Signs that a woman is into you deciphered at last...

[jobaba]

There's so many posts here about how to tell if a woman is into you by the signals she gives off and the behavior she exhibits. Men are always asking what sign they should look for so they can be assured of victory when they make their move. Some men here say it's SO EASY to see when a woman gives these signals and she's into you.

 

To which I submit ...

 

Exhibit A: Signals females have given me over the years and the resultant outcomes.

 

1) Woman started at me intently with puppy eyes and smiled at me with her pinky finger in her mouth and whispered so I could barely hear it, "You're so cute." Result: REJECTION.

 

2) Back when I had longer hair, woman played with my hair and rubbed my knee and thigh with her other hand. Keep in mind this is a woman I had known for 3 days. Result: REJECTION.

 

3) I tutored children regularly while at college. A new woman came up to me in the middle of the activities and asked for my number. Apparently we had a class together and she wanted to study even though the semester just started. The junior high school kids we tutored started joking that she was trying to hook it up with me. Result: REJECTION.

 

4) Woman called me awesome and said I make her feel like "She can do anything" to another person (overheard by me). Woman shoved her t@ts in my face more times than I can count, and smiled uncontrollably after she noticed I got a new haircut. Woman begged me to play guitar for her. Result: MASSIVE REJECTION.

 

How about another one for good measure?

 

5) Took a woman out with another friend. Woman seemed to show little interest in me but was cracking up at anything my friend said. Woman was hanging on his every word and my friend is known as the type who will 'do any girl'. Result: Long term relationship for me for over two years.

Summary:

 

Trying to decipher signals from a woman is stupid. Just run the numbers and hit on whatever you like whether she shows interest or not. Women CAN BE very straightforward about liking men.

 

They will tell other men (who have they have no interest in)...

 

"Oh. Bob's cute. I'd date him." OR "Bob is hot. I'd date Bob." OR "Bob is good looking. I'd go out with Bob."

 

You see where that's going.

 

For the rest of us, it's about playing the numbers...

Edited December 26, 2011 by jobaba

[Cee]

Your post would make a good game of "Predict the Outcome." I'll throw in a few of my own:

 

1) After a first date, the guy said, "I definitely want to see you again. I'll call you tomorrow after I'm with work, between 2-4 pm." He repeatedly tells me how much he likes me.

 

Outcome: Drops off the face of the earth.

 

2) Correspond with an ex-classmate for a couple of months. He says he thinks he's falling for me. Guy takes me on an expensive first date to NYC and we have our first kiss on the train. Afterward he waxes rhapsodic about me. On second date, he says he thinks we were meant to reconnect after all these years. He then buys me an engraved iPod & watch for Christmas.

 

Outcome: He returns to his ex who he said wasn't right for him.

 

3) Guy asks me on a coffee date. We have shy and awkward conversation. We then go to a pub and have pleasant conversation. I think he's pretty great, but I sense that we aren't going to have a second date. Our conversation is amiable, but not intense and "sparkly."

 

Outcome: We have been together almost a year and are living together.

[Cracker Jack]

Those are some interesting scenario's.

 

I've received many strong signs from women, too. Most that would strongly point to obvious interest, but I hardly ever had the stones to follow-through, so many of those were basically inconclusive for me.

 

Perhaps some people are just far more skilled at naturally understanding real signs of interest from a woman while I'm not. I can accept that.

 

Anyway, I agree with your main point.

[Pizzaman81]

1) Woman chatted with me at a restaurant. We went out a few times. She enjoyed my humor: Result: Girlfriend 1 (1.5 years)

 

2) Woman I met at work, a receptionist. She bought me a slushy drink out of the blue and found me and started chatting with me. Got closer in the next few months: Result: A few sexual encounters then I dropped her, I got a call from her boyfriend yelling "WHO IS THIS?!" with her crying in the background - (3 months)

 

3) Woman who was persistent in me, very aggressive. We moved really fast but then slowed down to give ourselves time: Result: Girlfriend 2 - (1 year)

 

4) Woman who was older than me by 8 years. Met at a party. Got drunk once with her. Result: One night stand - (1 day)

 

5) Woman who I met at a library, talked. She was shy. Result: Girlfriend 3 - (1.5 years)

 

6) Woman whom I met at a gathering. Invited me to many events. I went with her. Result: I am not pursuing

 

7) Woman who whispered in my ear that she is really attracted to me and that if I am lucky I can see the rest of her tattoos on her body: Result: Seeing her tonight

 

8) Woman whom I met and is very intelligent and have gone on 1 date with already. Fun to talk to, and I really enjoy her company: Result: Here's to hope a final long term relationship

[jobaba]

1) Woman chatted with me at a restaurant. We went out a few times. She enjoyed my humor: Result: Girlfriend 1 (1.5 years)

 

2) Woman I met at work, a receptionist. She bought me a slushy drink out of the blue and found me and started chatting with me. Got closer in the next few months: Result: A few sexual encounters then I dropped her, I got a call from her boyfriend yelling "WHO IS THIS?!" with her crying in the background - (3 months)

 

3) Woman who was persistent in me, very aggressive. We moved really fast but then slowed down to give ourselves time: Result: Girlfriend 2 - (1 year)

 

4) Woman who was older than me by 8 years. Met at a party. Got drunk once with her. Result: One night stand - (1 day)

 

5) Woman who I met at a library, talked. She was shy. Result: Girlfriend 3 - (1.5 years)

 

6) Woman whom I met at a gathering. Invited me to many events. I went with her. Result: I am not pursuing

 

7) Woman who whispered in my ear that she is really attracted to me and that if I am lucky I can see the rest of her tattoos on her body: Result: Seeing her tonight

 

8) Woman whom I met and is very intelligent and have gone on 1 date with already. Fun to talk to, and I really enjoy her company: Result: Here's to hope a final long term relationship

 

Wow. That's a pretty good track record.

 

Some of those (1, 4, 5, and 6) have happened to me and resulted in rejection.

 

I hate to say it, but you kind of prove that it's all about looks for most girls.

 

Ah well. Just gotta play more and more numbers.

[jobaba]

Your post would make a good game of "Predict the Outcome." I'll throw in a few of my own:

 

1) After a first date, the guy said, "I definitely want to see you again. I'll call you tomorrow after I'm with work, between 2-4 pm." He repeatedly tells me how much he likes me.

 

Outcome: Drops off the face of the earth.

 

2) Correspond with an ex-classmate for a couple of months. He says he thinks he's falling for me. Guy takes me on an expensive first date to NYC and we have our first kiss on the train. Afterward he waxes rhapsodic about me. On second date, he says he thinks we were meant to reconnect after all these years. He then buys me an engraved iPod & watch for Christmas.

 

Outcome: He returns to his ex who he said wasn't right for him.

 

3) Guy asks me on a coffee date. We have shy and awkward conversation. We then go to a pub and have pleasant conversation. I think he's pretty great, but I sense that we aren't going to have a second date. Our conversation is amiable, but not intense and "sparkly."

 

Outcome: We have been together almost a year and are living together.

 

Hehe. Some good ones. Thanks...

[Pizzaman81]

Wow. That's a pretty good track record.

 

Some of those (1, 4, 5, and 6) have happened to me and resulted in rejection.

 

I hate to say it, but you kind of prove that it's all about looks for most girls.

 

Ah well. Just gotta play more and more numbers.

 

Scenario 4 is never a good thing.

 

Haha what you mean only for looks? I've been told I'm rather fun to be around... so definitely it's THAT than my looks. Because back in high school early college, I was anti-social... no girlfriends, no one liked me. Now... it's just too many to handle... GOT TO COLLECT THEM ALL like Pokemon!

 

Just saying... true story

[somedude81]

From his old avatar, Pizzaman seemed like a fun, good looking guy and he also described himself as being tall. I get the impression that he's a bit of a player too....

 

Still, this thread is pretty fun with the random outcomes, both from men and women.

 

I'd post some but they all turned out bad so I'll just watch.

[Pizzaman81]

From his old avatar, Pizzaman seemed like a fun, good looking guy and he also described himself as being tall. I get the impression that he's a bit of a player too....

 

Ah see? my point validated

 

You are probably referring to my posts about multi-dating and adventures. Again... player is someone who strings along multiple women and leading them on to get into their pants.

 

Me? I just end up getting lots of potentials that I want to get to know and take them on dates. I rarely go on a second date if I feel we have no future. Once I hold someone's hand and or kiss, then I have decided and I will kindly drop the rest.

 

I am just a "nice" guy who is fortunate Never bad intentions. But I have made stupid mistakes which I won't repeat again.

[silvermercy]

1) Woman chatted with me at a restaurant. We went out a few times. She enjoyed my humor: Result: Girlfriend 1 (1.5 years)

 

2) Woman I met at work, a receptionist. She bought me a slushy drink out of the blue and found me and started chatting with me. Got closer in the next few months: Result: A few sexual encounters then I dropped her, I got a call from her boyfriend yelling "WHO IS THIS?!" with her crying in the background - (3 months)

 

3) Woman who was persistent in me, very aggressive. We moved really fast but then slowed down to give ourselves time: Result: Girlfriend 2 - (1 year)

 

4) Woman who was older than me by 8 years. Met at a party. Got drunk once with her. Result: One night stand - (1 day)

 

5) Woman who I met at a library, talked. She was shy. Result: Girlfriend 3 - (1.5 years)

 

6) Woman whom I met at a gathering. Invited me to many events. I went with her. Result: I am not pursuing

 

7) Woman who whispered in my ear that she is really attracted to me and that if I am lucky I can see the rest of her tattoos on her body: Result: Seeing her tonight

 

8) Woman whom I met and is very intelligent and have gone on 1 date with already. Fun to talk to, and I really enjoy her company: Result: Here's to hope a final long term relationship

I'm a bit confused. Is number 7 and 8 the same woman or different? As a female (and a very intelligent one I must say! lol), if I was number 8 and knew about number 7, I'd very cautious about continuing going out on dates with you. But again I wouldn't go with men with have admitted casual encounters in the past either and who only had short-term relationships (1.5 years is short-term for me). In summary, you would fail my risk assessment. That's just me though. This is interesting... I wish ALL men volunteered a type of list like this though, so I knew where I'd stand early on!!

[phineas]

Scenario 4 is never a good thing.

 

Haha what you mean only for looks? I've been told I'm rather fun to be around... so definitely it's THAT than my looks. Because back in high school early college, I was anti-social... no girlfriends, no one liked me. Now... it's just too many to handle... GOT TO COLLECT THEM ALL like Pokemon!

 

Just saying... true story

 

I had a #4 last sunday.

Closed the bar with her.

 

Super fun chick but pushing 50 & not what i'm looking for.

So I did not tap it.

 

Besides, I wasn't drunk.

[smokey bear]

Brilliant thread i hope there is more

[phineas]

I'm a bit confused. Is number 7 and 8 the same woman or different? As a female (and a very intelligent one I must say! lol), if I was number 8 and knew about number 7, I'd very cautious about continuing going out on dates with you. But again I wouldn't go with men with have admitted casual encounters in the past either and who only had short-term relationships (1.5 years is short-term for me). In summary, you would fail my risk assessment. That's just me though. This is interesting... I wish ALL men volunteered a type of list like this though, so I knew where I'd stand early on!!

 

But on the flip side, i'd be wary of women who spent 3+ yrs in a relationship with a man who didn't marry them.

 

Unless they were in their 20's at the time.

[silvermercy]

But on the flip side, i'd be wary of women who spent 3+ yrs in a relationship with a man who didn't marry them.

 

Unless they were in their 20's at the time.

Well the man is at fault, too, for not popping the question. lol

[Feelsgoodman]

Summary:

 

Trying to decipher signals from a woman is stupid. Just run the numbers and hit on whatever you like whether she shows interest or not. Women CAN BE very straightforward about liking men.

Here's where you fail MASSIVELY, to use your own expression. You've made the observations but reached the wrong conclusion because you are clueless when it comes to reading women.

 

Clueless guys like you need to familiarize themselves with two very important words. These words are important because they describe a huge section of the female population. In fact, I recommend that you save these words as the background on your computer and maybe even print them out on a poster and put it on your bedroom wall so that you are reminded of them every time you wake up.

 

These words are ATTENTION WHORE.

 

An attention whore is a subspecies of human female that does not orgasm from sex. Rather, she gets off on deliberately confusing, misleading and ultimately rejecting men. For her, it's a power trip. Attention whores will flirt with you, tell you that you are cute, even make make sexually suggestive physical contact. That does no,. in any way, indicate that they re actually interested in you.

 

The good thing about an attention whore is that she is actually quite easy to spot for the experienced observer. If a woman you just met seems to be all over you, she is likely an attention whore (unless you are super-gorgeous and/or a celebrity). If a woman has lots of male "friends", she is, without a shadow of a doubt, an attention whore. If a woman has an exaggeratedly social personality ("social butterfly"), she is an attention whore.

[kaylan]

@ OP

No offense, but its you messing up. Whenever I have had women come on as strong to me as those girls came on to you, its always ended in a hook up.

 

So you musta did somethin' wrong brah =P....somethin' ya did turned 'em off

 

@Pizzaman

 

The situation with the receptionist, did you know she had a bf? If not shes a crazy bimbo to get you into drama.

Edited December 27, 2011 by kaylan

[whichwayisup]

There's so many posts here about how to tell if a woman is into you by the signals she gives off and the behavior she exhibits. Men are always asking what sign they should look for so they can be assured of victory when they make their move. Some men here say it's SO EASY to see when a woman gives these signals and she's into you.

 

To which I submit ...

 

Exhibit A: Signals females have given me over the years and the resultant outcomes.

 

1) Woman started at me intently with puppy eyes and smiled at me with her pinky finger in her mouth and whispered so I could barely hear it, "You're so cute." Result: REJECTION.

 

2) Back when I had longer hair, woman played with my hair and rubbed my knee and thigh with her other hand. Keep in mind this is a woman I had known for 3 days. Result: REJECTION.

 

3) I tutored children regularly while at college. A new woman came up to me in the middle of the activities and asked for my number. Apparently we had a class together and she wanted to study even though the semester just started. The junior high school kids we tutored started joking that she was trying to hook it up with me. Result: REJECTION.

 

4) Woman called me awesome and said I make her feel like "She can do anything" to another person (overheard by me). Woman shoved her t@ts in my face more times than I can count, and smiled uncontrollably after she noticed I got a new haircut. Woman begged me to play guitar for her. Result: MASSIVE REJECTION.

 

How about another one for good measure?

 

5) Took a woman out with another friend. Woman seemed to show little interest in me but was cracking up at anything my friend said. Woman was hanging on his every word and my friend is known as the type who will 'do any girl'. Result: Long term relationship for me for over two years.

Summary:

 

Trying to decipher signals from a woman is stupid. Just run the numbers and hit on whatever you like whether she shows interest or not. Women CAN BE very straightforward about liking men.

 

They will tell other men (who have they have no interest in)...

 

"Oh. Bob's cute. I'd date him." OR "Bob is hot. I'd date Bob." OR "Bob is good looking. I'd go out with Bob."

 

You see where that's going.

 

For the rest of us, it's about playing the numbers...

 

Let's put it this way, if the chemistry isn't there for her and she isn't sexually attracted to you all, it ain't ever gonna happen. You (general you) can be the greatest guy in the world, gorgeous, nice, big heart ... It still ain't gonna happen because the spark isn't felt between her legs.

[jobaba]

Here's where you fail MASSIVELY, to use your own expression. You've made the observations but reached the wrong conclusion because you are clueless when it comes to reading women.

 

Clueless guys like you need to familiarize themselves with two very important words. These words are important because they describe a huge section of the female population. In fact, I recommend that you save these words as the background on your computer and maybe even print them out on a poster and put it on your bedroom wall so that you are reminded of them every time you wake up.

 

These words are ATTENTION WHORE.

 

An attention whore is a subspecies of human female that does not orgasm from sex. Rather, she gets off on deliberately confusing, misleading and ultimately rejecting men. For her, it's a power trip. Attention whores will flirt with you, tell you that you are cute, even make make sexually suggestive physical contact. That does no,. in any way, indicate that they re actually interested in you.

 

The good thing about an attention whore is that she is actually quite easy to spot for the experienced observer. If a woman you just met seems to be all over you, she is likely an attention whore (unless you are super-gorgeous and/or a celebrity). If a woman has lots of male "friends", she is, without a shadow of a doubt, an attention whore. If a woman has an exaggeratedly social personality ("social butterfly"), she is an attention whore.

 

1) was likely an attention whore, particularly with me. 4) is a maybe, but you're right. If in doubt from now on, I'll just assume that she is just looking for attention.

 

@ OP

No offense, but its you messing up. Whenever I have had women come on as strong to me as those girls came on to you, its always ended in a hook up.

 

So you musta did somethin' wrong brah =P....somethin' ya did turned 'em off

 

@Pizzaman

 

The situation with the receptionist, did you know she had a bf? If not shes a crazy bimbo to get you into drama.

 

No offense taken. With 2) and 3), yea, I might have messed up. With 1) and 4), I doubt it. I'm trying to stay away from that "I f@cked up" mentality though. Move on and next batter...

 

Let's put it this way, if the chemistry isn't there for her and she isn't sexually attracted to you all, it ain't ever gonna happen. You (general you) can be the greatest guy in the world, gorgeous, nice, big heart ... It still ain't gonna happen because the spark isn't felt between her legs.

 

I realize that. That's the point of the thread bro. You have a bunch of guys coming on here starting threads saying the girl at (work, school, Burger King) is so into me. All the signs are there. Or how do I tell she's into me? I'm saying that's BS. Sure, if a guy gets shown good signs like the ones I listed, he should definitely take a shot. But nothing is a sure thing.

[Feelsgoodman]

1) was likely an attention whore, particularly with me. 4) is a maybe, but you're right. If in doubt from now on, I'll just assume that she is just looking for attention.

As a general rule, avoid women who are overly outgoing and have no trace of shyness. Such women are nothing but a source of drama.

[Johnny85]

As a general rule, avoid women who are overly outgoing and have no trace of shyness. Such women are nothing but a source of drama.

 

Please elaborate. I tend to attract women who are overly outgoing (with no trace of shyness).

 

 

 

Also, I enjoyed reading the definition of attention whore. Scary how accurate that is (in my experience).

 

1) Why do some women become attention whores?

2) Also, is this a subconscious action or a deliberate one?

3) How do you attract an attention whore? In other words, what is the best strategy to deal with one (to make her like you)?

[phineas]

As a general rule, avoid women who are overly outgoing and have no trace of shyness. Such women are nothing but a source of drama.

 

I've hit the point where I just refuse to spend any amount of time talking to or txting a woman beyond setting up dates.

 

She wants to talk to me she can schedule some face-time.

She don't want to do that?

 

Then she isn't interested.

 

Deciphered. LOL!

[RecordProducer]

Trying to decipher signals from a woman is stupid.

Nooooooooo, you guys are stupid! :laugh: :bunny:

 

 

1. Signs form girls

 

2. ??? (Jobaba in action :bunny: )

 

2. 5. Girls' reaction: :sick: :mad:

 

3. Rejection

 

---->>> Jobaba goes home

[xpaperxcutx]

Ahaha this thread is hilarious. I can't wait for the ladies to start one about the guys.

[Titania22]

But on the flip side, i'd be wary of women who spent 3+ yrs in a relationship with a man who didn't marry them.

 

 

Why do relationships have to lead to marriage?

[Pizzaman81]

I'm a bit confused. Is number 7 and 8 the same woman or different? As a female (and a very intelligent one I must say! lol), if I was number 8 and knew about number 7, I'd very cautious about continuing going out on dates with you. But again I wouldn't go with men with have admitted casual encounters in the past either and who only had short-term relationships (1.5 years is short-term for me). In summary, you would fail my risk assessment. That's just me though. This is interesting... I wish ALL men volunteered a type of list like this though, so I knew where I'd stand early on!!

 

Fair enough. Everyone has their own "risk assessments." Female 7 and 8 are NOT the same. However, this week I am meeting up with 3 more different girls. But like I said before, in the early stages of dating, meeting once or twice... I believe it is ok to meet multiple people at once. I draw the line once I kiss the person or hold hands, etc.

 

Yes I am not proud of my relationship history.

 

So an update on girl 7: We went to a bar, started drinking a good amount. Towards the end she wanted to come to my place and spend the night. Result: I said NO. Too fast, something was wrong. I will not contact her again