littlemoth Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I've been with my boyfriend for just over 7 months, and I love him, and he loves me (I had been having doubts about this, but someone pointed out that you should take what men say at face value). My problem is that I think I've become too dependent on him. We spend a lot of time together, and even though he recently started working (we're both 18) he still wants to see me as much as he used to. Would anyone be able to give me advice on how I can become less dependent? I feel lost when he leaves every night, and never know what to do through the day. I've been thinking about looking for a part time job, but the problem is I don't have a lot of confidence so I keep putting it off. I've also wanted to get into activities like rock climbing, but don't have the money. I know it's unhealthy to be like this and I really want it to change - I think about him all the time and miss him when he's not there, but I doubt he does the same :/
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 All parents need to inform their kids the importance of getting job experience as early as possible. Ideally, at 16 you should have already started having a part time minimum wage job. Then by 18, it should be easy for you to find a full time minimum wage job considering your work experience. And after that it will be a breeze for you. Not only you already have a rich list of job experience to put on your resume, but most importantly you will also be more confident in yourself due to your extensive working experience. I have a 21 year old acquaintance who hasnt worked all his life. No matter how hard he tries, he cant get a job because no one wanna hire a 21 year old with zero job experience especially in this economy.
utterer of lies Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 All parents need to inform their kids the importance of getting job experience as early as possible. Ideally, at 16 you should have already started having a part time minimum wage job. Then by 18, it should be easy for you to find a full time minimum wage job considering your work experience. And after that it will be a breeze for you. Not only you already have a rich list of job experience to put on your resume, but most importantly you will also be more confident in yourself due to your extensive working experience. I have a 21 year old acquaintance who hasnt worked all his life. No matter how hard he tries, he cant get a job because no one wanna hire a 21 year old with zero job experience especially in this economy. I agree, except for the minimum wage bit. Why do you recommend minimum wage jobs?
primer Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Step 1 - Get a job. It will keep your mind occupied so you cannot think about him all of the time. You will have your own money. You can never depend on anybody!
make me believe Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Getting a part time job is probably the best thing you can do right now. I was very shy & introverted at your age (I still am to an extent!), but I did fine at my part time jobs. I worked in retail and it probably helped me come out of my shell a bit. And the discounts are a big plus. Then when you have a job you'll have money to pursue some of your other hobbies. And you'll probably make friends with your co-workers, so you'll have people to hang out with other than your BF. Do you have any friends that you hang out with right now? If not, that's a big problem. You really need to develop your own life outside of your BF. Do you go to school or anything?
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