Taeyang Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Hi everyone, Well heres the thing. I've been with this guy for 10 months now. We have a great relationship and I feel like we get along really good, we have good communication, a lot in common, i dunno, when we're together things are great! The problem is when we're not. I feel like he doesn't do enough to keep in contact. Like I'm the one trying the most in this relationship. We live VERY far from each other, and most of the time he's broke so I'm the one having to go see him. I mean, when he has money he'll definitely come visit me, but I'm the one doing it most of the time. Then, he works an awkward schedule, 4am to 9am, so he's sleeping most the time i try to call him, which is more of a reason why i think HE should call me. But for some reason he only starts calling me after he notices I haven't tried communicating for a while. Then he has a smartphone so he has easy access to facebook, another way we can communicate, but yet he doesnt. And I leave him messages and he doesnt answer, or just likes them. He says he's just used to aloof relationships with his past partners, but that he likes being in touch so he'll try more but that i have to call him more often too to remind him.. whatever that means :\ But, him not doing it as often really doesn't make me want to call him even more. I don't like being after the guy, so it bugs me when I have to maintain communication. And I feel like, while he is trying, he tries as little as he can, not as much. And it bugs me so muuuuuch!!!! I mean, is it wrong of me to be bugged by this? I know i'm not clingy, i give him his space, i let him sleep as much as he needs to, i only want us to keep in touch because we dont really see each other often, and i dont really know how to go about this, or how to make him understand or do i just stop this? I just feel like our communication rate isn't enough for me, that's all that really bothers me about our relationship, but it REALLY bothers me. Please, anyone have some advice for me? Thanks so much!
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