Imajerk17 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Today I ran into an old friend, and we had lunch together. We talked about our dating lives. I told her my dating stories, and she was telling me about a guy she has a crush on. He finally asked her out Friday night and they went on a great date. I asked her what she liked about the guy. "Well he seems like he is just a really good person, someone who is genuinely nice." What did she really mean by that?? I suspect it was just a ploy on her part, that as she is a woman, she wants all guys to have their balls cut off, and that she feels its her job is to throw guys off the scent as to what really turns them on. So I suspect that she was lying to me through her teeth. I mean, women never EVER go for men who have integrity. Never NEVER. :mad:
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Actually, the biggest reason I gave my ex a shot was because he seemed to be nice and high integrity. Boy, was I wrong
Star Gazer Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Maybe she was implying that YOU are her type, Ima. 1
irc333 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Yeah, if that's all she had to say, she's not going to be going out with him again. Usually women continue to provide more details than that about the guy if she's into him. shes insulting him. females have turned genuinely nice into i don't 'fancy' him.
Radu Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Today I ran into an old friend, and we had lunch together. We talked about our dating lives. I told her my dating stories, and she was telling me about a guy she has a crush on. He finally asked her out Friday night and they went on a great date. I asked her what she liked about the guy. "Well he seems like he is just a really good person, someone who is genuinely nice." What did she really mean by that?? I suspect it was just a ploy on her part, that as she is a woman, she wants all guys to have their balls cut off, and that she feels its her job is to throw guys off the scent as to what really turns them on. So I suspect that she was lying to me through her teeth. I mean, women never EVER go for men who have integrity. Never NEVER. :mad: Why don't you say more about this woman and more importantly about her dating history.
Emilia Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I mean, women never EVER go for men who have integrity. Never NEVER. I only want someone with integrity and strong character 1
Radu Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 what a females says she wants and what a female wants are not the same. That applies to everyone, male or female ... and yes, in dating.
d'Arthez Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Integrity is the most important thing in a person. Dating a person without integrity is like getting involved with a jellyfish. You never know where you stand. Sadly, a lot of people 'fake' integrity, but they can only keep playing their act for so long. 4
Radu Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 no it doesn't apply to most males. its mostly a female thing. Well, that is your version of reality, not other's. It applies to the few males you know out of the 3.5billion that there are on the planet. It applies to the society you know. We lie through our teeth as well, maybe not so much in dating as them since we are worse at lying than them, but we do lie.
Freddys Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Being an interesting man to date means you have more than "just" integrity. You need a package of virtues, which includes integrity (off course). With this saying, woman means guy was way too nice, no challenge at all. They key word to her sayings was the "just" one. *I don't think she wanted you to think you are her type. Period.
KathyM Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Well, contrary to the opinions often expressed on this board by men, there are a lot of women out there that are drawn to guys who are genuinely nice, who have integrity, character, etc. Pretty much all the women I know are drawn to that type of man, and have chosen that type of man for their husband or long term companion. 4
Freddys Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Well, contrary to the opinions often expressed on this board by men, there are a lot of women out there that are drawn to guys who are genuinely nice, who have integrity, character, etc. Pretty much all the women I know are drawn to that type of man, and have chosen that type of man for their husband or long term companion. ...who have integrity, character, etc By just adding the word character, you do a 180 degrees turn to your own post. Off course ALL women prefer men with integrity (plus LOT of other parameters).
Joaquin Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 (edited) Well, contrary to the opinions often expressed on this board by men, there are a lot of women out there that are drawn to guys who are genuinely nice, who have integrity, character, etc. Pretty much all the women I know are drawn to that type of man, and have chosen that type of man for their husband or long term companion. I think a lot girls do end up with the good guys......eventually after being treated like dogs and ditched by the bad boys. I sometimes wonder though whether good guys really fire girls up in the same way as the bad boys did. Heck, why else do they just keep going back to them . Is being with a good guy settling for some girls, in that she couldn't have a bad boy? Like if she has a history of being with such guys it's hard to believe she suddenly saw the light. Edited May 21, 2012 by Joaquin
KathyM Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 ...who have integrity, character, etc By just adding the word character, you do a 180 degrees turn to your own post. Off course ALL women prefer men with integrity (plus LOT of other parameters). Not sure what you mean when you say I did a 180. Character is very much related to integrity and being a genuinely nice person. That's not to say that women don't care about anything else. They usually want certain other characteristics in a man, such as engaging personality, attractiveness, ambition, etc. Lots of variables goes into choosing a dating partner, but for many women, a genuinely nice person who has character and integrity is an attractive feature in a man. There are a lot of women who care about that, believe it or not. Most of the women I know care a lot about that.
KathyM Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I think a lot girls do end up with the good guys......eventually after being treated like dogs and ditched by the bad boys. I sometimes wonder though whether good guys really fire girls up in the same way as the bad boys did. Heck, why else do they just keep going back to them . Is being with a good guy settling for some girls, in that she couldn't have a bad boy? Like if she has a history of being with such guys it's hard to believe she suddenly saw the light. As I said on this board before, the bad boys may get some women initially, but the vast majority of women will dump him when they are treated badly, or when they realize they aren't going to change him, unless that woman has low self esteem and doesn't think she deserves to be treated better. Of all the people I know who have good relationships or good marriages, they are all with nice men with good character. The bad boys were eventually dumped or divorced. There are women who see the light after being mistreated by a bad boy, and they realize there is no future with that kind of man. My older sister, who dumped a really good guy and married a bad boy on the rebound, divorced him a few years later and wishes to God she had chosen the good guy when she had the chance. That good guy is now married to a wonderful woman who appreciates him. The bad guy died unloved and rejected by his own children. A bad guy is not someone to emulate or envy. He will lose out in the end. The good guys are the ones with lasting relationships and lasting marriages.
Joaquin Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 (edited) As I said on this board before, the bad boys may get some women initially, but the vast majority of women will dump him when they are treated badly, or when they realize they aren't going to change him, unless that woman has low self esteem and doesn't think she deserves to be treated better. Of all the people I know who have good relationships or good marriages, they are all with nice men with good character. The bad boys were eventually dumped or divorced. There are women who see the light after being mistreated by a bad boy, and they realize there is no future with that kind of man. My older sister, who dumped a really good guy and married a bad boy on the rebound, divorced him a few years later and wishes to God she had chosen the good guy when she had the chance. That good guy is now married to a wonderful woman who appreciates him. The bad guy died unloved and rejected by his own children. A bad guy is not someone to emulate or envy. He will lose out in the end. The good guys are the ones with lasting relationships and lasting marriages. That's a very good post :-) Seems that some people just need to learn the hard way tho, incl. both boys and girls. Edited May 21, 2012 by Joaquin 1
Andy_K Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 When a girl is already attracted to a guy, nice is all he needs to be. So long as he isn't also 'boring', he'll do great. 1
Freddys Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 When a girl is already attracted to a guy, nice is all he needs to be. So long as he isn't also 'boring', he'll do great. That's one side of a bad boy, which is a "bad" boy. Bad boys don't mean abusive ways of treatment. The "bad boys" wave should refer to pretend to be one, NOT act like bad boys in prison. The winners are the nice "bad" boys. ALWAYS.
threebyfate Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I only want someone with integrity and strong characterWhich is one of the many reasons why I married my husband. Strength of character and integrity to burn. So HAWT!
Kamille Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 You ladies must be lying. We all know women never ever ever go for men with integrity. That would mean they could, you know, have a long term relationship, have sex and affection on a regular basis and even have children. Who wants that? 1
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