elf456 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Well, I guess there are several problems right now in my relationship with my boyfriend. We've been dating about 2 and a half years, we both graduate in May from a master's program, and it's kind of up in the air what we do next. Please be patient with me while I tell my story: When we first started dating obviously it was great, we talked about marriage, how we were meant to be together, but his sister got engaged about 9 months after we met (from her bf of 9 years) and since then, my boyfriend has said, because she wanted her "me" (his quotes) time with the wedding, that it would be rude to discuss marriage during this time. She's six years older than him, so there's probably that dynamic going on. She got married last month (actually on my birthday...another story), didn't include me in anything on the wedding day, told my boyfriend that I shouldn't come visit their family in California, and just has been really bitchy (?) to me in general. I can take this (I guess), girls sometimes get funny around other girls, my problem stems from my boyfriend not understanding, and not doing anything about this. After the wedding, when we were talking about our plans for the rest of the summer, she actually said, "....., why don't you go to Oregon, and ....., you go to California." Meaning she wanted us to spend the rest of the summer apart (this is the same girl who told my bf that us holding hands was "inappropriate") He did come visit my family, like we had planned, but then, he did what she wanted, and he's in California now, and I am once again, not invited to be part of the family. I wonder if I want to deal with this in the future...why does he listen to her? He does exactly what she tells him to do, and he's not acting like a man! And further, he gets angry at me for bringing this up about his sister. How I interpret this is that he doesn't like me, enough anyway to understand why I'm hurt. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, (it doesn't to me either!), and please let me know if you need more elaboration, thank you for any advice you can give. It would be nice to listen to someone unbiased. I guess my question is that I probably shouldn't be planning on my boyfriend and I being together for next year? It doesn't sound like someone who is getting ready to ask a girlfriend to marry him (which is the only way we would stay together after we graduate, I'm not moving with a guy unless we're engaged)? I guess I'm answering my own question here...
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