Author Andrew2888 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Update guys and good news I guess. She called tonight and before is said anything she said "i love you i just want to experiance life without you before commitment" and i thought...GIGS! which is a relief i told her no friendship and no contact,she said she thinks she will be coming back but not to get my hopes up.Ims o happy there is a good chance of her coming back but if she doesnt I will have moved on anyway
Author Andrew2888 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 even though I know its gigs,this still hurts sooo much. The thought of her with other guys is so painful ( How do I get her out of my head?
Chi townD Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Update guys and good news I guess. She called tonight and before is said anything she said "i love you i just want to experiance life without you before commitment" and i thought...GIGS! which is a relief i told her no friendship and no contact,she said she thinks she will be coming back but not to get my hopes up.Ims o happy there is a good chance of her coming back but if she doesnt I will have moved on anyway Ummmm...GIGS really isn't anything to celebrate about. To me, it means that she values being away from you for the possibility of being with other guys than being with you. And for her to tell you that she thinks she's coming back but not to get your hopes up is just cruel. You don't need to hang on to false hopes and that's exactly what she's trying to give you. Sorry to be so negative, but it's time to move on. You deserve better.
Author Andrew2888 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Ummmm...GIGS really isn't anything to celebrate about. To me, it means that she values being away from you for the possibility of being with other guys than being with you. And for her to tell you that she thinks she's coming back but not to get your hopes up is just cruel. You don't need to hang on to false hopes and that's exactly what she's trying to give you. Sorry to be so negative, but it's time to move on. You deserve better. only happy cuz gigs atleast gives a chance of her returning
Chi townD Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 So....you'd rather her go out and party. Hook up and get intimate with some different guys and when she gets bored...she can come back to you. Is that about right?
Author Andrew2888 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 So....you'd rather her go out and party. Hook up and get intimate with some different guys and when she gets bored...she can come back to you. Is that about right? If she comes back to me and loves me? Yes ..if she comes back just because she needs someone and knows I will be there? No..dont mix them up,I'd only take her back if she actually still loved me or tried to make something of us.
Author Andrew2888 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Im posting here because NC is killing me and i need some support. GIGS is so painful its so hard to think she wants to be away from me after all the promises and love.I'm doing my best to move on but it still puts a knife in my heart. I go out with my friends a lot to ease the pain but while im out with them things remind me of her and it hurts.
Author Andrew2888 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 How do you avoid eveyrhting reminding you of the one you loved?
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 How do you avoid eveyrhting reminding you of the one you loved? You do it in stages; I don't know of anyone who can do this cold turkey. However, if a fellow tells me it's over, it's over, I will not call. Funny thing...they always ended up calling---trying to sabotage my healing. I eventually got to a point where I could delete pictures/memories, and throw away anything that reminded me of our time together. It was a wonderful healing process, actually. It meant I was free. You will be free of the pain, too---you just have to give it time.
Author Andrew2888 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 I start college in 2 months,I guess thats a great chance to truly move on and find new people,im willing to bet she will return from gigs several years down the road during college and It will be hard to take her back by that point,but if she puts in the effort,i would be willing to try again
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I start college in 2 months,I guess thats a great chance to truly move on and find new people,im willing to bet she will return from gigs several years down the road during college and It will be hard to take her back by that point,but if she puts in the effort,i would be willing to try again College is a whole new world, you will be meeting lots of new people and doing a lot of new things. By this time, your head will be in a much better place. By the time she may come back, you may be in a place where you are indifferent because of all the time that has passed. most important thing right now is to take care of yourself. Stay healthy and don't give up on your goals.
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