jlola Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I have a male friend who is extremely good looking. Although he is not as confident as he should be. We were talking about dating and he said if he likes a woman he will ask her if she is on facebook and contact from there. I do not have a facebook account. But I told him if a man is interested, why not ask her for her phone number? that way,she will either give it or not. Also, she will understand he is interested. Does it feel safer for men to ask a woman for her facebook address then try to get to know her? I think it gives mixed signals. Does he like me or want to be friends? What has been your experience?
veggirl Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Yeah asking for a FB is really lame. Your friend should ask for phone #s, not Facebooks!!
5-F Dawg Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Yeah asking for a FB is really lame. Your friend should ask for phone #s, not Facebooks!! true that...if your friends maybe try to explain to him that phone #s are way better...facebook seems really stalkerish!
d'Arthez Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Phone numbers all the way. Asking for a FB would suggest some serious issues, even if it is just his shyness, people will tend to assume worse.
Author jlola Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Thank you for replies. Ironically he feels the opposite. He believes women will see him as a player if he asks for phone number. I have told him even IF she does not give him her phone number(may be married,getting over a relationship,not want a relationship etc) it is a huge compliment to have a handsome and respectful man think you attractive. No harm done. I guess men do not really understand how woman think. He thinks his approach is logical. I think it shows lack of confidence.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) How old is this guy? He sounds extremely young/naive/dumb when it comes to women...not that this is a rarity or anything but he seriously picks up women with a facebook add? man, that's something I'd expect a really young guy to think or at least in his early 20's, but then you say If a woman doesn't give him her number she might be married? So how old are the women he's asking out? Not too common when you're in your early 20's to find someone married..but maybe that was your way of just giving him a reason why he wouldn't get the number. Bottom line is If he's a good looking guy then he's probably able to be stupid enough with women where they'll just come to him, and they'll think his little naive/dumb moves are cute and make him look innocent, until they find out this doesn't mean he can't be a jerk still and totally clueless about women...so It's likely that even asking for a facebook add will get him accustomed to thinking it's ok but If he's good looking the girl will just let it slide, where as a normal or unattractive guy just might be seen as creepy doing the exact same thing. Sounds like you're interested in him and might be the reason you're friends in him, so why don't you just make a move? he probably doesn't even get it that you're into him. Personally I only use FB for close friends and family, so for me It's not an option but I still get asked sometimes but I don't ask myself but of course by then you already have the number and talking to the person obviously. Edited May 17, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
dbave Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 This guy is an idiot. You may think he's cute and handsome now but those compliments will soon fade and be replaced with hatred over his stupidity. FB requests are for random people who you barely know who couldn't give a rats ass about your photos except for it being some pixels to look at, family, real friends and ONE relationship person. Thats what he doesn't get. When you ask a FB friend request you get insight on who the other person is talking to. So imagine he asks a girl that is dating multiple people. Wouldn't it be totally ***in awkward is multiple dates were commenting on the same photo or posting wall posts? That doesn't make sense to do that. A phone number is a much looser way of connecting with someone you don't know well yet. If the person makes the cut, as really a potential partner and more communication is necessary, then FB comes into play. Damn this is basic ****.
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