superchiefs Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I am a manager that has become attracted to one of my employees. If I want to date them, what is the best course of action? Should I resign from my position or should I just go ahead and ask them out and see what happens? The place I work for says that managers should not date employees in it's handbook, but can they really control what I do in my personal life outside of work? All of my evaluations have clearly stated that I am one of the best managers they have.
GorillaTheater Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Your employer doesn't want you as a manager to date subordinate employees because they'd rather avoid the sexual harrassment and favoritism complaints/lawsuits which generally follow. That, and it's completely unprofessional from any standpoint. So yeah, resign or forget about dating your employee. But why the hell would you give up a job you presumably enjoy for some dating relationship?
Author superchiefs Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 Your employer doesn't want you as a manager to date subordinate employees because they'd rather avoid the sexual harrassment and favoritism complaints/lawsuits which generally follow. That, and it's completely unprofessional from any standpoint. So yeah, resign or forget about dating your employee. But why the hell would you give up a job you presumably enjoy for some dating relationship? You are right, I shouldnt give up a job that I enjoy for a dating relationship. What about if I got rid of the employee? They have made a few mistakes that I have written them up for, so if they make another mistake, should I just let them go and the pursue a dating relationship with them?
GorillaTheater Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 You are right, I shouldnt give up a job that I enjoy for a dating relationship. What about if I got rid of the employee? They have made a few mistakes that I have written them up for, so if they make another mistake, should I just let them go and the pursue a dating relationship with them? Oh man, you just cracked me up over here. You're going to ask her out after you fire her? "I need you to pack your personal effects and leave the premises. And hey baby, you need some help carrying that box?" Don't get rid of her. This is your problem, not hers. You're the manager, remember? You're supposed to be dealing with this professionally. It almost sounds like you're a little desperate here. If so, that's scarcity thinking. She's one potential partner out of thousands. Go find the others and leave her alone.
azsinglegal Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 You are right, I shouldnt give up a job that I enjoy for a dating relationship. What about if I got rid of the employee? They have made a few mistakes that I have written them up for, so if they make another mistake, should I just let them go and the pursue a dating relationship with them? She won't date you if you fire her. That just cracked me up. LOL
sm1tten Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Go ahead and do this. Pray that she doesn't find this thread and sue you. The best course of action is to fish for dates somewhere else.
Art_Critic Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 What about if I got rid of the employee? They have made a few mistakes that I have written them up for, so if they make another mistake, should I just let them go and the pursue a dating relationship with them? If you do this... All of my evaluations have clearly stated that I am one of the best managers they have. Then you won't be one of the best managers they have.. in fact you will fall into the ranks of the worst managers they HAD
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