beth1.8T Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by sally1530 What? What kind of man is this? Tell me? AN a**h***!!!!!! EDIT: no no im sorry that was wrong...he just wasnt ready for a commitment.......but he should have been more upfront with you....**cough cough** hes still an a**h*** tho**cough cough** Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpion1691 Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 Beth you answering up for Sally. Be nice now. I agree. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sally1530 Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 Thanks I needed your opinions.... its a touchy subject invading privacy/secrets.... online chatting vs. profiles and pictures advertising your single when your not.... Link to post Share on other sites
the_opposite_sex Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 this sounds odd, at least it does to me....like a 6 mts ago, i found my b/f had signed up to some singles thing sayin he was a "man wanting to meet a girl" or something like that....and i read his profile, and he made it clear that he was taken. So why sign up to something where your lookin to talk to a GIRL, if your tellin 'em your taken!? why not just go somewhere, where you can meet both men/women? Keep in mind, he's a very very sociable, outgoing, friendly person. Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpion1691 Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 Thats a hard one. Playing devils advocate. Maybe he just wants to put a face to the people ha has conversations with, Does he even like going to bars or out. I am not in touch with the party scene and I don't like bars. I work with mostly guys so I have no contact with the opposite sex. My wife does not talk personal with me, She says I am wrong when I say my oppionion instead of saying that interesting and givning helpfull critisism. I fell upon this forum. I feel funny when the guys go buy and see Love Shack because this is not that kind of personal pickup spot like finding a lover. He may also feel more comfortable talking on the computer about certain subjects. I may be way off base but these come to mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sally1530 Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 Why do engaged men want porn and have profiles that they are single on sex sites while there future (good looking) soon to be wife is sleeping in the next room? Note: I never turned him down for sex once.. and love to have it anytime he wanted... Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpion1691 Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 You have a good question, I personnely feel he should not be there, The question is is this his normal actions before you two met. I have been told you don't the person you meet. He now should be looking to you for the things he needs. If he needs more than staright sex, he needs to discuss this with you, If he is not comfortable about that, maybe you can help him. He does not need to be in the single section looking. You maybe the most gorgeous person he has ever met. Some day someone better will come along. Is he ready to deal with that. Is he going to continue looking at you or is he going to contiue looking and wishing. Thats the problem with more than one partner, we tend to compare. I know this is many different avenues, He does not need to be where he is, with a young willing partner thats willing to give her self and life too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sally1530 Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 I would have experiemented with things, if he would have only told me... he didnt feel comfortable enough to talk to me after he found out I didnt like strippers. I asked him several times... are there any fantacy's (sp?) that I can forfill for you? He said no.... and that he asked me and I told him I would like him to awaken me at night while im asleep and get it on.... he never tried... I can see now that if he is getting all this attention from other gals wanting him from this internet sex site, then why would he be happy with just me? Knowing that he could get more... in a way he set himself to fail with me from the start. We never had a chance... First you have to be honest in a relationship, and have respect for one another. You also have to be happy with what you have at the moment... and not always want what you cant have... period. What do you all think? Link to post Share on other sites
the_opposite_sex Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 Scorpion, my b/f isn't a partyer by any means. And he doesn't ever go out to the bars. He's a computer freak! He spends alot of time on it...but I can't blame him for that b/c it's gonna be his future job since his major is computer science. Link to post Share on other sites
the_opposite_sex Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 i also just looked at his yahoo personals...he has a profile, but he has never contacted anyone and vice versa. So I dont know if he just signed up as a joke or what. He also only has profiles for MSN and Yahoo, maybe that's b/c he uses both of those b/c he has messengars and email at both MSN and Yahoo...b/c he don't have account for match.com, lavalife.com, or any of those. Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpion1691 Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 There are different reasons why people go on yahoo personals. Sally has offered him his options, she did not turn him down. he continued in an area that allowed him a way out or to fanticize. I am still in love with my wife with no chance of reconcile. I would count the sand particals at the beach, because I loved her so much. Yes I have a personal on Yahoo. I met a very nice person as a pen pal only on yahoo. She told me about the person she met , her wedding plans and she gave me a positive outlook, She is no longer on Yahoo out of respect for her new husband. As for the-oposite-sex, he may be on the computers for the right reason, you both may be looking at personals, I still think the fantcy should be for each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sally1530 Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 I will definately talk to my next boyfriend about the internet and its uses.... I want to be clear what is appropriate and what is not. So that no secrets between us... no confusions on right and wrong, no more hurt feeling.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sally1530 Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 Thanks its good to hear from you all... it helps to know how other people feel about this situation who are not emotionally involved... Link to post Share on other sites
kalie Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Im pretty new here, hope its okay to just jump in. This thread pulled my trigger a bit. Several years ago I lived with my , then , fiance. Everything seemed normal, or maybe I was just niave. I found a couple of I love you cards at his office. He told me a bs story about a coworker sending them as a thank you for fixing her computer. Yeah, shes going to end the card with I love you. Okay, maybe I was stupid for a long time. Anyway...long story short. 1. Boyfriend had been online for years chatting. Finally met a woman who he had an affair with for about six months. Funny thing was......he was home every weekend, every night *until the end* Cell never rang. This idiot woman went six months before considering he had a g/f and thats why there was never any real dating. Finally I kicked himo ut and he moved in with her. ONly to leave her several months later ( I got notes on my door from this woman who I later found out hired a P. I. to see who I was) He asked me to take him back and I refused. Later I got several calls from other online girls he had been talking to ( they got my number from his cell, snooping Im sure) Asking me who I was and such. I guess he tends to tell tall tales online and he gets a lot of attention. One woman said he told her he had a disease and he was dying. Of course I asked him to remove my number from his cell, he did. I dont know. Was our relationship in trouble before the net or after. Hard to tell. Id say this guy as well as many other men/WOMAN who go online to play a little while in a so called relationship really are not worth having around. I have moved on to much more healthy relationships. My current is , or seems to be, normal. He has no clue how to turn a computer on..LOL. Thank God. Thanks for letting me share. Btw, I need a new keyboard so please excuse the typos and lack of commas and such. Link to post Share on other sites
kalie Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 I dont know. Was our relationship in trouble before the net or after. Hard to tell. Id say this guy as well as many other men/WOMAN who go online to play a little while in a so called relationship really are not worth having around Let me just rephrase something. Playing online a little is different, in my opinion, then actually going off and meeting people at internet gatherings and sleeping with them, as my ex did. Mine cheated physically with online women he had met. I dont know if going into sites and chatting should be considered anything but being bored, or maybe the first step in doing something that will eventually hurt a relationship.? Link to post Share on other sites
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