i've told him countless times i'm moving on an last week i got blamed for me being the one who said we need to move on, so i obviously hit a nerve.

 

despite everything we always end back together (not in a relationship) but this time he gives the impression we won't, but i can't let go, i just want him to realise that it is worth fighting for

 

i just can't let go an i don't want to

 

what do i do ? :'(

[jennifer90]

If u don't know what to do now, take a break then. I am in the same situation and we decided to give each other a break. If u can't let go, u don't have to. U can keep friendship with him and give each other a space to seek for something new. I believe that if we are made for each other, then nothing can change it. Do not they to do anything wen u cannot think of anything. Give ye heart a break.

[Eddie Edirol]

Thats just withdrawal talking. Love is a drug, and youre detoxing. You wont realize until youve detoxed that you artent thinking clearly. It will take a while, but trust me, its not worth fighting for if he doesnt want it. It will take you months to recover, but you will, and then you will see that you didnt need to save it after you wake up out of the fog youre in.

[Magpie_x]

i just feel like something is stopping me from moving on, i've had my fair share of heart ache before but this just takes the biscuit

 

we were so commited to eachother, we could always turn to eachother an we always have despite the arguments we've had, we know if one of us needs the other we're there.

I mentioned being friends but i got no comment, i have however asked him twice now to pick up his things considering yesterday he said he'd come get them but he never turned up and today he still won't let me know, he has spoken to me today but he's ignored me since i said he needs to collect his things.

 

i just don't know, i cant switch off

[Eddie Edirol]

i just feel like something is stopping me from moving on, i've had my fair share of heart ache before but this just takes the biscuit

 

i just don't know, i cant switch off

 

You just took more drug than you took the last few heartaches, thats all. It is more intense, and takes longer to get over. You were 120% in, unlike your other relationships. So the heartache is intensified, and you wont be able to switch off for a while, just keep yourself distracted with friends and hobbies, but not other men.

[Magpie_x]

You just took more drug than you took the last few heartaches, thats all. It is more intense, and takes longer to get over. You were 120% in, unlike your other relationships. So the heartache is intensified, and you wont be able to switch off for a while, just keep yourself distracted with friends and hobbies, but not other men.

 

Definately staying away from men for a very long time, it's a shame i actually did start to develope feelings for someone, for the first time one day i thought "hang on guess who you've not thought about all day thanks to this guy making you smile" i was so proud of myself, i thought "yes i am finally making progress" i contacted my ex told him i wanted all of his stuff gone,

 

long story short thats when he wormed his way in after a slanging match (which he started) the talking became more civil, even the words " hopefully we'll cross paths in the future"

it hit hard, i ended up forgetting about the feelings for the other guy which i do feel stupid for cos im back to square one.

 

i just feel such an idiot

[Eddie Edirol]

Definately staying away from men for a very long time, it's a shame i actually did start to develope feelings for someone, for the first time one day i thought "hang on guess who you've not thought about all day thanks to this guy making you smile" i was so proud of myself, i thought "yes i am finally making progress" i contacted my ex told him i wanted all of his stuff gone,

 

long story short thats when he wormed his way in after a slanging match (which he started) the talking became more civil, even the words " hopefully we'll cross paths in the future"

it hit hard, i ended up forgetting about the feelings for the other guy which i do feel stupid for cos im back to square one.

 

i just feel such an idiot

 

You cant learn unless youre willing to feel like an idiot once in a while. Weve all done it.