oceanic1 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) Does it look "desperate" if u ask a guy to hang out on Sunday when it's only Tuesday morning? we've hung before btw. I just have a really busy week coming up with college classes & sports, so there aren't that many days available for me... & I thought maybe I'd look LESS desperate because the first day I'm offering isn't till Sunday... which gives the impression I already have my own plans on Fri night, Sat night, etc He's just NOT the type to make plans in advance so I hope I did not freak him out and scare him totally away by trying to get him to "commit" in advance. Edited July 27, 2011 by oceanic1
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 confidence in women is attractive, just as it is in men. get some of it, and stop worrying about preconceived notions. if you wanna ask him out do it. if you don't, don't. be confident in your decision either way.
Author oceanic1 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 thx... no im happy with what i did... i just wondered if asking 6 days in advance was "desperate"... but honestly it might b the opposite, bc if u think about it, I'm asking him for a Sunday -- meaning I'm letting Thurs/Fri/Sat night go by without wanting to make plans w/him...
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 all of these labels for such things are pretty silly, and people put way too much thought into them. be yourself, if you can't be yourself how are you going to find someone who is happy with how you are? if you like initiating dates and contact, do it. if you don't, don't. but if you're genuine with whichever one that is you'll eventually find someone who likes you that way.
Author oceanic1 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 thank u. also confused bc he keeps telling me his exact schedule w/soccer games, classes, etc... but will wait for me to actually make plans w/him. i feel like he's either: 1) not that into me 2) thinking i'm not that into him -- so he wants to put the ball in my court
FormerNiceGuy Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) Honestly, if I was the guy, I would be a bit skeptical and kind of think that the girl wasn't that interested in me. If I'm hanging out with a girl on a Tuesday and I feel things are going well...I might be feel there's a higher gauge of interest if the girl says she'd be down to hang out on a Friday or a Saturday. Being on a Sunday..might give me the impression (it's just me though) that I'm just to hang out with her on a "left-over" day. That being said, there's no need to worry about the desperation thing. Edited July 27, 2011 by FormerNiceGuy
musemaj11 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 If you worry about being desperate then you probably are desperate anyway. People who arent desperate dont even care if what they are doing is desperate or not because they know they are not. They just do whatever they want.
heavyiron Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 No it does not look desperate. Stop thinking so much and just ask. Us guys like confident girls too.
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