ketl Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 My boyfriend and I are constantly fighting. It is like we now have specific roles where he is the “too angry one” and I am the “too sensitive one” and we are completely unable to communicate once these get started. Example: We were making out and I asked him if he liked what we were doing. He said, “no.” I thought he was being deadpan or something so I said, “you don’t like it?” and he said no and got angry. Well it turns out he was irritated because he thought I was saying “do you mind what we are doing.” Apparently in his mind, once he got irritated I was supposed to completely not react and go back to cuddling. When I looked shocked he just said, “ok, fine I’m going to go surf the net.” I was more shocked. Commence a long fight with him lecturing me about being too sensitive and me crying for an hour. Another example: I asked if he minded that I wanted to cancel on our weekly dinner date with his friends. He got annoyed and stuff. Then he explained why he really wanted to go this week and not cancel. So I suggested that he just go without me and I stay home. That really annoyed him. When pressed later he said he was annoyed that I was seemingly trying to compromise because he hates having people do him favors. So I said to him he didn’t usually hate me doing favors. He kept saying he didn’t know why he was angry at me but he was. He was angrily lecturing me about why every little thing with me “turns into an hourlong discussion,” and we canceled our plans to go to the park and drove home because we were fighting. Cue me going off to be alone, crying again. He came to me after that and said that he was “depressed” and so sorry. Another example: I’ll admit that I’m kind of sensitive… literally hours after, we went to dinner and the waitress was kind of rude. We were talking about how people we know handle rudeness in other people. So he was like, “Man, [our mutual friend] would have totally known how to handle that situation, she is the least socially awkward person I know.” So I was like “ha ha… I hope you’re not making a comparison!” And he was like “WHY DO YOU ALWAYS DO THIS” and got very annoyed. I think there’s some kind of problem with our communication here because my boyfriend never used to feel that I was “doing” things—granted, I am usually not this insecure, but, well, my boyfriend has been constantly angry with me lately. I am extremely attentive and careful to make sure he’s happy. I check with him about everything. I never try to jump to conclusions with him. I have no idea where these rash outpourings of bad temper are coming from. These three fights above were all in the past 24 hours but are pretty typical. Help!!!!
dsw31 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Stop being so sensitive! I wouldn't be able to sit with the 2 of you for an hour from what I'm reading Just be happy & carefree.(much more attractive to guys) If he's still acting like a douche...dump him!
bamp78 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Um it's over...yea. Why go out of your way to please someone who takes it for granted? A guy gets annoyed with a girl when he doesn't appreciate her and what she offers. Don't feel like going out to dinner? Cool i will catch up with you later. If you are arguing about dumb **** now project how that figures into life down the road...
Professor X Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 How old are you 2? How long are you together. I dunno about him, but if I had to guess about you, I'd say you're extremely insecure. You try and fish way to much! (the question in the middle of the makeout, the "I hope u don't compare" comment, etc) - that can be really annoying. I usually throw a fish when a woman fishes but other men just get annoyed by it, so to each his own. If you're not together for to long I'd conclude that you just don't seem to mesh on that level. Also, asking if he likes it in the middle of a make-out session... must be SO annoying, granted, he could of used it to his own advantage, as I would do and tell you something amazing in response, like: "oh, you're so amazing, I love how your lips taste" etc etc... But again, to each his own and I can see how that can annoy him.
Author ketl Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Also, asking if he likes it in the middle of a make-out session... must be SO annoying, granted, he could of used it to his own advantage, as I would do and tell you something amazing in response, like: "oh, you're so amazing, I love how your lips taste" etc etc... But again, to each his own and I can see how that can annoy him. troll
Professor X Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Also, asking if he likes it in the middle of a make-out session... must be SO annoying, granted, he could of used it to his own advantage, as I would do and tell you something amazing in response, like: "oh, you're so amazing, I love how your lips taste" etc etc... But again, to each his own and I can see how that can annoy him. troll no, you.
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