What do i do from here?

[Lenn]

Here is the link to my other post which describes it all.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/320411-we-were-both-bad-people-i-cant-live-myself-what-do-i-do-now

 

But i Just want to know what to do now? Will i leave her alone? Or is there any chance i could try get her back? Honest comments please!

[budley12]

"There is nothing to do. Just BE.

Do nothing. BE.

No climbing mountains and sitting in caves.

I do not even say "be yourself" -since you do not know your true self.

Just BE. -Nisargadatta Maharaj

[Lenn]

I just wish i could say something to her that will make it easier on her so maybe she could forgive me some day.

[budley12]

I just wish i could say something to her that will make it easier on her so maybe she could forgive me some day.

 

My experience: I pleaded, begged, wrote poems, gave cds of my feelings, the list goes on. I did everything to try to make my ex see "the good in me", but at this point I had hurt him and he had already moved on, and it honestly just made me look pathetic. At one point I was on my knees crying asking for him to take me back (the last time I saw him). I honestly think the only way for our ex's to forgive us is give it time. We need to heal and find ourselves just as they do. For different reasons our relationships did not work out, and if there is any chance of us getting back with our ex's we need to find those reasons within ourselves and become a better person. I believe that you should work on you just as I am working on me. Find what makes YOU happy. Sure our ex's made us happy, but nothing besides you being you will last. Its a crappy thought, but its the TRUTH. Our lives are our own... and nobody elses. So make it your own, and try not to rely on others. God brings and takes people out from our lives for a reason, and it is up to us to grow and learn from these experiences.