SJC2008 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Got a number online and have some concerns. She says she's shy at first but warms up quickly (This is NOT a concern). My concern is that over the few emails and texts we have exchanged she has yet to answer a question?? Replies with what's up and stuff like that. She offered me her # and told me to TEXT her. The last time a woman told me to text her she was a she-male (true story, called her bluff and she tried to act like she told me). When she texted back my initial text I told her I could call her and she said lol she's about to go to bed?? Any tips on how to approch??
Author SJC2008 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) For clarification since I feel like I'm writing a novel here over time lol this is the newest one. The one who had to "reschedule never" called back after I tried again. Edited May 17, 2012 by SJC2008 spelling
FitChick Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I think eventually your persistence will pay off and you will find someone perfect for you. At least you put yourself out there and carry on regardless, unlike too many on here.
sid3 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Hey SJC still chugging along eh? Good for you. Sorry to read the other one didn't get back to you, glad to see you shook it off though. As far as this new one, I haven't a clue. I know nothing about OLD. Sorry I'm not much help. My guess is she's likely a flake. I'd probably focus on other prospects until you find one that shows an equal amount of interest. I recently have, you will too, its just a matter of time.
Author SJC2008 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Hey SJC still chugging along eh? Good for you. Sorry to read the other one didn't get back to you, glad to see you shook it off though. As far as this new one, I haven't a clue. I know nothing about OLD. Sorry I'm not much help. My guess is she's likely a flake. I'd probably focus on other prospects until you find one that shows an equal amount of interest. I recently have, you will too, its just a matter of time. Thanks it's all good. Pretty soon I'll be so numb I'll be able to approach Eva Longoria, look her dead in the eye and ask her out without studdering or blinking lol! I'm not mad about the last one flaking or even disappointed because I expect it with OLD so it's all good. This new one is a tough read, she states she's shy in her profile so I'm ok with that but to shy to even talk on the phone? We'll see and yes, like always there will be updates lol.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Start looking for other chicks. It's a bad idea to get with a chick who lies and sucks at communication. The most you should do is bang her (if it is a woman) but don't get into anything serious.
Lucky_One Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I am not wild about text-heavy relationships (I prefer calls), but I will have to admit - if I were a shy woman who wasn't sure about how to talk to a strange man on the phone, and if I coupled that with being a little leery over personal safety with meeting guys off the internet (as all OLD guides suggest you SHOULD be), then I would be a text advocate! You seem to have an excellent attitude towards dating (OLD in particular) (and yay for you with that!!), so I would give her the benefit of the doubt. She has told you she is shy, and you don't know if you are the first guy (or the 300th) to ever contact her, and you don't know yet how freaked out she is just by the thought of meeting a stranger from the net. Some shy people have a horror of dead silences on the phone, so she may feel very safe with texting at this point, especially if she feels she can control her personal safety with it by not giving out too much private until she figures out of you are a Ted Bundy fan.
Author SJC2008 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 I am not wild about text-heavy relationships (I prefer calls), but I will have to admit - if I were a shy woman who wasn't sure about how to talk to a strange man on the phone, and if I coupled that with being a little leery over personal safety with meeting guys off the internet (as all OLD guides suggest you SHOULD be), then I would be a text advocate! You seem to have an excellent attitude towards dating (OLD in particular) (and yay for you with that!!), so I would give her the benefit of the doubt. She has told you she is shy, and you don't know if you are the first guy (or the 300th) to ever contact her, and you don't know yet how freaked out she is just by the thought of meeting a stranger from the net. Some shy people have a horror of dead silences on the phone, so she may feel very safe with texting at this point, especially if she feels she can control her personal safety with it by not giving out too much private until she figures out of you are a Ted Bundy fan. Well this is what I'm hoping. I found out why the last woman I dated never answered her phone, bc when we talked she couldn't think of anything to say and there were awkward silences. What I'm worried about is what I said in the op. This is following the path of when I ran into a you know what. They both offered their numbers, they both told me to text. The last one made me fishy bc "she" kept saying text any time. I saved her pics to my pc so I could blow them up bigger, then I saw it. Once I saw it it was obvious, even with the regular size pics. I obviously didn't expect that and she was pretty lol! I showed the guys at work on my phone and one was like yeah she's pretty. I said look again and look really good and he saw it to. Now the new girl is on a paid site, not a free one like the other. She's 5'4", shorter than the other one. Also her profile says she'd like to have kids one day. I don't want to force her to talk on the phone and make her uncomfortable but I want to hear her voice at least once. We'll see what happens.
irin Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 yes shes avoiding the awkward silence on the phone when you two meet, spend time together, get to know each other, youll have more to talk about,
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