sagirl1891 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 (edited) Hi! I was just away for a week doing a summer program. I met a guy there who was flirting heavily with me. He was sweet, endearing, attractive, but told me that he had never had a relationship longer than a few months and he was bad at keeping in contact (red flags, I know). However, he had multiple chances to flirt with other girls and didn't. He would sit by me and talk to me. By the end of the week, we kissed in a bar. He asked me to come back to his place but logistically it did not work out, so we went home separately. Since he paid for my drinks at the bar and the tab got to be very expensive, I asked him how I could repay him. He responded "I suppose we can find a way for you to make it up to me... but only what you're comfortable with my dear, perhaps a dinner date." To which I replied that I wanted to get to know him better, but I understood that he had 'teenager needs' (inside joke). He responded "That's right my dear. Soon enough...soon enough." I wrote back "I'll follow your lead, Captain" to which he responded, "That sounds like a brilliant idea, my sweet." This was on Saturday night. I haven't heard from him so I texted him today to wish him luck on a job interview. We talked very briefly. I think he's awesome and would love to see him again! Do you guys think it's in the cards or am I just setting myself up for rejection? EDITED TO ADD: I am horribly bad at dating, so i don't know how much/how little contact is expected/given in these circumstances. He's a very nice guy and I definitely think he's into me... silly me didn't realize that until the end of the week! Now we're both back home in the same state. Edited July 25, 2011 by sagirl1891
Mr. Slim Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Perhaps I am being a bit thick but what are the red flags here? You've known each other a week? It also depends on what you want out of this. If it's a relationship, I think he's already made it clear that's going to be a no-go with his disclaimer.
Author sagirl1891 Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 Perhaps I am being a bit thick but what are the red flags here? You've known each other a week? It also depends on what you want out of this. If it's a relationship, I think he's already made it clear that's going to be a no-go with his disclaimer. Yes, we've known each other a week. About the disclaimers...they came up naturally in conversation, if that makes it any clearer. I don't think I want a relationship, but I do want to get to know him better. I texted him today asking to cash in our dinner date and he wrote back "That can be arranged." Somehow I feel like I'm pressing my luck. If he were interested, wouldn't he want to set a time? Thanks for your advice.
jk876 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Just from how he was talking to you, I just feel like he's a player: "My sweet," "My dear," etc. When you were saying, "teenager needs" were you talking about his sexual needs? If so that kind of just makes it sound like you guys are on the same page a little... that you want to get to know him but you also wouldn't mind going a little further. Also he did tell you that none of his relationships last too long. I think he's trying to tell you something right off the bat.
Author sagirl1891 Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 Just from how he was talking to you, I just feel like he's a player: "My sweet," "My dear," etc. When you were saying, "teenager needs" were you talking about his sexual needs? If so that kind of just makes it sound like you guys are on the same page a little... that you want to get to know him but you also wouldn't mind going a little further. Also he did tell you that none of his relationships last too long. I think he's trying to tell you something right off the bat. Yes, 'teenager needs' means sexual needs. I feel kinda ridiculous because I kinda expected him to want to hang out with me when we got home (not even as anything serious like bf/gf, but just to hang out). I mean he was flirting with me so much! I texted him that I wanted to cash in on our dinner date and he responded "That can be arranged." but nothing more. I'm not gonna hold my breath, haha!
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