TaraMaiden Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 There have been four threads in the past 12 hours, that I have seen (could be more....) where people have admitted they went out drinking, or went to a bar, or went out with buddies and got drunk.... ...and whaddya know? They ended up breaking no contact and texting their exes. There are also a lot of comments from posters with partners, about getting a little drunk and ending up kissing a guy, or going to bed with them, or making out, or having sex....and i couldn't help it, I was drunk..... Well, here's the thing: Men, you shouldn't drink. You make complete total asses of yourself. Women, you definitely shouldn't drink, because your body-mass generally means you can't hold liquor as much as men can, and you make even bigger complete total asses of yourselves. The moral of the story is: when you're recovering from a broken relationship, and you're in NC - DON'T DRINK!! 4
january2011 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I agree. But then I don't drink, so that's easy for me to say. Just say no, kids. 1
esteem-jam Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I view it as this... some people have this mindset: I want to do something silly, reckless, bad, be an @$$... but normally I cant do this, so today I am going to bar, chill with friends, I will have my chance... because when you are drunk you are not accountale for you behaviours, ha ha! <--- dumb And drunk women = disgusting, repulsive. People who end up arguing or crying (like my mom) at the end of the drinking night are... sad, in my point of view. Why drink then?
xxSRMxx Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I can understand what youre saying..... However, when we are being told to get out and socialise with our friends and take our minds of it. Alot of these friends may socialise by going out for a drink.. I wish I never had a drink on friday, Its took me back to square one. But i'm the kind of person that when ive done the stupid drunken thing once, i wont do it again.
Author TaraMaiden Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 I found a much simpler solution; i just stopped drinking, and used my will-power. honestly, to let something toxic invade your system to the extent that you lose common sense or the ability to reason, is just foolish. in my opinion.... 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I can understand what youre saying..... However, when we are being told to get out and socialise with our friends and take our minds of it. Alot of these friends may socialise by going out for a drink.. I wish I never had a drink on friday, Its took me back to square one. But i'm the kind of person that when ive done the stupid drunken thing once, i wont do it again. You can socialize with friends and have cola. Why drink at all? I don't get the thrill, personally. Glad you won't do that to yourself again. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are smart and beautiful and then I want you to believe it.
Nohbody Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Do as thou wilt shall be the whole of the law Burn your fingers on the stove And everything old is new again
Author TaraMaiden Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 woah, that's deep.... Are you a bar-room philosopher....?
Nohbody Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 People make mistakes and they learn for themselves and their situation what will work and what won't to progress their own healing. Any advice rendered is in the spirit of saving others from unnecessary suffering. Not to be right. I feel like this thread is about being right. I may be wrong.
Nohbody Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 (edited) Ok then. I misunderstood. And apologize if my misunderstanding offended. Edited April 15, 2012 by Nohbody
coltsfan1 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 i must admit at the beginning of my break up, drinking was a BAD decision. I couldn't think straight if I had to and all drinking did was cloud my thoughts even more. But now MANY months later I enjoy going out for drinks with friends and family. Heck, a few weeks ago I was at the same bar as my ex, was a bit weird at first but we ignored each other and I had a ball. I did shots, drank beer, and danced the night away. But every person is different.
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Great post Tara, I could not agree more. If we gathered all of the incidents where contact was made I would guess that just about every single one of them ended up hurting more than helping. Of course there are exceptions but like the book title, it's called a breakup because it's broken! More power to the few that go back and live happily ever after but the reality is that is most likely not going to happen.
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