Rahstyles Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Well heres the thing.. Me and this girl met back in dec 22 2011. Yea i know it sound cheesy but it was a mobile phone internet meet. At first I was not looking for anybody as I still had a wife that I was divorcing who was yelling at me all the time. Then I started to talk to her more and more and I fell in love with her. The day came when I asked her to become my gf as I thought she would lieingly agree...... First she said we are too far (she lives in japan) I live in (US) so we should find sombody more closer to each other. When she said that to me It made me want her more.. So i asked her again and finally she said yes. I promised her that I would come visit her one day. A month had passed and it was near feb. I finally made a decision that I would go see her on april 20. She is 18 im 26 so we have a major age diffrence. I talked to her when i wake up on my breaks at work when i get off work and till the time we go to sleep. We even take showers and eat at the same time. Well April 20 came and I was so excited to see her.. I saved up enough money to finnaly meet her in japan. I arived there.. 10hours later. She saw me first at the airport and tapped me on the shoulder. This was the first time i met her in person.. and as we road the train together and we talked I knew this was the girl I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. I never had a relationship like this before and I never felt this way about anybody before. That day we got to the hotel.. She said she had to go home because her parents found out that I came all the way to japan and they didnt know me. I told her shes 18 and shes already an adult. Later that night she went home and got in an argument with her parents.. and she asked if she could come over there and spend the night.. I told her it might not be a good idea.. But do what you want.. So she came. Next mourning her dad comes into the hotel and starts yelling and hitting her daugther. He is a abusive dad and doesnt let her daughter have a bf ever. So many times I had to apologize for her.. And her mother who never tells noboody that her daugther gets abused is mad at me for getting her in trouble. He told me to leave the next day. I didnt want him hitting his daughter so I did just that. well her dad took her cell away and she started communicating with me on the computer late at night before she goest to sleep when her dads at work. I then sent her a phone she could use with her mifi device so she can talk to me all the time via tango skype ect. All was going well till last sunday... When her dad threatened to go to cali and kill me and she aid that to her daughter... And I posted this message on my fb saying " If anything happense to me Her dad did it.. Also he is a abusive dad. Her mom saw that and got pissed off at her daugther and me saying she will never forgive me.. Find out that her step daugther called her dad and told her what i posted on fb and her dad was ferious saying he was going to beat her again.. So her mom and daughter went over to the step daughters house and stayed over there because her mom was affriad her daughter was going to get hit again. Well the problem is she left the phone i gave her at work which is 8 hours away from where her step sister is and her mom went back to the house but wont send her the phone because she blames all this on me.. Also her step sister wont let her use the phone to call or text me.. So I havent heard her since Mon... Last thing she said to me was.. "I love you , Dont give up on me cause Ill never give up on you!" Right now i been waiting for her call ever since praying to god she finds a way to contact me.. We where supposed to go to the filipines in july and get married and file for a visa so She can come live with me in the US and never have to deal with that again.. But I cant even contact her.. and I been waiting for her... We had a plan set up and everything. Everyday I think about it... And think maybe i should give up. just let go... this and that.. I tRied apologizing to her mom who never msg me back. Im depressed.. cant funtion at work ... havent eaten much.. and i have this pain in the middle of my chest... from my heartbrokeness... No matter what I cant let her go because I love her and where going to get married! I dont know what everybody here can do to help me but ... If you have any advice please... If i hear from here.. I keep this updated
Author Rahstyles Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 Are you divorced yet? Yup..............
january2011 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Until you hear from her, I'm not sure there's a lot you can do except to keep trying to contact her.
Author Rahstyles Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 Until you hear from her, I'm not sure there's a lot you can do except to keep trying to contact her. I cant contact her.. Cause she dont have a phone. Oh yea.. and half her family keeps messaging on fb saying this is all my fault.. and its pissing me off cause they havent even heard of my side of the story.. But i just keep my mouth shut and say im sorry.. cause i dont want things to get worse.. Im just worried that if too much time goes by.. .she might just find sombody over there and the feeling of her loving me and missing me is going to be less and less because she got used to not talking to me.
january2011 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 I'm not unsympathetic. You can't get hold of her and she can't get a message to you. Unless someone has any bright ideas for you, all we can do is listen. I would suggest that you unfriend her family in Facebook, but I suspect that it's your only source of news about her and you're reluctant to cut off that link.
Author Rahstyles Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 I'm not unsympathetic. You can't get hold of her and she can't get a message to you. Unless someone has any bright ideas for you, all we can do is listen. I would suggest that you unfriend her family in Facebook, but I suspect that it's your only source of news about her and you're reluctant to cut off that link. Her mom just posted a message to me saying for me to move on
d'Arthez Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 You never even bothered to exchange email addresses?
Art_Critic Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Rahstyles.. like her Mom has requested, you should move on.. but first remove ALL of her family from your FB friends. If you do not do this, it will not end well... Now is the time for action and if you persist in trying to tell your side of the story and win her over it will fail. No Contact and remove her FB friends and family.
FitChick Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 You can avoid this problem in the future by dating a woman who is an independent adult and self-supporting.
Author Rahstyles Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 I cant just move on and I wont.. I hate when parents try to keep there child all bottled up like bubble boy and wont give me a chance! Im not marrying her mom im marrying her!
Art_Critic Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Then expect the worse.. bet on that they are already recording the number of times they have told you to move on etc etc... If you keep bothering her then one of the steps they have at their disposal is the legal avenue. Do you want a restraining order to be placed on you ? Please remove her family from your FB.
d'Arthez Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Wait, you are 26, divorced once. Fell in love in the course of days, made plans to elope before even meeting this girl in person? After this lovely trip, in which her family make it clear that you are not wanted, you refuse to accept it is over? If that were me, I'd appreciate being directed to a psychologist.
Author Rahstyles Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 Wait, you are 26, divorced once. Fell in love in the course of days, made plans to elope before even meeting this girl in person? After this lovely trip, in which her family make it clear that you are not wanted, you refuse to accept it is over? If that were me, I'd appreciate being directed to a psychologist. I have met her in japan.. Shes 18 shes an adult.. and she loves me.. why does her parents get to control her?
Phennyphen Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 You seem quite immature, I think you have fallen in love with the romantic famtasy of this long distance love that is actually over. If this girl really wanted to be with you, her parents wouldnt be an issue, she would be with you. Her mum was right, you need to move on.
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