katit Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 So ive known this guy for about a year now but we dont really talk much. When we're together, the attraction and spark is there. However, contact with him is very hard. In terms of contacting him with phone, he doesnt really call or text (he does this to his friends too). Ive texted him a couple of times this summer and he responded to some texts. I am pretty shy thats why i havent called him. He doesnt use facebook either and if he goes on, he doesnt really respond to people's comments. Anyway, we act like a couple when we're together. People who has seen our pictures together thought we've been together for a long time. Weird thing though, when we're together or when we see each other(which is not a lot), hes very affectionate. When we're apart, i dont hear from him. He's told me he really likes me and i told him i really like him. But now what?? Its very confusing and emotionally its making me really down. Hes so hard to get a hold of, i dont even know how to ask him where i stand. Or if i should even do it? Help!!! Feel free to share stories of anyone confronting another person about his/her feelings. Maybe thatll give me some encouragement.
Yookie Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 You can go ahead and ask him what he wants from you but his behavior is speaking loud and clear. If he was interested in a relationship with you, he would not take a year to tell you this. He would also be spending more time with you and calling/texting you on a regular basis. Apparently, he is only interested in seeing you sporadically (probably when he has nothing better to do). He may already have a girlfriend and you're just the side piece. If you are happy with this type of arrangement then continue on. I'm sure there is a guy out there that actually wants to spend time with you so why not move on to someone who deserves your time and attention.
Author katit Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 You can go ahead and ask him what he wants from you but his behavior is speaking loud and clear. If he was interested in a relationship with you, he would not take a year to tell you this. He would also be spending more time with you and calling/texting you on a regular basis. Apparently, he is only interested in seeing you sporadically (probably when he has nothing better to do). He may already have a girlfriend and you're just the side piece. If you are happy with this type of arrangement then continue on. I'm sure there is a guy out there that actually wants to spend time with you so why not move on to someone who deserves your time and attention. Hi Yookie, Thanks for the reply! Well, shortly after we met last year, he told me he likes me but then i just got out of a relationship and i wasnt near being ready. Also, he was leaving for deployment at the time. Basically, the entire time he was on deployment we didnt get to talk. But it was when he came back early this year and we saw each other again that i finally told myself "i really need to tell him i like him" so it finally happened. Ive been telling myself to just let it go and move on but i dont know why i cant seem to let it go.
D-Lish Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 If you have to ask someone where you stand- you already have your answer. Someone that is interested in you doesn't make it hard to get a hold of them- they will go out of their way to keep in touch with you!
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