Easyguy14 Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 men who approach you in a public realm with the intentions clear that he wants to date by asking for your number/email address? or not in a public setting and not with such straightforwardness, but to befriend you first for a little bit to get to know you before going forward? in talking with my sister who's single she wants to meet a man only within a familiar setting like work or some kind of social function. she's not opened to cold approaches no matter what. Im guessing because we live in crazy new york city lol.
LoveandSuch Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I think it would be sexy and bold for a man to slip his number somewhere for you to find it by surprise, but there would have to be some signs of mutual attraction first.
thatone Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 men who approach you in a public realm with the intentions clear that he wants to date by asking for your number/email address? or not in a public setting and not with such straightforwardness, but to befriend you first for a little bit to get to know you before going forward? in talking with my sister who's single she wants to meet a man only within a familiar setting like work or some kind of social function. she's not opened to cold approaches no matter what. Im guessing because we live in crazy new york city lol. your sister is gonna have to grow up, unless she's still in high school she needs to get over high school.
Savannah323 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 Well both familiar and public realms are fine. It all depends on the circumstances. For instance, if the setting is public and the guy sparks an interest and is appealing, then it would be okay. Lets be open minded. Meeting someone within a familiar environment as in work or friends is "safe". But, it does not mean it will work.
orion1010 Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 men who approach you in a public realm with the intentions clear that he wants to date by asking for your number/email address? or not in a public setting and not with such straightforwardness, but to befriend you first for a little bit to get to know you before going forward? in talking with my sister who's single she wants to meet a man only within a familiar setting like work or some kind of social function. she's not opened to cold approaches no matter what. Im guessing because we live in crazy new york city lol. I give credit to any man that can approach me in public or otherwise to let me know he's interested. If you feel someting for someone, and have the guts to walk up to her then go for it. If a woman limits her options to work or any place she knows, then it will be that much harder for her to meet a guy that's right for her.
Author Easyguy14 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 I give credit to any man that can approach me in public or otherwise to let me know he's interested. If you feel someting for someone, and have the guts to walk up to her then go for it. If a woman limits her options to work or any place she knows, then it will be that much harder for her to meet a guy that's right for her. ^^do agree with this. but Im also curious about a guy approaching you in a non-threatening manner and wanted to get to know you as a friend first with a bit of flirting in the mix? Im asking this because I sorta wanna do it with this woman that I see pretty regularly working at this store. she seems a little shy and slightly off-putting because she probably gets hit on too forwardly by creepers and I wanna go beyond that and make a better impression. she's cute in a girl-next-door sorta way. as for my sister, she's 21 so still a young duck trying to swim I guess lol.
Mr. Savage Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 We live in a society now where everyone who is a stranger is considered a potential creeper. Which is probably why alot of girls only date guys from work or from other social networks. Like what someone said about high school. I notice alot of girls carrying on this mentality well into their 20's. They just need to grow up. The cool ones are out there though. Just gotta find 'em. I'm still looking,
counterman Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I have cold-approached a few ladies recently and they have said it has made their day Surprisingly, even the hottest girls don't get approached often or at all. I know a lot of guys who carry they thought of being friends with a girl and then perhaps dating them. I have some like that who are my friends...who have criticised me for cold-approaching girls. I want to say "just grow a pair and do it yourself". At least I ask girls out I would say just talk to her, have a decent conversation with a bit of flirting (which already separates you from those creeps) and then set up something. All good!
Anela Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 I give credit to any man that can approach me in public or otherwise to let me know he's interested. If you feel someting for someone, and have the guts to walk up to her then go for it. If a woman limits her options to work or any place she knows, then it will be that much harder for her to meet a guy that's right for her. This is the way I feel now, but I still freeze when someone approaches. I was very shy, and preferred getting to know someone in a familiar setting, so I can understand her feelings.
KathyM Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 men who approach you in a public realm with the intentions clear that he wants to date by asking for your number/email address? or not in a public setting and not with such straightforwardness, but to befriend you first for a little bit to get to know you before going forward? in talking with my sister who's single she wants to meet a man only within a familiar setting like work or some kind of social function. she's not opened to cold approaches no matter what. Im guessing because we live in crazy new york city lol. That attitude is actually pretty common in most areas. I know a lot of people who will only date someone that they have gotten to know from other places--not some stranger off the street. On the other hand, I also know people who wouldn't hesitate to approach women they meet out in public and ask for a phone number after getting a little conversation going. I also know women who would go out with a stranger that approached them--although they would make sure the date was arranged for a public place for safety reasons. Doesn't hurt to try both ways--approach strangers and get involved in things that would allow you to get to know people first. If you want to expand your options and increase the pool of potential dates, you have to try a lot of different methods--online dating, approaching strangers, getting to know people in various settings.
Author Easyguy14 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Posted August 4, 2011 That attitude is actually pretty common in most areas. I know a lot of people who will only date someone that they have gotten to know from other places--not some stranger off the street. On the other hand, I also know people who wouldn't hesitate to approach women they meet out in public and ask for a phone number after getting a little conversation going. I also know women who would go out with a stranger that approached them--although they would make sure the date was arranged for a public place for safety reasons. Doesn't hurt to try both ways--approach strangers and get involved in things that would allow you to get to know people first. If you want to expand your options and increase the pool of potential dates, you have to try a lot of different methods--online dating, approaching strangers, getting to know people in various settings. good points but after a short stint on pof which I used because its free I realize that the women on there aren't really serious about meeting except maybe the much older women with kids, not saying its a bad thing, but Im a young guy so Im trying to stay around my age group, give or take a few years. does anyone know any other free dating websites that actually work? Im really interested in meeting someone as my life is almost in order and Im most keen on spending time with someone special. no marriage yet though lol.
KathyM Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 good points but after a short stint on pof which I used because its free I realize that the women on there aren't really serious about meeting except maybe the much older women with kids, not saying its a bad thing, but Im a young guy so Im trying to stay around my age group, give or take a few years. does anyone know any other free dating websites that actually work? Im really interested in meeting someone as my life is almost in order and Im most keen on spending time with someone special. no marriage yet though lol. I think that's probably true that POF and other dating websites are mostly people 30+. I know a lot of people who have profiles on there, or who have met people from there. I do know for a fact that there are some younger women on there--not that many though, I realize that. Both my neices had profiles on dating websites at one point. They are very nice girls in their 20s. Beautiful, intelligent, nice quality girls. One of them met her boyfriend on Match.com, and has been dating him exclusively for over a year. The other one is now married (although to someone she met out in public). So I wouldn't give up on the dating websites, cause you never know--you might find someone there. Explore all your options. Try several dating websites. The more you put yourself out there, the more people you will meet. And don't limit it to free dating sites. Try EHarmony for a while. A friend of mine met his wife on there, and she was a great match for him. Since you are young, you might want to consider taking a few college courses at the local community college. Tons of young women there. You'd be putting yourself in a good place for meeting young women, as well as bettering your education and possibly your job prospects. Might be worth a try. Also, try dance classes. Lots of women love to dance, but most men are not good dancers. You'd be meeting women there, and improve a skill that women find attractive in a man.
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Either cause sometimes you don't want to have a guy in your circle ask you out cause it could disturb the group dynamic and I've met great people in random places like the pet store or at borders( WHICH IS OUT OF BUSINESS HOW?!?!?!) I'm also not scared to approach a guy out in public though even if you just start a conversation you can't really lose!
YeahDotDotDot Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I can go either way, but the approach would be different because we don't know anything about each other, except the physical attraction.
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 I can go either way, but the approach would be different because we don't know anything about each other, except the physical attraction. I totally once asked a guy about a certain book because I saw him pick it up and asked if he thought it sounded good lol!
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