velocitii Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I met this girl in one of my college classes. I met her around Fall 2009 but we aren't particularly the closest of friends. We went from having study groups to going to lunch to museums to just bumming around together. About her: Independent - Isn't needy, clingy, does things on her own, doesn't take charity Mature - She's two years younger than me but acts very grown up, and she was very much in control of her feelings when we talked about her break up. Intelligent - Reads a lot, always learning, she's a curious one Genuine - not fake at all, and I'm pretty good at judgment of character, and she hasn't flaked on me unless it was an emergency like many of the other college girls I meet Introverted - from her own words, if she spends too much time socializing she needs a day or two to be a homebody and unwind hard working - taking 5 classes and working 3 jobs open minded - She's always up to try new things and doesn't judge people based on race, age, sexual orientation, etc. She's always had a boyfriend since I met her, and I've never had any feelings above friendship for her. She would constantly invite me out with her and her boyfriend, but I hated being the third wheel so I rarely went. Whenever we're online we could chat constantly about anything. We share music back and forth through e-mails. And whenever I'm with her, I just feel very calm and relaxed, and the silences we have aren't awkward. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of 3-4 years less than a month ago. After hearing about this, I took her to a show to try and cheer her up and that's when my feelings for her started to emerge. I want to get rid of these feelings because I think it's inappropriate since she JUST got out of a relationship, but she's on my mind alot despite me only seeing her about once a month or so. I know she's still hung up on her ex. Since they decided to be friends, they still talk daily, and hang out a lot. I'm not sure what the reasons for them breaking up are since I don't want to pry. HELP?
AngryPMS Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 Tell here that you like her. If she doesn't respond well then you don't need to think about her anymore.
Teknoe Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 NO! Way too soon for you to confess, and way too soon for her after a trying breakup. You don't want to be a rebound or either one of you enter into a relationship confused. Wait it out. Be there for her. But don't confess/spill your guts. Your main concern is to keep being a good friend in her time of need. She needs time to heal, too. You don't want to jump into a relationship one month after someone just ended a relationship of 3-4 years. NOT A WISE MOVE. Good luck. This is a delicate situation. I say best bet is to move slowly and see how things are a month from now (at the very least).
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