U1987 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I've set up an OK Cupid account alongside my plenty of fish. I too that OKC matching questionnaire, and I'm a bit worried because it's listing a lot of girls I find attractive with higher points in the "Friend" and "Enemy" category over "Match." How important is the Match/Friend/Enemy function to you? Do you think a lot of girls in the 18-25 range put a lot of stock into it?
oaks Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 How important is the Match/Friend/Enemy function to you? Do you think a lot of girls in the 18-25 range put a lot of stock into it? I used to find it useful but I've read posts on other forums recently that suggests that the formula for calculating match % has changed to give higher scores (together with complaints that this is, therefore, less useful), so I'm being cautious about what those numbers show.
zengirl Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I'm not sure about currently, but I always used it a lot. Match % specifically. I did very little with Friend or Enemy.
tigressA Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 When I was using the site those percentages were important to me. I didn't bother with those: whose 'enemy' percentage was above 15% whose 'friend' or 'enemy' percentage was higher than the match percentage
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 When I see match % as lower than 60, I don't bother. More often than not it means that the guy is into casual sex, open relationships etc.
Emilia Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 When I first used OKC I filled out the questions and realised I didn't particularly enjoy the pigeon holes the software put me after and I started ignoring % soon after. A lot of guys don't fill them out and my advice to you would be the same too. Don't bother with the silly questions, put together a decent profile with some good pics and that's it. Don't trust a software or algorithm to do the matching.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I've set up an OK Cupid account alongside my plenty of fish. I too that OKC matching questionnaire, and I'm a bit worried because it's listing a lot of girls I find attractive with higher points in the "Friend" and "Enemy" category over "Match." How important is the Match/Friend/Enemy function to you? Do you think a lot of girls in the 18-25 range put a lot of stock into it? I'm a guy, but I always use the match % as a useful tool but not a make or break thing. I usually look at the profile and the type of questions they answered. I look for common interests, and make sure that they don't smoke, do drugs, and they're not a hard core liberal or conservative. Usually these women have a 80%+ match percentage, but even if the percentage wasn't that high I'd still message them. I don't know if women do the same thing though.
sm1tten Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I didn't put much stock in to the percentages. I looked at the whole profile and if I was feeling so-so then I might have leaned farther or closer toward them based on how high the match percentage was, but otherwise I ignored it.
Casablanca Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I didn't put much stock in to the percentages. I looked at the whole profile and if I was feeling so-so then I might have leaned farther or closer toward them based on how high the match percentage was, but otherwise I ignored it. Same...and if they only answered a couple questions it could throw off the percentage
serialgf Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 the only one that really mattered to me was the enemy number. if it's above 15% then i didn't tend to bother. i don't find the match % to matter very much. at first i was going after guys that were 80% match or better but even the 90% guys didn't really seem like any better of a match than guys with lower %s...
Stung Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 When I was online dating using OKC, I really didn't even look at anyone who didn't have at least an 80% Match with me, or anyone who had more than 10% Enemy. I didn't have any 'rule' about the Friend % but I felt it was better if that was high, too. I was a couple of years older than your stated age range, though, and pickier than most I think. I also corresponded with each potential for a while before I ever met him, and we had to really spark conversationally and flow with each other's humor before I even saw a point to meeting. I only physically met about five or six guys off that site, and three of them I'm still good friends with, and one of them I married, so I consider my stringent methods pretty sound. IIRC, my husband was a 98% Match, 92% Friend, and 1% Enemy; I was his highest match in 1000 miles. I have heard they have tweaked the matching system since then, though.
OliveOyl Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I wasn't interested in the specific match % although the guys I corresponded with were generally over 80%. I was more interested in their answers to specific questions. I found those to be enlightening.
ScreamingTrees Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Maybe it was just me, but I remember having an Enemy % equaling the friend % for some women.. That was weird. Doesn't really hold much weight if the profile is saying "YES!", even if the percentages say no. It's certainly not a perfect, accurate system.
Red Arremer Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 When I see match % as lower than 60, I don't bother. More often than not it means that the guy is into casual sex, open relationships etc. When I see enemy % as higher than 20, I don't bother. More often than not it means that the girl isn't into casual sex, open relationships etc.
Audrina Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 When I was using OkCupid! I found it very useful, it showed me if we had fundamental differences that would cause issues is our having a relationship later. I would see what our difference in opinions were about and go from there. Because really, there are some things that are very important to me I won't compromise on.
Author U1987 Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 How do you explain girls not responding even though you have 0% - 5% Enemy and 80%-90% Match?
Star Gazer Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 When I was briefly on OKC, I paid more attention to the specific questions we disagreed on, and his answers to those questions, rather than the percentages. You could have a high percentage with someone based on some pretty shallow issues/subjects, if that's the type of questions they chose to answer. What I found interesting, and what confirmed my suspicions that the OKC algorithm is a JOKE, was I'd be like a 95% match with someone, and only have two or three questions out of 100 or more that we disagreed on, but they were huge. For example, the biggest deal breakers for me, is when they answer the following questions the following ways: Would you date someone who is married or in a committed relationship: Yes Are you looking for an open relationship? Yes Do you like kids? No If they answer that way, I could care less if every other question points to compatibility.
rafallus Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 How do you explain girls not responding even though you have 0% - 5% Enemy and 80%-90% Match? That you pay way too much attention to an arbitrary number.
zengirl Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 When I was briefly on OKC, I paid more attention to the specific questions we disagreed on, and his answers to those questions, rather than the percentages. You could have a high percentage with someone based on some pretty shallow issues/subjects, if that's the type of questions they chose to answer. What I found interesting, and what confirmed my suspicions that the OKC algorithm is a JOKE, was I'd be like a 95% match with someone, and only have two or three questions out of 100 or more that we disagreed on, but they were huge. For example, the biggest deal breakers for me, is when they answer the following questions the following ways: Would you date someone who is married or in a committed relationship: Yes Are you looking for an open relationship? Yes Do you like kids? No If they answer that way, I could care less if every other question points to compatibility. Did you put "Mandatory" for those questions? When I was playing around with it, I found even changing a "Mandatory" question to one that clashed deducted huge points (and questions that built similarly on the same subject like that compounded deductions), but the algorithm has changed throughout the years. My ex and I used to play around with it to see how it worked, so I have some idea.
dispatch3d Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 How do you explain girls not responding even though you have 0% - 5% Enemy and 80%-90% Match? They are too stupid to realize what they are missing out on? I don't know man haha. Make up some positive reason why and keep trucking .
FitChick Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 That function is about as useful as those endless "personality" and "compatibility" tests or matching scores.
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