will he ever come back

[foxylov]

My bf of 4 years and I have been broke up for going on 7 months now ..4 months ago he started a new relationship with someone else ..they have broke up 7 times in 4 months ..so last week he and i met up so our daughter could spend the day with him ..he told me he still thinks about me all the time and miss's me when he talked about this other women his body language and the look in his eyes told me he was not happy he did not say anything good about her other than he likes the way she talks to him ..but while walking he said I was looking for attention from other guys and i told him his attention was the only one i wanted ...and he said that will change over time ...so we went back to his place and out of no where he undress's but naked right in front of me ..when I asked him why he would do that knowing I want him back he said you could of had this 10 times a day if you wanted it and you threw it away ..yes i was the one that broke up ..because of stress and losing my temper I was the only one working and was losing my job to a lay off ...realizing my mistake I asked him to come back to me and he refused..but anyways a few minutes later I was using the bathroom and he walked in and said opps im to late because I had already pulled my pants up ...he told me he dreams about me in a sexual manner and even looks at my pics in the same manner often ...I told him was taking a trip and he got all sad told me his heart was hurting when i asked for a hug upon leaving and a kiss he said you have no idea how bad i want to but I just can't.. put your self in my shoes ...an this week he has hardly said two words to me they got back together I think for he was posting pics of a bomb fire at her house over the weekend ..witch crushed me ..I do not know what to do ....I want him back so bad ..but I am scared he will never come home to me and his daughter or he will forget me ..he dose not call or make an effort to see our daughter or to talk to me all conversation started about him seeing her has been at my experiences and effort ...but if I do go NC with in 3 days he is sending me either e-mails saying good morning and texing or even calling ....is he playing games ???? is he ever going to come back? its been 6.5 months since he walked out my door ..I miss him so bad I still cry everyday and still have intense pain when i think of a life with out him ..this is killing me ...i guess I just don't know what to do move on witch i am trying to so hard or should i wait him out ...I have not dated or seen anyone at all ...i just can't.... suggestions please ..what would be the best way to handle this ???How can I get him to realize how much he means to us ? When I showed up at his place he reached out for a hug and took a hold of me and my daughter and hugged us for a really long time ...I am so confused also he has said he wants to learn to be friends and maybe more from there ...how can he act like we where never friends when we lived together and had a child together for 4 years ?

Edited May 19, 2012 by foxylov

[Savage4]

You know the situation better than anyone here... when you put yourself in his shoes what comes to mind? Why can't he come back? To me it sounds like a power struggle. When you broke up with him you left him hurt and powerless. Now he is trying to control the situation by telling you that you lost your chance. You also have a child together which really complicates things. You were the only one working and it sounds like you were struggling to make ends meet. Do you actually want him back or do you just want him supporting your child in some form?