OCCDAVE Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Been talking to a girl named akia for a month and half so far.we went on a few dates and really enjoyed ourselves.we even made out both agree we really liked each other.i notice bout a week ago text and calls have slowed down alot.i figured oh boy i can see where this is going.well last thursday we talked sorry ive been busy and made a plan for last night.monday we chatted all day and all was well.i was mad about something and said you know what im going to bed bye.tuesday comes and no word from her so i text here bout 4 so guess were not hanging?and got this Indeed we are not.look your a nice guy and you get mad to easily.i was gonna ignore it cuz i like you but now i see this wont be happening take care. I tried texting and calling after that no luck she wont respond.i then get a text bout an hour later saying she was at a baseball game.so im lost as to what to do plus she sure had backip plans fast?
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Been talking to a girl named akia for a month and half so far.we went on a few dates and really enjoyed ourselves.we even made out both agree we really liked each other.i notice bout a week ago text and calls have slowed down alot.i figured oh boy i can see where this is going.well last thursday we talked sorry ive been busy and made a plan for last night.monday we chatted all day and all was well.i was mad about something and said you know what im going to bed bye.tuesday comes and no word from her so i text here bout 4 so guess were not hanging?and got this Indeed we are not.look your a nice guy and you get mad to easily.i was gonna ignore it cuz i like you but now i see this wont be happening take care. I tried texting and calling after that no luck she wont respond.i then get a text bout an hour later saying she was at a baseball game.so im lost as to what to do plus she sure had backip plans fast? Dating is designed to see if you like a person or not. You must have done something that turned her off.
Art_Critic Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I wouldn't call it burned.. just dating.. It does sound like maybe YOU were the backup plan, not someone else.
GivenUp0083 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Take a look in the mirror for a second, ask yourself, do you get mad easily? Have you ever considered how other people may view your behavior? I've been known to be a hot head at times in my past, but I've never turned a girl off by showing it. You need to just play it cool and hang out with her and if things go well then it'll happen. Just from what you posted, it sounds like you have expectations going into this dating situation and when you smell a result you won't like you get upset and hang up on her. If she's an attractive girl, it means she will always have options. Ask yourself from her perspective: Why would she deal with a guy that gets mad at her over nothing?
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 True i guess bout getting mad but ive never taken it out on her till monday night.now maybe the slowed down contact and fact she had plans fast yesterday made me the backup.then again she could been at the gm with one of her friends who knows.so at this point should i try texting her or will doing so come off needy.meh
Casablanca Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 What did you get angry at? Was it her, something she said, something she did, not related to her?
Art_Critic Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 so at this point should i try texting her or will doing so come off needy.meh Dude...she is done with you.. texting her at this point would come off as desperate. Dating is about finding out what you want and don't want in a partner and she found out that she doesn't want you for a partner and has blown you off, she even said "but now i see this wont be happening take care".. Take Care means Good Bye.. Time to file this one one and move on to someone else.
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 What did you get angry at? Was it her, something she said, something she did, not related to her?had nothing to do with her ugh.dust myself off and try again
GivenUp0083 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 What did you get angry at? Was it her, something she said, something she did, not related to her? He got mad because she wasn't calling/texting him at a rate as high as it was in the beginning. What the OP is displaying is NEEDY behavior. He's setting an expectation of high communication levels early in the dating process and most women aren't ready for that when they haven't even really been on a first date yet. He scared her off. I don't blame her for walking one bit. The OP needs to CHILL....you can't control the situation, you have to just let it happen. If she's at a ball game, so what? Who cares who she's with? If she really has interest in you, she won't go out with someone else, and even if she does she has every right to go on a date with another dude because: SHE IS NOT WITH ANYONE, ESPECIALLY NOT WITH YOU. You have no right to get angry with her, you screwed up, learn from it, take a chill pill, act like a man and stop getting jealous...that's what high school teenage girls do. You're not that, are you? Man up dude.
Casablanca Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 he didnt do anything wrong. shes a spoiled princess. That's no reason to get mad at anyone though; it definitely comes off as needy and that isnt something one should get mad at.
Star Gazer Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 True i guess bout getting mad but ive never taken it out on her till monday night. This is probably not true. You're likely demonstrating a hot temper or an angry side without even realizing it. You don't have to take it out on her or yell at her for her to be able to pick up on some angry tendencies...
Star Gazer Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 your a female or youve been so feminized that you act like one. Is being a female supposed to be an insult???
Art_Critic Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 he didnt do anything wrong but your agree with her princess like entitlement complex because you also have it yourself. How about posting an on topic post rather than trolling...
GivenUp0083 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 how about you stop defeding females with entitlement complexes who act like princesses. You post the same thing on every thread, stop your depression cycle already and go walk into traffic or something.
Casablanca Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 your a female or youve been so feminized that you act like one. No, I just have common sense I know getting mad at someone you're talking to over how much they contact you is just dumb; get a grip on reality bubs
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 You post the same thing on every thread, stop your depression cycle already and go walk into traffic or something.tbh. I was mad but it had nothing to do with her.i later text her saying i screwed up but no reply.
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