stu1234 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Year and a half relationship ended not what I wanted and then we went into no contact for 6 weeks, at which point I caved and told her that I missed her. She replied saying she missed me too but not in that way, she had moved on and was happy etc. At this point it was like closure to me and I was ready to let it drop I moved on found a different girl. I knew that I was not ready and it's not a good thing to do but I had been friends with the girl a while and we started to stay at eachothers houses and what not. I was honest with her though and told her I loved the ex(quite silly of me really most lads would not have) ANYWAY.. Now she texts me saying she realises now that the grass isnt greener on the other side. She said she lied before she isnt happy and she misses me. she knows she hurt me, cant take it back and just apologised via text. also said she wishes she never left etc. Not sure what to do about this just as I had moved on now my head gets turned. I say moved on I still think about her a lot I had not let go at all but what's it like trying to pick up the pieces in situations like that with a break of up to 3 months? Advice appreciated. The current girl I am seeing is nice and really seems to like me but she's not my ex and I will always love the ex but she's done it before she could do it again! Hard one to answer from my perspective. ***For anyone in need of more info my previous writing at the time of feeling in the dumps can be seen here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/309828-better-you-treat-them-worse
Philosoraptor Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 It doesn't seem like you've moved on. If you want to give her another try then you need to be gentle with this new girl as she is a victim here. My thought is that you shouldn't be with anyone right now as it doesn't seem like you've taken much time to grow within yourself since your past relationship. Unless you both have matured and worked on your own issues that aided in the past relationship's failure... you are doomed for the same fate.
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