CarrieT Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I got caught up with the ring issue when the real issue is "I'm paying all the bills (nearly £1200 a month aka $2000 a month = £800/month mortgage, £40/month water rates, £120 month gas/electric, £130/month council tax, and then £50/month for our Phone/Internet/Tv package) and she has proclaimed that she's saving every penny to get out of here asap." Seems a bit unfair that she's living rent free, I'm paying all the bills, and then the wedding cancellation fee from the venue is £1600 on top of it ALL.. It totally feel for you. When I got divorced at the age of 25, my exH bribed our moderator which eventually cost me over $200k. Now, 20+ years later I can look back on it as "it is only money." I am also pragmatic in that regard because I survived the Northridge earthquake and lost all my belongings and was living in my car for over four months. "It is only stuff." So forgive me, the ring isn't the issue. The fact I'm being walked all over financially (and it feels like someone has trodden dog shat in my face) is the real issue. Oh and she's operating her childminding (aupair) business out of my home until she leaves. If you are being walked all over financially, YOU are allowing it to happen. Evict her from your home. Am I being unreasonable with all this expecting some kind of financial input from her? Is she paying rent? If not, give her 30 days to leave.
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