PolskaCommander Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly 5 months now. For the past 2 days, she's been acting strange. In those 2 days, she lied to me 4 times about problems that have happened within our relationship. Eventually she told the truth and it all came down to this... She feels lost in the relationship, but she doesn't know how to exactly explain it. She feels that we both have different views on life now. She talked to her best friend about OUR relationship before talking to me about it. She lied saying there isn't a problem with us to me, while talking to her best friend about it behind my back about it. In any relationship, if there is a problem with it, the couple should talk together first, and not go to their best friends. She denies lying and thinks the relationship isn't the same. I'm thinking it isn't the same anymore ever since she's been acting strange. Now we are taking time apart from each other, and we are going to evaluate our relationship and she said she'll let me know sometime later about what she thinks. It is as if she has second thoughts about dating me, and now I'm getting those thoughts too. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
Audrina Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I understand where you're coming from, however I think that her turning to her friend is only a natural response, maybe she didn't want to worry you about the relationship. However, it sounds like you guys are doing the right thing by reevaluating the relationship. If she does feel lost, that's not a good sign, and to you it's not good that she didn't come to you about the issues first and you view this as lying. No matter what trust has to be rebuilt and you guys will have to have a serious conversation to save your relationship ... or move on.
Author PolskaCommander Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 Yes and it's been nearly a day since we've talked about our relationship. Once I am ready to talk, and she says she is ready too, then we will talk about the relationship. Right now I don't see this relationship going much further. It just doesn't seem right to continue it at this point. But then again, if we talk and somehow save it, then everything would be awesome. I'm leaning towards breaking up with her because trust needs to be built, just as you said. I don't think I can trust her much anymore, so it'd be nearly a miracle to save the relationship.
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