Svet74 Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 It stands for grass is greener syndrome. Where your ex leaves you because they think they can find better. And a bunch of other things as well. Usually happens to those who are in long term relationships like 2 yrs or more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Glove_slap Posted May 25, 2012 Author Share Posted May 25, 2012 it's still a theory at the moment and it shouldn't be used to explain things of the same nature. some use gigs as a fall back excuse but in reality it hasn't been proven and probably never will, it is however the best way to understand break ups and social relations in a capitalist state. Link to post Share on other sites
gibson Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) it is however the best way to understand break ups and social relations in a capitalist state. What does capitalism have to do with anything? The "dynamic" / "phenomenon" / "phase" (what we call G.I.G.S.) that teenagers / young adults wanting to date around, party, "live it up", "sow their wild oats", have the "college experience", rebel, sleep around, etc. before they want to settle down and find their "forever" relationship has gone on for quite some time, it happens all around in world and in many different cultures. Edited May 25, 2012 by gibson Link to post Share on other sites
raspberry.12 Posted May 26, 2012 Share Posted May 26, 2012 This is so right on. One of the biggest reasons I've had troubles in my relationship is because of my ex's family influences. If they just think for themselves the world would be a much better place. You're supposed to take everyone's opinions but ultimately come up with your own. Nobody should live your life but you. I experienced the same thing too, not only my ex's family influences but also friends & colleagues'. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Phoenix Posted May 26, 2012 Share Posted May 26, 2012 it's still a theory at the moment and it shouldn't be used to explain things of the same nature. some use gigs as a fall back excuse but in reality it hasn't been proven and probably never will, it is however the best way to understand break ups and social relations in a capitalist state. You're going through GIGS right now, I saw it in several of your posts. All Gigs is a pattern of behaviors for those going through the process of becoming cognitively and emotionally mature http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/324620-dancing-heart-break-songs This thread was a prime example of how you are no longer numb and embrace and enjoy the pain and starting to see the world in full color. There are other posts I have noticed this behavior in. You are pulling the same crap as 2 other former posters here. Plug your fingers in your ears, scream lalalalalalala and blame everyone and everything else but YOURSELF Link to post Share on other sites
pwv1986 Posted May 26, 2012 Share Posted May 26, 2012 I think its all this social networking bull$#*t revolution that's been happening for the longest time now. Most people have a handful of "backups" at all times who they choose from to give them what they need. The reality is not the case. Especially women today, they all think they have as many choices as there are men in their friends lists. We both know that its about quality and not quantity. Sadly, people don't grow up anymore. They stay scared and immature until they are 40 and completely useless to me at that point. SOOOOOOOO true! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Glove_slap Posted May 29, 2012 Author Share Posted May 29, 2012 It really applies to capitalist countries because of the drive for competition or at least that's how I see it. Competition splits people apart from one another, message me if you'd like to see my perspective on things. In less developed and communal societies dating rarely happens. As for closing my ears and blaming everyone else for my problems, what are you talking about? This is a discussion thread, why are you attacking me? I simply posed a question and now people are discussing about it. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 Do you think GIGS is a natural process in life ? It is if one believes people and relationships to be commodities to be bartered and sold and discarded at one's whim when the BBD (bigger better deal) comes along. A business mentor early on shared a widely published bit of wisdom with me, that to be careful how one treats others on the way up, as one will encounter the same on the way down. Having seen the ups and downs of life, that advice was spot-on, IMO. When I ignored it, and I have on occasion, it was at my own peril, in a few cases realized. My first exposure to what you describe as 'GIGS' occurred during the transfer of identity from family to peer group decades ago. Back then, some of it was called 'peer pressure', conforming to society's whims of the moment. As a non-conformist, I hoed a pretty tough row for many years. I guess the question I ask myself today is do I want my grass to be greener upon the backs of others and by the sweat of their brow and generosity of their heart and reward it with their disconnection once I am sufficiently satiated with their toils? I choose differently. We each have choices. In the end, there is no choice. What we do until then defines us. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 What does GIGS stand for? HELP!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 Ooops. Just figured it out... Grass is Greener Syndrome!!! Right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Glove_slap Posted May 30, 2012 Author Share Posted May 30, 2012 Yes, still very much a theory but only because there hasn't (and probably never will) been any scientific research done on it. Link to post Share on other sites
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