one goal Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Im not going to talk to her ever again I told her, and told her to buzz off. She was finally honest tonight about why she didnt like me. She said I creeped her out and was awkward in class. I asked her why and she said because of my persistance in asking her out. Also its because in class I did seem nervous around her I told her because of how pretty she is. Here is a cliff notes of the texts she sent me and a couple of my replies. "You're 27 yrs old, grow up and get over it. We knew each other for only a few weeks and you're acting crazy over it" "Im not freaking out, you;re the one whos upset" I obviously dont like you and I dont want to be your friend" "Go talk to your friends" then finally I told her to buzz off and that I dont have time to talk to girls like her and that Im busy. here is her reply cliffnotes "You wanna know why I dont like you, its because you creep me out and in class" I then asked why she said I creep her out and awkward and her response is: "You are too persistant, you couldnt take a hint, and you were texting me way too much. I used to get like 3 page texts from you and I didnt need to hear it" "so just forget about me, and find a girl that likes you back"
Rinas Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Time to move on and take what was said into consideration, you'll be okay!
somedude81 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 One goal, we really wanted to help you but from your posts you've basically been telling us that you don't want it. All you want to do is vent. I would strongly recommend getting therapy. Until you see a professional, there is no help for you on this board.
leftfordead2 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Yup, creepy, creep, any variation of the word creep best describes you.
Professor X Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 So does that mean you will ask her out again? Or is it time for a new victim?
utterer of lies Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 So she sent me some text back and was honest And the big question is: What did you learn from that?
Roman Griffen Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Lordy. sorry to hear that. BUT at least now you know. I hope there aren't many classes left. Also, think about Utterer's question.
Author one goal Posted July 31, 2011 Author Posted July 31, 2011 Lordy. sorry to hear that. BUT at least now you know. I hope there aren't many classes left. Also, think about Utterer's question. Class was over last week. I did learn some from it. She said I was awkward and way too persistant. Honestly the reason why I always seemed nervous aruond her, talking to her is because she's a very very pretty looking young lady. She is one of the best girls I ever seen and I was honest and told her that was why I seemed to she was because I was intimidated by how pretty she was. So thats why I texted her a lot instead because it's easier to text someone instead of face to face. I really cared for and liked her lot so thats why this is hurting so bad.
Lucky_One Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 You don't care for her, and you don't even know her. If you cared for her, you would have backed off when she first asked you to.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Part of caring for a person is respecting them and their wishes.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I haz troll food.... I say that is her playing hard to get, and she wants you to try harder. You werent romantic enough, you were just texting her random shyt that didnt stimulate her mind. You need to be more cerebral...tell her you were awkward because you were on meds or something. This screams to me like she is seriously playing hard to get...she wants you buddy. lol:lmao:
Author one goal Posted July 31, 2011 Author Posted July 31, 2011 You don't care for her, and you don't even know her. If you cared for her, you would have backed off when she first asked you to. I wanted a date with her sooo bad though. if I didn't care for her, why would I want to go out with her then?
MarlyStar Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I wanted a date with her sooo bad though. if I didn't care for her, why would I want to go out with her then? Because you were obsessed. You knew at the end of the Jan-May semester she didn't want you, and yet you signed up for the summer semester. She made it very, very clear--and you were determined to ignore every sign she gave you. You are lucky she didn't get school authorities involved in making you back off. I would have. Leave the woman alone. One date would not have satisfied you. You would have wanted more, then you would have wanted her to sleep with you. Then you would have wanted her to react to you the way the fantasies in your head dictate. She didn't hurt you, YOU hurt you. You ignored blatant obvious signs of her lack of interest. You set yourself up for this pain. What have you learned about yourself through this? If you've learned nothing but are just sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself, I suggest you contact a therapist and get to it. You didn't care about her; you were obsessed. And obsession is not about the object being obsessed over, it's about the person obsessing. Your pain is not evidence that you cared about her, it's evidence that you are dealing with mental or emotional disturbance. If you don't figure yourself out, you will soon be obsesssing about someone else, and the next someone may not be so patient. The next obsession-object may sic the police on you the second go around. No means no, even if it's said by a very pretty person. How do you feel being thought of with contempt as creepy by this person you so loved? You don't like it, but it's a clear sign that you have to learn non-creepy ways of handling relationships. And that you have to respect the word 'no'.
Professor X Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I wanted a date with her sooo bad though. if I didn't care for her, why would I want to go out with her then? So when will you call her next? BTW, you should contact ES, she needs constant attention and that is something you are willing to give. Just throwing it out there.
Author one goal Posted July 31, 2011 Author Posted July 31, 2011 Because you were obsessed. You knew at the end of the Jan-May semester she didn't want you, and yet you signed up for the summer semester. She made it very, very clear--and you were determined to ignore every sign she gave you. You are lucky she didn't get school authorities involved in making you back off. I would have. Leave the woman alone. One date would not have satisfied you. You would have wanted more, then you would have wanted her to sleep with you. Then you would have wanted her to react to you the way the fantasies in your head dictate. She didn't hurt you, YOU hurt you. You ignored blatant obvious signs of her lack of interest. You set yourself up for this pain. What have you learned about yourself through this? If you've learned nothing but are just sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself, I suggest you contact a therapist and get to it. You didn't care about her; you were obsessed. And obsession is not about the object being obsessed over, it's about the person obsessing. Your pain is not evidence that you cared about her, it's evidence that you are dealing with mental or emotional disturbance. If you don't figure yourself out, you will soon be obsesssing about someone else, and the next someone may not be so patient. The next obsession-object may sic the police on you the second go around. No means no, even if it's said by a very pretty person. How do you feel being thought of with contempt as creepy by this person you so loved? You don't like it, but it's a clear sign that you have to learn non-creepy ways of handling relationships. And that you have to respect the word 'no'. I didnt have her during the spring semester. I only met her in the summer class I signed up for.
TuffCookieX Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I think the underlying message in her texts is that you didn't try hard enough. I think she really wants you to show up at her door with a dozen roses... better yet - break into her house and wait in her bed for her. Bonus points if you're naked.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I think the underlying message in her texts is that you didn't try hard enough. I think she really wants you to show up at her door with a dozen roses... better yet - break into her house and wait in her bed for her. Bonus points if you're naked. Naked in the bed full of red rose pedals, with some dark chocolates in hand. hopefully they wont melt.
thatone Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I think the underlying message in her texts is that you didn't try hard enough. I think she really wants you to show up at her door with a dozen roses... better yet - break into her house and wait in her bed for her. Bonus points if you're naked. ya know, when he's in a sweatbox with a couple of FBI agents they're gonna wanna talk to you!
Author one goal Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 She sent me some text tonight. THey were very nasty, rude, and some cases plain vile. This girl seriously I think might be psychotic. Im actually little worried she might come after me or something. Really she did a complete 360 the past few days. I told her she says anything more about me or my family Im taking legal action.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 She sent me some text tonight. THey were very nasty, rude, and some cases plain vile. This girl seriously I think might be psychotic. Im actually little worried she might come after me or something. Really she did a complete 360 the past few days. I told her she says anything more about me or my family Im taking legal action. This was almost funny, but it was predictable. Time to act like a full on victim of her cyber bullying next.
Cracker Jack Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Did you continue to send her texts after last night? I doubt she would've randomly sent you more. Oh, and post the texts.
Author one goal Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 Did you continue to send her texts after last night? I doubt she would've randomly sent you more. Oh, and post the texts. Take me a long time to type em all out.
Lilmisus Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 She sent me some text tonight. THey were very nasty, rude, and some cases plain vile. This girl seriously I think might be psychotic. Im actually little worried she might come after me or something. Really she did a complete 360 the past few days. I told her she says anything more about me or my family Im taking legal action. I think you mean she did a complete 180 Besides, only if she spreads LIES about you can you really take legal action. If she only tells the world "some creep asked me out and wouldn't leave me the hell alone and now I'm pissed off!" then you can't really do anything. Lo siento chico. Maybe this is the wake up call you need to leave chicks alone when they decline the first time. And I agree. Post the texts.
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