surferchic Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Hello all. So I've been reading a few threads lately about (sexual) attraction and I'm starting to wonder if monogamy is even in anyone's nature anymore. Sure people get married, go to church, speak out against infidelity and put on a front for family & friends when it's time to, but the amount of people talking about casual sex is ridiculous... Not just on dating sites, but other sites as well where you might be looking for a vintage leather bag or trying to sell a used bike, but on the side menu , there is a host of sexual favors you can get/give just by pressing a button. Yes we all know how easy it is to get sex, and discrete even, but for goodness sake, will the greed for sex ever end on this lifetime? And we wonder why there's so much infidelity and disrespect in relationships. In the back of people's minds I think theres this thought that if he/she doesn't act right, someone else will please me (as meaningless as it may be). But is it worth catching stds, worrying about getting caught, losing and hurting someone who really cares for you all due to a quick moment of pleasure... Gone are the days when you could enjoy sex without wondering how many other purple your really sleeping with...even if you are married... I'm not married, but the power that sex has on the flesh is almost scary enough to make one be extra cautious before getting physically or emotionally involved with anyone nowadays. As long as somebody is willing to settle for meaningless sex, NSA sex will continue to flourish.
Ginger Beer Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 It depends on the individual and what they want. And not everyone puts on a front. I've turned down every opportunity to have sex because it's not what I'm looking for (I am 22).
muse08 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Well yeah, lots of people are weak. Many are strong enough to resist the offers of casual sex. The question to me is, why do some people even pursue relationships and marriage when they know how weak they are when it comes to sex. So frequently, it happens in marriage then the SO takes their partner back to work things out, i.e. betrayal, diseases and all...
musemaj11 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 The only inherent negativity of nsa sex are the risk of STD and unwanted pregnancy.
motive2002 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I think that people who just want nsa sex have never known true intimacy. Once you've experienced it, I think you'd prefer it over casual sex. I've had enough of that in my life to know the difference, and to know which one I want.
CarrieT Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I think that people who just want nsa sex have never known true intimacy. Once you've experienced it, I think you'd prefer it over casual sex. I've had enough of that in my life to know the difference, and to know which one I want. I disagree. I've had both -- just like I have had both hamburgers and 12-course gourmet meals. They are both food but they feed different parts of one's desire. Sometimes I want the hamburger and sometimes I want the gourmet meal. Sometimes I want the intimacy of a long-term relationship and sometimes I just want to get off.
motive2002 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I disagree. I've had both -- just like I have had both hamburgers and 12-course gourmet meals. They are both food but they feed different parts of one's desire. Sometimes I want the hamburger and sometimes I want the gourmet meal. Sometimes I want the intimacy of a long-term relationship and sometimes I just want to get off. I can get off all by myself. That is TRULY no strings attached. I don't have to involve another person, with their emotions, motives etc. Maybe it's just me. I've never felt good about one night stands, and I've never experienced a FWB situation where neither party formed some kind of attachment. You get that close to another human being with passion and desire and hormones and all that and one of you is bound to walk away affected in some manner. Aside from that risk, there's always the risk of STDs, or that the one night stand you had was with a psycho stalker or something. Even if both parties were clear on their intentions, and secure with themselves that it's just sex and nothing else, it can still get messy (no pun intended there) Sometimes is just far easier to take care of your carnal desires on your own. No worries or regrets. In this day and age with text messaging, Facebook etc, everyone is so much more exposed that they were before. Just one more thing you have to be careful of when you consider knockin' boots with someone just for the sake of getting off. Just my point of view of course.. and based on personal experience.
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