temporaryvisa Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 LOL. Libido is a very weird word. Most people my age seem to not know it. I will admit I'm a horny kid. I 'bate everyday and now that I have an iPhone, have been watching 5-10 mins of porn almost everyday in bed. The worst is getting caught by my mom... I used to have a vibro, but I threw it away when my friend told me it hurts vaginas! I have had sex with two guys. One was a sweeetheart, not so good in bed. The other was one of the biggest *******s I've ever met, ****ing FANTASTIC in bed. I never knew I was a squirter til I met him, is what I'm saying. I'm quite kinky and although I don't want to sleep around (makes me feel VERY sick, even the idea), I like to sex-chat with guys, some of my friends. Makes me feel like a slut. Part of the reason I want a boyfriend IS the safe, loving, SEXUAL part of it..The physical part of it! My loneliness can be quenched with friends or with my family... But what can I do to quench *that* kind of urge? I'm getting sick of myself. lol
Nexus One Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 You reason yourself into an impossible corner in my opinion. You say: 1. You're not ready to date. 2. Vibrators damage vagina's. (What? This is the first time I hear that. Do vibrators permanently stretch out the vagina or something, making it less tight?) 3. FWB's make you feel like a slut. If you want a boyfriend, but aren't ready to date, then try to grow until you are. Learn. Know thyself.
ptp Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I am a guy, and I have met girls like you. Don't take this the wrong way but you don't seem mature, you don't seem to know what you like/dislike. You probably shouldn't sleep around too much, you could end up hurting that 26 year old dude pretty badly and you find yourself getting hurt as well. IMO you need to control your "urges" until you find someone who you can be in a relationship with. Explore your "kinky" side with him in a loving healthy safe relationship. I don't think you should ever feel bad about exploring your sexual side, it isn't slutty its natural. Above all, be safe, use condoms.
Nexus One Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I am a guy, and I have met girls like you. Don't take this the wrong way but you don't seem mature, you don't seem to know what you like/dislike. You probably shouldn't sleep around too much, you could end up hurting that 26 year old dude pretty badly and you find yourself getting hurt as well. Good point. She's entering the age where many girls just wants to have fun. More mature guys looking for a serious relationship really dislike flimsy girls like that.
carhill Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 A vibrator doesn't have to go inside your vagina to stimulate you to orgasm, presuming you are uncomfortable for whatever reason with insertion. Just use it on your labia and clitoris. My vote would be for a vibrator (or some well-tuned fingers), some lube and happy thoughts. Good luck Of course, if you don't mind casual sex, there are plenty of men out there to oblige that proclivity. Be safe.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Part of the reason I want a boyfriend IS the safe, loving, SEXUAL part of it..The physical part of it! My loneliness can be quenched with friends or with my family... But what can I do to quench *that* kind of urge? I'm getting sick of myself. lol I'm a guy but the sentiments here really resonate with me (obviously with a girlfriend instead). I think I'd like to experience what sex (hell even kissing) feels like but I don't really want to be promiscuous either. I'm 23 but I live at home and need to get some full time job prospects and my own place before I start to think about dating. In the meantime though being single can suck sometimes.
snug.bunny Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I never had these libido driven urges until I hit my thirties. Then again, I was a taken woman for the majority of the time, so I was fulfilled sexually. I think you're just going through the pangs of growing up and coming into your own.
somedude81 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 But what about my libido? Masturbate, a lot. You're lucky you are a girl. Not only is it much easier for you to have sex than it is for a man, your sex drive is only a fraction of a man's.
musemaj11 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Temporaryvisa and eternal sunshine are the resident 'psycho' women on this forum. Lol
Fondue Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 You can both have sex (and thus suppress your urges), and do charity work at the same time. Just have sex with the dudes who probably don't get it often (or not at all). Not only will you be doing the deed, but you'll be making someone else happy. Think of it as donations, or racking up positive karma points. On top of that, I'm sure these dudes will try hard to please you both sexually, and non-sexually.
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