Did I do the right thing, Told my ex i dont want to talk to her

[Oneday4545]

So original thread.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t301197/?highlight=oneday4545

 

So my ex sent me a text asking if i was going to a party this weekend.

 

I told her i was not going, i said it would not be fare to ether of us(would be our 8 year aneversy) just thought alcohol and that would not be a good combo(have not seen her in like 3-4 months and not really talked to her) I would have like to seen her/talked to her but that's defiantly not the right time or place.

 

I also told her i can not just be a friend right now and that i don't think its the best for us to stay in this friends "zone" and we should just go our separate ways right now and that maybe in a few years or something we could be friends again because i would like that i just can not do that right now.

 

All she sent back was okay if that's what you want.

 

Was that the right thing to do?

 

I figured this way gives me time to heal and if she really does want to get back together (if i even do anymore or down the road what ever) she will have to come to me etc??

 

I also ran into her at safeway in the parking lot, we did not say a word. walked to our cars and she waved as she passed me( i told her this morning i did not want to talk to her and I see her like 6 hrs later FML)

Edited October 24, 2011 by Oneday4545

[Chi townD]

If she said, "okay, if that's what you want." Doesn't sound like someone that's too torn up about having you out of her life.

 

I think you're better off without her.

[EgoJoe]

What Chi said, she's trying to make it seem like it was your decision. Egotistical defense mechanism. Which is BS. You're just enforcing your boundaries due to a decision she made. Honestly, I'd reply and say, "It was your decision to break up this is merely a side effect. Deal with it and spare me the bull****."

[Oneday4545]

What Chi said, she's trying to make it seem like it was your decision. Egotistical defense mechanism. Which is BS. You're just enforcing your boundaries due to a decision she made. Honestly, I'd reply and say, "It was your decision to break up this is merely a side effect. Deal with it and spare me the bull****."

 

haha kinda like that, but thats just asking for trouble lol

[BLuvv]

I think you did the right thing and I agree with the others, just sounds like she was getting defensive. And I stayed in the "friends" zone for way too long and I can tell you from experience it does no good.