primer Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Have you ever been in a relationship but felt totally alone? I have been with my boyfriend for 2-1/2 years (live separately). At times I feel so alone. I get no support from him; I feel I cannot even lean on him. Is there something I can do about this? Is it just a phase I am going through?
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Have you ever been in a relationship but felt totally alone? I have been with my boyfriend for 2-1/2 years (live separately). At times I feel so alone. I get no support from him; I feel I cannot even lean on him. Is there something I can do about this? Is it just a phase I am going through? This is highly abnormal. You should be very happy. You are extremely needy or he does not pay attention to you. Which one is it?
Author primer Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 I am far from needy. I am financially stable and I own my house. (He is too.) I work hard to be financially stable. I would just appreciate small gestures from him once in a while. My friends tell me about the nice things their boyfriends or husbands do for them (oil changes, small gifts, etc.) and I get none of that. (We are in our 40s!) It does not help that I know he did EVERYTHING for his previous girlfriend. He supported her, paid for her college, and bought her a car. I get NOTHING. It makes me feel bad.
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I am far from needy. I am financially stable and I own my house. (He is too.) I work hard to be financially stable. I would just appreciate small gestures from him once in a while. My friends tell me about the nice things their boyfriends or husbands do for them (oil changes, small gifts, etc.) and I get none of that. (We are in our 40s!) It does not help that I know he did EVERYTHING for his previous girlfriend. He supported her, paid for her college, and bought her a car. I get NOTHING. It makes me feel bad. OK, so he does not pay attention to you. It could be that you are very independent. Some successful independent women make it clear they do not need a man and hence the typical knight in shining armor that wants to help a lady in distress disappears. Maybe he takes you for granted because everything is smooth. Some of these dumb men fail to realize that most women like some attention to keep the relationship fresh.
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