zero123 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 We broke up two weeks ago. (please feel free to read my story in my other post under another thread if you're interested). Basically, he dumped me after he admitted he cheated and I was willing to forgive him so we got back together briefly before he broke up with me again because we were both emotionally drained trying to make this 5 month relationship work. I am still very much in love with him and he claimed he still likes me too but being in this relationship was too exhausting. I didn't contact him at all for the first 5 days after we officially broke up but I called him on the 6th day and we chatted for 6 hrs on the phone (back and forth). he still cared and he wasn't being cold towards me. we chatted about work and he gave me advice on how to deal with issues at work until the conversation got a bit "unhealthy" because i started telling him i missed him so much. I got a bit drunk last night (a week later) and while my friend was having fun with other people at the party, i started to think about him and cried to myself.(i haven't cried for a week!) and i dailed his number. we chatted for a bit and he was friendly. he asked about how i was and what i was up to and work. After I hung up, I kept asking myself what I was thinking and what I was doing. I still love him and miss him dearly and although i have been trying so hard to keep myself busy with friends and meeting new people, I still couldn't control myself but contacted him. I am still very much hung up on him and I would wake up every morning thinking about him which means for the past 2 weeks, my morning has been *****. Guys, please give me some advice on what to do...
Author zero123 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 it would be great if you guys could give me some insights on this.... thanks....
TaraMaiden Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Read the Caliguy No Contact Guide in my signature. Then read them again. Then go back to the top, and read them again. Read them until you're sick of them, then copy, paste and print them out, and plaster your walls with them. Above all, DO WHAT THEY SAY. Learn from this experience. Don't ever call him again, ever.
blotter Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Let's put it this way. When you call him after you are broken up, you are doing nothing but feeding his ego. Oh yeah, you look pathetic and desperate in the meantime. And guess what, you've given him something to tell his friends about and laugh about at your expense. This girl I cheated on and dumped keeps calling me saying she loves me, how warped is that? IF this is the way you want to project yourself post-breakup keep calling him.
Author zero123 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Thanks guys... It stings a little to know that I am such a failure and that I am such a fool. I knew it would feed his ego but I did it anyway. He said he tried contacting me but couldn't because I have blocked him. But i guess if he really wanted to get in touch, he could have done it in other ways (that was why I blocked him in the first place). I am totally aware that what we had is over and even if we did try again, we'd just end up destroying each other (me getting emotionally drained trying to make myself trust him again and he will get so tired too in the process). But I just can't help but wonder, if he's such an *******, why is he being nice to me? I don't mean anything to him anymore 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Did you ring him from the party? Were you a little drunk? I actually made a thread some time ago, on this very subject, see.....? He's being nice to you for his own benefit, not yours. Read the Caliguy NC Guide.... it's all in there.
Author zero123 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Did you ring him from the party? Were you a little drunk? Yes i was.. I will stay away from drinking alone. Thanks for your advice. I will stay strong. I will go for a run if I started to have silly crazy thoughts about getting in touch with him.
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