Emilia Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 I usually go for strong, assertive men that know what they want to the degree that they can come across stubborn sometimes (which of course I don't like but it comes with the territory). They are also usually have centre right views in politics and usually have strong moral fibre with very developed sense of right and wrong. I had a friend I quite liked who was different from most men I know: a vegetarian based on conscience, liberal, idealistic (by his own admission), more family oriented... and dating him was a disaster. I found his wishy-washy views naive at best, he was a mommy's boy and he was also a lousy lover because he completely lacked confidence in bed. His lack of assertiveness also meant he had - in my view - backbone issues, we had one conversation when I was offended by something he said (it was quite personal) and instead of discussing it, he denied ever saying such a thing and told me that I was a liar if I said otherwise... I usually date emotionally available men and to me they also need to be able to demonstrate what I view as traditional 'male' characteristics: independence, strength, resilience and assertiveness. I struggle to respect anyone that doesn't have those and I would never date anyone that I don't respect.
RecordProducer Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 well i had never dated a blonde guy with blue eyes, You sound like a man... or a 13-year old girl... which is the same thing!
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 My only 'type' are men who share similar values, are looking for a committed relationship and take care of themselves (ie no smoking, heavy drinking, poor eating habits). Physically and age wise I've dated all over the map and have developed attractions to all 'types' of men. Tall, short, with hair, without hair, a few pounds, skinny... Intellectually and physically though, I tend not to get along well for long with men who don't challenge themselves. This translates into men who happen to be somewhat physically fit (although, I've been attracted to men who had a few pounds)... It's mostly about lifestyle and what we're going to end up doing for fun on the weekends. Can't say I've been attracted for long to the high powered executives, academics, and politicians. Even though many of them fit the bill intellectually and physically, most of them spend an inordinate amount of time on their work and are rarely home. Don't see the point of 'saving' myself sexually for a guy I never see. If they were at a place in their lives where we got to be with each other most of the time, I'd give them a shot too.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Women. To pique my interest they have to be all around magnificent. While roughed handsomeness and a nice smile on a man are enough.
zengirl Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 The Brit I dated overseas was probably a lot different than the guys I've dated in America. He was WAY less nerdy. Definitely the least nerdy guy I've ever dated --- more into sports (only guy I dated who really watched sports, though it was soccer, of course, which seems like a smarter and more interesting sport to me than the popular American ones for some reason), he didn't really read books. He was still smart -- but he just wasn't really into the same nerdy interests as a lot of my BFs: didn't read much, didn't play video games, etc. Also, probably the only guy I've ever dated who wasn't a programmer (or didn't have the ability to write programs). It worked out fine, I suppose, though we broke up, obviously. He moved away for his dream job, and we would've had to get married to stay together (only way I could really get a visa in Britain that'd allow me to get a decent job). But we didn't have a difference in values, really, and all the guys I've dated are different in temperament.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 Interesting to read the stories! I don't think I've dated enough to actually have a "type"...how does one develop a type anyway...? Do you see it more as an ideal we form in our minds or a pattern of who we tend to date...? I don't think I have a type, but looking back, I see that most of my serious relationship partners have been: very smartsporty and a little nerdy (usually excellent with computers)tall, Caucasian, with blue eyessensitive and creative Lately, I have mixed it up with guys who are: more street smart and "cool" than book smartsporty and not nerdyvarying heights, varying ethnicitiesmore masculine, more confident, less sensitive, more analytical than creative I am enjoying mixing it up. The kinds of guys I'm favoring lately bring out the fun, confident parts of more more, rather than the brainy, reflective parts. And I like it.
jobaba Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I don't think I've dated enough to actually have a "type"...how does one develop a type anyway...? Do you see it more as an ideal we form in our minds or a pattern of who we tend to date...? You develop a type based on what your ideal is and what society dictates that you can get. So, I'm a shorter Asian guy. My 'type' has traditionally been petite Asian girls with the same educational (Masters), cultural background (American), and political views (liberal) as myself. My 'anti-type' is probably a 5'10" blonde hot former sorority girl who watches Fox News. This is the niche that I have traditionally attacked over the years. And you know what ... I've only ever dated one girl who vaguely fit that type. It's not been good to me. Right now, I'm more open minded than ever when it comes to dating people of different race, ethnic, educational, background, and economic levels. But, then again, most people don't have to compromise their type ... and won't.
brakco Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Lately I've been expanding my horizons a lot. My type has always been tall, dark, clean shaven, handsome. (Think Don Draper) and really, that's only gotten me into trouble. I swore I'd never date a guy with a beard, but I just ended a 3 month relationship with someone that has one and after a couple weeks I grew to really like facial hair. On the right guy, at least. Now I'm dating someone who is also the complete opposite of what I'm used to but he's really a sweetheart and treats me like gold. I'll admit I've always been very vain when it comes to who I'm with but lately I've realized in doing so, I've been missing out on all the good guys out there and dating a whole lot of *******s.
eerie_reverie Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Are you talking about personality or appearance? As far as appearance goes, all my longer relationships have been with dark haired guys with pretty eyes and slightly more "ethnic" than average features (example Jewish, italian, Greek, etc). I would say I have a strong preference for the dark and mysterious type so being with someone like that makes the physical parts super easy. Personality wise it's hard to say what my type is. There is what I am initially attracted to (extroversion, aggression) but those types never seem that into me and i have never been happy in a relationship with one of those guys either. Then there is what I usually end up with, an intriverted, nerdier, mellower kind of guy. I managed to fall for my bf who is in this category and he makes me happy.
about2shatter Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Hi.. It feels like you are an advanced member of this forum. So I think you may like to help me on my issue. I am a new member and I have posted under Long distance relationships. The link is: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3732356#post3732356 Thanks in advance
the wizard Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Why'd you hook up if you thought he was an unappealing geek? It doesn't take much to land tigressA. Furthest from my type? A black chick lol.
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