blauren88 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 So I started seeing this guy that I hooked up with months back. Things were going really well and we were hanging out every day. I told him I was moving and he kind of asked me to move in with him. He told me he really liked me and that he was falling for me and wanted to see where it goes. A few days after that I noticed him pulling back and when I would hang out with him he felt so distant. His friend told me he wasnt ready for a relationship and when I asked him what was up he said he wanted to talk in person, I told him I already knew so there was no point. He then told me he still wanted to talk so I would know the reason why. This happened a week ago and I still havnt seem him. Going fr hanging out with him almost every day to not at all, with no explanation I don't know what to do. I have asked to talk to him 2 days in a row now and he keeps avoiding it almost. I don't know wether I should try and show him what we had was good and can work even if I am moving or just move on cuz obviously I am not that important enough that he can't mak the time to talk about somethig serious.... Help
Lovely Girl Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 He seems wishy washy; like he doesn't know what he wants. One minute he wants you to move in with him and the next he's pulling away? That doesn't make sense, unless there is something missing in this story. I always want closure with guys so I would try one more time to talk to him about what happened. If he is a coward and doesn't give you that opportunity I would find my own closure. Last resort would be to write him a letter about how you felt about the situation and then move on. Please give me some input on my post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/322348-he-asked-my-number-but-he-just-being-nice
AlanaIrvine Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 i know what your going through i was in the same position too, id be distant back off and go out with your friends and have fun show him your still the person he fell for, dont push him too much or youll come across as clingy (as i did), you dont know what youve got until you lose it- so you become distant and back off; it will work one of 2 ways he'll either miss you and come crawling back to you or youll realise you can do better and deserve be with a person who is definite of their feelings and what they want and not mess you around good luck and best wishes
M2155 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Everything above poster said. I am cautious now if a guy gets quickly too fast (I don't know how quickly you moved to this point). Seeing each other every day is a little unnatural (to me) because I wonder what he was doing before- am I replacing someone else or does he have no life? Maybe also he got scared and the seriousness of this caught up with him and he didn't know how to handle it. I'd send him a note or something just saying you feel this moved too fast and do not think you're ready for this stage. Then keep your distance till he figures himself out.
Patrice Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I don't understand guys ... similar situation .. back and forth, close and distant .. I finally had enough this week and ended it. I told him he either lets me in, or lets me go .. he ended up swearing and hanging the phone up on me. That was it for me. I called him back and told him when you swear at me and hang up the phone, it was time for me to go my own way. I'm pretty hurt, but it's been no contact since Monday .. day at a time.
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