Melrapuo Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 We broke up after 3 yrs together because we were distancing from each other and she told me that she had pretty much fallen out of love with me. We had always had a lack of intimacy because of things that happened to her in her past and it made sex difficult. This past month hasn't been the easiest but I've been pushing forward with my life, reconnecting with past friends (even an ex from many years ago) and trying to go forward with my life. Well today she texts me outta nowhere, pretty much stating that she didn't expect me to respond since I didn't even ask her for my own stuff back (I had a friend do it), but she said if theres anything else that I need back to let her know and she'd give it to her friend. First thing I felt when I first got the text was just anger. She pretty much said to stop hounding her about getting back together (This was the morning after we had broken up. Haven't talked to her since.) And now I get a text about getting my stuff back? I got everything I need back a week after the break up. There's no need for a text like that. O, and that whole idea about ex's coming back when you start to feel like you can move on? I had just asked a girl out for coffee on Friday (she said yes. I've only known her on FB but she seems very nice and from what convos we've had she seems like a very friendly and down-to-earth girl.) And now I get this text. Bah, what crap. Ex's should just leave you alone. And no, I don't plan on texting her back. Anything short of "I made a mistake and I want to work on things again" is getting zero response from me.
geegirl Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I have an ex that sends random text messages asking dumb things as well. I don't respond. I look at it as 1) he's bored 2) ego fix 3) fishing trip. Good for you. Don't respond. You deserve much more than some text about stuff.
Frank13 Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I can't figure out why they do this. She even said she didn't expect you to reply so why text? If the dumpee can suffer through NC, why can't the dumper leave them alone? They probably think they are extending the olive branch, but for what? They wanted out and don't want you to hound them so wtf?
NSDNQ Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 We broke up after 3 yrs together because we were distancing from each other and she told me that she had pretty much fallen out of love with me. We had always had a lack of intimacy because of things that happened to her in her past and it made sex difficult. This past month hasn't been the easiest but I've been pushing forward with my life, reconnecting with past friends (even an ex from many years ago) and trying to go forward with my life. Well today she texts me outta nowhere, pretty much stating that she didn't expect me to respond since I didn't even ask her for my own stuff back (I had a friend do it), but she said if theres anything else that I need back to let her know and she'd give it to her friend. First thing I felt when I first got the text was just anger. She pretty much said to stop hounding her about getting back together (This was the morning after we had broken up. Haven't talked to her since.) And now I get a text about getting my stuff back? I got everything I need back a week after the break up. There's no need for a text like that. O, and that whole idea about ex's coming back when you start to feel like you can move on? I had just asked a girl out for coffee on Friday (she said yes. I've only known her on FB but she seems very nice and from what convos we've had she seems like a very friendly and down-to-earth girl.) And now I get this text. Bah, what crap. Ex's should just leave you alone. And no, I don't plan on texting her back. Anything short of "I made a mistake and I want to work on things again" is getting zero response from me. This is the advantage of making contact impossible new number, new e-mail, new fb account, new everything. the more your life changes the less you'll be reminded of her anyway. and yeah, for some reason a lot of dumpers like still being on your mind all the time while they go out and move on. unfair ? f*ck yes. flattering to their ego? you bet.
Philosoraptor Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 The "you probably won't respond" bit was just extra bait into getting a response out of you. By responding you absolve the guilt that they are feeling. It is not your job to heal others, only yourself.
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