jobaba Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I wasn't attracted to the other two girls so those dates don't matter. I would have said the same about the girl referenced in the OP. But then why would she have gone on a date with you? And why would you have gone on a date with girls you weren't attracted to? Then again, I know I've gone on dates where I had a zero chance walking through the door. I think sometimes women do it because they like being asked out, but they're not attracted to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I would have said the same about the girl referenced in the OP. But then why would she have gone on a date with you? And why would you have gone on a date with girls you weren't attracted to? Then again, I know I've gone on dates where I had a zero chance walking through the door. I think sometimes women do it because they like being asked out, but they're not attracted to you. Saturday Girl didn't look like her picture. The Sunday girl I met on a Telephone dating service and was attracted when we met. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Call her back and ask her out on her machine?-lol "I was just thinking about what a wonderful time we had Friday night. Call me" 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 It could be she's not interested after meeting. It happens to all of us, there is just no real connection even though it might seem like it at the time. It is possible for one party to perceive a connection and the other not. But there are a few things I think worth mentioning: Leaving it a couple of days before a follow-up text is a bit of a long time. If a guy is really interested, he's likely to make contact each day. It's not a good idea to send multiple texts and become stalkery but showing an interest in communicating is a good move. If a guy only contacts me once every few days, and I've been out with him and thought we got on well, then I'll think he's only thinking of me every couple of days. I'd like to think I was on his mind a bit more than that. What kind of teasing text did you send her? I have been out with guys who have been nice, gentlemanly and seemed decent guys. We've got on well and agreed to meet up again in the near future. Then, the guy sends me a 'flirty' text with very suggestive language. Considering I liked him because he was a gent and knew how to behave with women (amongst other things), it's actually not amusing to receive a text like that, but a huge disappointment. All of a sudden, he's just like all the rest. So I have a dilemma: do I meet up with the nice guy or the leary one? As the nice guy has apparently transformed into the leary one and thinks he owns me sexually all of a sudden, there isn't a choice any more. I ignore his text and switch off. Only you know what kind of text you sent and it may have been sweet and harmless, but if it was clearly suggestive, you could have tipped the balance. But to pretend to be interested and just fall off the face of the earth is just dirty-lol The 2 girls I met that I didn't like, I sent no text after the date which is a clear message I wasn't interested. This girl I liked recieved my text saying..."It was a pleasure meeting you" and replied with a "Me too, I had a good time" 6 mins later So a female will actually do that and not be interested? That would me that she is slightly retarded. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Saturday Girl didn't look like her picture. The Sunday girl I met on a Telephone dating service and was attracted when we met. So then it all makes sense with Friday girl. She just probably was not physically attracted to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 So then it all makes sense with Friday girl. She just probably was not physically attracted to you. That doesn't make sense, she was face to face with me until the cafe closed and then I suggested we go home together instead of her catching the subway. If that was the case she would have declined and caught the subway. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 But to pretend to be interested and just fall off the face of the earth is just dirty-lol The 2 girls I met that I didn't like, I sent no text after the date which is a clear message I wasn't interested. This girl I liked recieved my text saying..."It was a pleasure meeting you" and replied with a "Me too, I had a good time" 6 mins later So a female will actually do that and not be interested? That would me that she is slightly retarded. Thats what they ALL do now when they are young, this is most likely what you will run into when they arent feeling you. So if youre going to continue to enjoy getting angry at them acting like they like you on a date, then you might as well stop dating entirely. Cant you get over it and just not set any expectations until you get laid, so you dont have to be so pissed off about it, or do you like being pissed off? Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 "I was just thinking about what a wonderful time we had Friday night. Call me" I already said something similar to that tonight on the voicemail. 48 Hours she has to respond Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Thats what they ALL do now when they are young, this is most likely what you will run into when they arent feeling you. So if youre going to continue to enjoy getting angry at them acting like they like you on a date, then you might as well stop dating entirely. Cant you get over it and just not set any expectations until you get laid, so you dont have to be so pissed off about it, or do you like being pissed off? well she is 27 not too young Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Forget about timelines. Work on the next date with another lady. Lots of eggs in the basket to tend. If she calls you back, whenever that is, respond based on how you feel. If interest is there, that. If it has waned, that. If you've met another lady, that. What she does and how she feels is outside of your control. Let it go. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 So basically she PLAYED ME-LOL Damm, a unemployed man don't need this drama Link to post Share on other sites
DontWorryBHappy Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I actually think this is a bad sign. I told her on the bus to call me when she arrived home not text me. So when she gets home she sends a text that read "Home" WTF kind of text is that? I haven't finished reading all the responses yet but I just wanna say that if I were the girl, and you told me to call you when I got home after our date, that would be odd for me... and I wouldn't call you either. Telling someone to call you after they get home from spending a bunch of time with you on a date seems very strange, and maybe a little needy. It's almost like a demand, or the kind of request that you make when you're already in a relationship.. But even then, it bothers me when people get pissy when you don't do exactly as they ask. Once my ex told me to call him after a certain time "if I wanted to talk." Instead of calling I texted him maybe an hour after that time to check in, and he got annoyed with me for not calling, and also for not doing it right around the time that he told me to. Lol... made him seem pretty insecure to be honest. She probably didn't feel like calling you and maybe even felt a little resentful of the demand so she fulfilled your request by sending a quick obligatory text message. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 So basically she PLAYED ME-LOL Damm, a unemployed man don't need this drama She didn't play you.. you went out on a date... EOS Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 That doesn't make sense, she was face to face with me until the cafe closed and then I suggested we go home together instead of her catching the subway. If that was the case she would have declined and caught the subway. Forget about what makes sense. Go back and read some of my threads about women giving me STRONG signals and the end result being rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Forget about what makes sense. Go back and read some of my threads about women giving me STRONG signals and the end result being rejection. Well can you bump some of your threads up so I can read them. Maybe that way it would make more sense because I'm so confused right now I'm about to walk outside naked lol Link to post Share on other sites
DontWorryBHappy Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 "I was just thinking about what a wonderful time we had Friday night. Call me" This man has the right idea. This is more thoughtful and classy of a gesture than any "teasing text" could ever be. Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 This is more thoughtful and classy of a gesture than any "teasing text" could ever be. LOL, you think PhillyDude is worried about being thoughtful or classy? Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/311227-signs-woman-into-you-deciphered-last There's one. My honest advice to you is to call one of the other two girls. I mean, were they really butt ugly to you? Was there anything interesting about them at all? It's funny to me how you automatically discounted them for being unattractive but could not see the same happening to you. Maybe Friday girl was just the really bubbly social type. Been a victim of that type before... Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/311227-signs-woman-into-you-deciphered-last There's one. My honest advice to you is to call one of the other two girls. I mean, were they really butt ugly to you? Was there anything interesting about them at all? It's funny to me how you automatically discounted them for being unattractive but could not see the same happening to you. Maybe Friday girl was just the really bubbly social type. Been a victim of that type before... The other two girls are no way near her level of looks which is sad because you would think I could call one of them. In looks she is like a B+ and those two girls are like a D+ Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 LOL, you think PhillyDude is worried about being thoughtful or classy? I'd be tickled shytless if he'd just stop worrying, in general. That's a major buzz-kill in dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I'd be tickled shytless if he'd just stop worrying, in general. That's a major buzz-kill in dating. I won't be feeling like this by tomorrow this time, it fades away as the days go by. I mean i was interested but if it's not being returned then I lose interest too. My interest level was at it's highest on saturday and has slowly decreased each day. I have already deleted her number I'm old enough to know that a ignored text followed by a unanswered call means it's over Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Maybe if she knew about the deadline she'd be a little more cooperative. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beetleguise Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Shouldnt have text her so soon, especially 3 minutes. She texts u letting you know she's home safe, "Good, really enjoyed tonight, was fun" Then let her make next move, if she is remotely into you, she will love the chase and chase she will. Couple more dates and let her know she caught you. Nomally works Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Shouldnt have text her so soon, especially 3 minutes. She texts u letting you know she's home safe, "Good, really enjoyed tonight, was fun" Then let her make next move, if she is remotely into you, she will love the chase and chase she will. Couple more dates and let her know she caught you. Nomally works I know I ****ed up, well you live and learn. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 But to pretend to be interested and just fall off the face of the earth is just dirty-lol The 2 girls I met that I didn't like, I sent no text after the date which is a clear message I wasn't interested. This girl I liked recieved my text saying..."It was a pleasure meeting you" and replied with a "Me too, I had a good time" 6 mins later So a female will actually do that and not be interested? That would me that she is slightly retarded. This is why I try not to txt except to originally get to know a woman off a site & to set up date. Once they suck you into their zero effort world of txting it usually over (unless it's sexting) If they don't want to put in the effort to meet with you their not interested all that much. That's when you pull back, let them chase a little then basically let them know you have to go watch some paint dry while flirting & subtly hint they need to send some pics to keep your attention. Then it's game on. However recognize if you hit this point you really aren't dealing with a quality woman. Link to post Share on other sites
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