Untouchable_Fire Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 That's a really poor analogy for this situation. Also, I was the one who felt bad for the guy. It was another friend who said he was probably ignoring the truth -- not me. But in any case... You're telling me you wouldn't be suspicious of anything if your girlfriend went out clubbing with her friends 9 out of 10 Saturday nights, then was too hung over and out of it to hang out with you at all most Sundays? Because this was the deal with her. To me, Saturdays are sacred, and when I'm in a relationship, that time is almost always reserved for me and my man. I know I'd wonder what was up if my guy hardly EVER wanted to spend time with me on Saturday night. When someone is cheating to this extent, there are almost always clear signs. As long as you get the point I don't care how extreme the analogy seems. You HAVE to be able to trust the person you love. There are all kinds of silly things that have happened to me that seem creepy. I travel a lot for work at some point the women I date just have to believe what I tell them. The person who is dishonest is the one at fault here. That is the person who should be tarred and feathered... not the person who believes.
yessy21 Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Young, hot, smart, dances, aspiring pilot, rich, very well-endowed, etc. The word Pilot stood out to me verrrrryyyy quickly. She has met her perfect match. Another cheater. I worked for a company that the owner was a pilot and the stories of his friends and him were kinda sick. lol. they tend to think that cheating isnt cheating if your not in the same country. at least thats what they would tell me. SMH
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 very well-endowed, etc. Why is very well-endowed in bold?
Author Lilmisus Posted August 12, 2011 Author Posted August 12, 2011 Why is very well-endowed in bold? She wouldn't stop telling me how big he is and made a huge deal of it. According to her, he's a friggin beast and goes down almost to his knees. How true this is...I have no idea, but I put emphasis there because she wouldn't stop emphasizing it to me. The word Pilot stood out to me verrrrryyyy quickly. She has met her perfect match. Another cheater. I worked for a company that the owner was a pilot and the stories of his friends and him were kinda sick. lol. they tend to think that cheating isnt cheating if your not in the same country. at least thats what they would tell me. SMH Funny thing is, she told me that she (or I, since she kept trying to say I'd like him, and told me to go for it since she can't "be with him") wouldn't have to worry about him cheating, that he's not that type. Strange how she'd think about him cheating when she already is cheating..
Woggle Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 I know she is your friend but if this guy does cheat on her she would fully deserve it.
serial muse Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Strange how she'd think about him cheating when she already is cheating.. I think this is pretty typical, actually. Cheaters are always paranoid. So have you considered telling her you simply won't be maid of honor at her wedding? What a mess.
Author Lilmisus Posted August 12, 2011 Author Posted August 12, 2011 (edited) I know she is your friend but if this guy does cheat on her she would fully deserve it. Trust me, I know. And honestly..I wouldn't feel bad for her really. A little, yes, because I'd hate to see my friend hurt, but she'd definitely deserve it like you said. Oh and so y'all know, the dude left today to go back to some school/military place he goes to two hours away..not really sure what it is. But...this was after spending the past couple of days together and spending the night together on the beach. Edited August 12, 2011 by Lilmisus
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 She wouldn't stop telling me how big he is and made a huge deal of it. According to her, he's a friggin beast and goes down almost to his knees. How true this is...I have no idea, but I put emphasis there because she wouldn't stop emphasizing it to me. So it's true that women like 'em huge.
Ginger Beer Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 My best friend of five years has officially taken talking about cheating on her fiance (she's talked a lot the past year) to the next level and IS cheating on him. Background: they've been together three years, she's now 21 he's 46. She wants to be with him, but at the same time wants her freedom and wants to date other guys since he's already "lived life" and she hasn't. She's cheated on previous boyfriends over the years. Two weeks ago, she told me about a coworker who was asking to go out with her. One night, her and I were together and he wanted to go out, and so she asked if I'd be okay with it. I told her that I wasn't okay with it and wasn't okay with her cheating on her fiance. I assured her I wasn't judging her, but I wasn't going to sit back and watch it happen. Regardless, she asked the dude to join us for some reason, but he said he wanted to just be with her, not with her and me. Fast forward to the other day, we hung out again and he wanted to spend some time with her. She went over to his house after our dinner, but before doing so she asked for my opinion. I told her that it wasn't good to lead someone on to believe you're available and to cheat on someone that loved you. She asked what I would do, and I told her I wouldn't go, but once again I told her that I was not going to judge her. Like I said, she went over there and I found out the next day, that she spent the night. Apparently they stayed up talking the entire night, till the end when they started making out and ended up having sex. They talked about a possible future together, and according to her, she said that she found out that he's pretty much the perfect guy for her. Young, hot, smart, dances, aspiring pilot, rich, very well-endowed, etc. She told me that she wasn't sure what to do. She loves her fiance, but she doesn't really want to be with him as of right now. She wants to see where this guy can go. She has showed me his facebook, sent me pictures of him, and most recently, a picture of them smiling together, and is continually asking me what I think. As of right now, I haven't responded to the last picture she sent me and she keeps calling me asking why I'm not responding..but I don't know what to say anymore. I'm the only person she can talk to, but I don't know how to let her know that I don't support this at all - which I've already said - and don't really want to hear about it. I told her the only way I'll meet this guy (she really really wants me to) is if they're in an official relationship and if she ends things with her fiance. Which..she said she'd do but right now isn't "the right time". I'm beyond sick of this...what would y'all do? Your friend is a whore. Send her fiance an anonymous letter and tell him she's cheating on him. It's the right thing to do.
Author Lilmisus Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 So it's true that women like 'em huge. She's amazed by it but said it felt too uncomfortable and hurt a bit too much. New add to the story: this guy told her he's 19 and he is in college to graduate in 2 years. The college part is very true...but she recently found an old photo bucket or something account of his and it said his birthday is in 1994 and she's currently freaking out. She said it would explain a lot but isn't sure what to believe - that he's 19 or 17. If he's 17 she'll feel like a pedophile Is it bad that I find this hilarious?
Ruby Slippers Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Something I forgot to mention -- my former friend, when she broke things off with her fiance? She didn't even tell him why. She was too much of a coward to tell him that she had been cheating on him all over the city for months. I thought about that guy for a while, how he must have been wondering what the hell went wrong, and how ****ty it was of her to take zero responsibility for anything. But this former friend was, like I said, very pretty, so men just loved her.
Woggle Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I wonder if that guy hasn't turned bitter towards women yet. This is the kind of stuff that turns men into misogynistic jerks.
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