nick01675 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 hey guys, let me make my story short. I met this girl in 2010, we were close friends. i kinda had feelings for her she was confused(that what she told me). later one fine day she confess that she made out with some random guy. i was kinda heart broken. Had a small fight but we were back together as same old friends and she was still "confused" about her feelings for me. One fine day we made out, and after a week we had a big fight. i had sent her a long abusive message and there was no contact after that. It was hard for me i was not getting over her. i tried lot of ways. joined loveshack.org which helped me a lot. but even then i used to miss her a lot. i broke NC twice called her and spoke to her like loser. she was not ready to patch up. After 1 year she calls me back asked if we could hang out. i met her and she told me she has a boyfriend now, but will break up soon as its not working. now we hang out a lot. when i asked her about her "confused" feelings she told it was just a physical attraction she had towards me. yesterday nite after i dropped her home, she had left her mobile in my car. i had her mobile with me the whole night and was curious to read the message(its not rite i know) and i was shocked to see that she was making out with her boyfriend every other nite expect for last night coz i had her mobile. she used call him after i dropped her home. she also message other random guys asking them to stay over and naughty naughty messages. Now i'm totally f*****, now i think i can move on. but before that should i let her go like that. shall i play??? coz i wasted my entire one year thinking of her, depression , stopped going to gym was at home all the time feeling low and depressed.. Should i just let her go? Now i'm half happy because she is not a sweet and good girl which i was thinking and i can just move on and the other half i'm angry and sad coz i had feeling for a sl**. feels really bad. My question 1: will i get over soon now(coz rite now i'm kinda ok and strong dont know when i'll be depressed)? if any one has past experience please share. 2: should i be the same old nice guy and use her like she is using me now?? if u guys need to know wat i was going through last year u can see my previous post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/287976-should-i-msg-her-again Thanks betterdeal for your support and others too thanks a lot. i hope i get more replies for this post.
wilsonx Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 yup, let her go! 1) takes time 2) shes not using you. you aren't listening to her. You are trying to instill your will over hers, she doesnt want to be with you. She said "she's confused" Anyone that says that does not know what they want or what's "right" You are the person at fault for continuing to pursue this with someone that doesn't show the same level of commitment back.
EgoJoe Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 yup, let her go! 1) takes time 2) shes not using you. you aren't listening to her. You are trying to instill your will over hers, she doesnt want to be with you. She said "she's confused" Anyone that says that does not know what they want or what's "right" You are the person at fault for continuing to pursue this with someone that doesn't show the same level of commitment back. I halfass disagree with the bolded. They know what is right, they CHOOSE to be selfish.
TaraMaiden Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 you guys are really messed up, and i don't think either of you seem mature enough to even be thinking about a relationship. you're acting like childish pubescent teenagers. Grow up. I'm sorry, but dumb games like this belong in the school yard....
JoeyArnold Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 What does it mean for a girl to get confused about whether or not she likes somebody? I recently told my best friend I like her & she has yet to respond to that. Maybe she is confused about me too. But I guess guys get confused too, so maybe I know what that is like.
wilsonx Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I halfass disagree with the bolded. They know what is right, they CHOOSE to be selfish. On a conscious level they don't. It's instincts/emotions
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